That's if you dont want to be single. Find a group or person you can give your time and devotion to short term or longterm. BTW this not only the key to happiness but will keep chemistry alive in any relationship. Give and serve others or the one you want to be with in life. Stop thinking about what they can do for you. Their looks, her or his job, his money, his entertainment and dinners, his estate, his time, his manhood...lol Guys dont want her to emasculate him. ;)
How bout getting to know someone BETTER BEFORE going out on a date with them. Phone, email, blogs...
If he or she finds out that you know its all about you and you know it and expect it, this will eventually burn them out and kill the relationship. Instead find someone who is a giver and serve each other. You will see how a relationship can really grow into something. Cause they cant wait to be with each other. Now finding that giving person who is not focused on what you do for them, is the real challenge. When it happens its pure chemistry! Two people who are not thinking about what the other can do for them. Not judging or criticizing the other. That will depend on your tolerance and expectations. Have fun trying.
That's if you dont want to be single.
Find a group or person you can give your time and devotion to short term or longterm. BTW this not only the key to happiness but will keep chemistry alive in any relationship. Give and serve others or the one you want to be with in life. Stop thinking about what they can do for you. Their looks, her or his job, his money, his entertainment and dinners, his estate, his time, his manhood...lol Guys dont want her to emasculate him. ;)
How bout getting to know someone BETTER BEFORE going out on a date with them. Phone, email, blogs...
If he or she finds out that you know its all about you and you know it and expect it, this will eventually burn them out and kill the relationship. Instead find someone who is a giver and serve each other. You will see how a relationship can really grow into something. Cause they cant wait to be with each other.
Now finding that giving person who is not focused on what you do for them, is the real challenge. When it happens its pure chemistry!
Two people who are not thinking about what the other can do for them. Not judging or criticizing the other. That will depend on your tolerance and expectations. Have fun trying.
I disagree. This state of mind with both parties can happen as soon as they meet or begin interacting. But because it is rare that two people alike will find each other, time and self discovery will have to play a role in developing the relationship to that point.
Viva
keep in mind that the term chemistry is a subjective term and may vary between two people attracted to each other. An instructor could teach a lesson in chemistry and the students could use that lesson to date each other in the class then your definition could be understood. But in the real world ones experience in relationships will formulate their understanding of the term chemistry and that will lead them to a mate who they can relate to. Then the two can see if their subjective understanding in regard to their own past experiences will promote their new relationship. For some it is more visual, for others its more emotional and others its more communication and compatibility overall. The magic occurs when two of the same mindset find each other and your interpretation of chemistry becomes a reality. Again that is rare but can happen immediately.
Quoting dannyspl:
I disagree. This state of mind with both parties can happen as soon as they meet or begin interacting. But because it is rare that two people alike will find each other, time and self discovery will have to play a role in developing the relationship to that point.
Viva
keep in mind that the term chemistry is a subjective term and may vary between two people attracted to each other. An instructor could teach a lesson in chemistry and the students could use that lesson to date each other in the class then your definition could be understood. But in the real world ones experience in relationships will formulate their understanding of the term chemistry and that will lead them to a mate who they can relate to. Then the two can see if their subjective understanding in regard to their own past experiences will promote their new relationship. For some it is more visual, for others its more emotional and others its more communication and compatibility overall. The magic occurs when two of the same mindset find each other and your interpretation of chemistry becomes a reality. Again that is rare but can happen immediately.
The chemistry that you spoke of is given and it rarely occurs, and it only happened at the most unexpected time. The chemistry would grow overtime if we know how to love unconditionally and give generously without expecting anything in return.
When we meet that person, naturally we could activate each other energy to flow and as a result it is fun to do anything or to do nothing. The kiss would be sweet, the talk would last to the wee hours, and the loving would be superb. It would last until eternity if we learn to survive the hard times together, a challenging task.
I once met that perfect person with whom we could intertwine as one in term of energy, but we did not share the same values in term of honesty, priorities in life, etc....
We really have to rethink our priorities and only worry one day at a time. This way we could embrace each day to the fullest and make the best of what we have. The ideal mate is a God sent if there is a purpose.
I disagree. This state of mind with both parties can happen as soon as they meet or begin interacting. But because it is rare that two people alike will find each other, time and self discovery will have to play a role in developing the relationship to that point.
Quoting VivaChau:
The chemistry that you spoke of is given and it rarely occurs, and it only happened at the most unexpected time. The chemistry would grow overtime if we know how to love unconditionally and give generously without expecting anything in return.
When we meet that person, naturally we could activate each other energy to flow and as a result it is fun to do anything or to do nothing. The kiss would be sweet, the talk would last to the wee hours, and the loving would be superb. It would last until eternity if we learn to survive the hard times together, a challenging task.
I once met that perfect person with whom we could intertwine as one in term of energy, but we did not share the same values in term of honesty, priorities in life, etc....
We really have to rethink our priorities and only worry one day at a time. This way we could embrace each day to the fullest and make the best of what we have. The ideal mate is a God sent if there is a purpose.
I disagree. This state of mind with both parties can happen as soon as they meet or begin interacting. But because it is rare that two people alike will find each other, time and self discovery will have to play a role in developing the relationship to that point.
Vicki Im sure you can answer your own question but since you asked for my opinion I will keep it short. Ive met many ladies from the personals and would go out with many of them. What Im looking for is a connection that one cant really explain. Its just there. It could be in the eyes, the response, the body language, the coffee...lol Im asking myself Would I make this person happy and content. On the first meeting that is tough. I guess its instinct based on who you are and how you feel at that time. She may think Im Mr Right because I meet her expectations of her ideal mate. But later she may change her mind cause she doesnt feel the connection anymore. Its really based on her emotions not any thing else. Well. wait... In the OC where I live its based on money most of the time then love...sadly. I think people let their emotions dictate where they go in a relationship way too soon. When their emotions change they are done. There is nothing else that motivates. That needs to change if one wants a real longterm partner. For example, My parents fell out of love many times but they had a committment, a spiritual bond and six kid bond that kept them together for 54 years. Today its a matter of conveinence. lol and please dont call me Dr Phil in PM ...hardly You will have no problem finding a guy with pics like that ;) Was that short?
Vicki Im sure you can answer your own question but since you asked for my opinion I will keep it short. Ive met many ladies from the personals and would go out with many of them. What Im looking for is a connection that one cant really explain. Its just there. It could be in the eyes, the response, the body language, the coffee...lol Im asking myself Would I make this person happy and content. On the first meeting that is tough. I guess its instinct based on who you are and how you feel at that time.
She may think Im Mr Right because I meet her expectations of her ideal mate. But later she may change her mind cause she doesnt feel the connection anymore. Its really based on her emotions not any thing else. Well. wait... In the OC where I live its based on money most of the time then love...sadly. I think people let their emotions dictate where they go in a relationship way too soon. When their emotions change they are done. There is nothing else that motivates. That needs to change if one wants a real longterm partner.
For example, My parents fell out of love many times but they had a committment, a spiritual bond and six kid bond that kept them together for 54 years. Today its a matter of conveinence. lol and please dont call me Dr Phil in PM ...hardly You will have no problem finding a guy with pics like that ;) Was that short?
One good thing to know while dating Never assume! Let them show you and prove to you what kind of character or substance they have. Women who assume he is Mr. Right, (BTW that is based purely on emotions or how you feel about him at that time) assume he is a good provider or giver, or assume they can change him over time are usually wrong.
And assuming can get really expensive for guys! I should know...lol
This is A lesson I have learned the hard way.Giving should always be mutual. BTY What is the difference between Mr. right and Mr. Right now from a mans perspective?You can not try and change or fix someone,what was the general attraction in the first place?Assuming is expensive for women as well trust me! I am very "open-hearted not likely to change; But after being on dating sites, I have come to realize the big difference between virtual and reality affections/or emotions toward A person.I have friends all over the world, some I may never meet, but care for and would be there for them. Then there are the friends(men) that you may end up meeting and building A connection with. I am not dating material especially for serial daters. But everything starts with the first " date" or "meet" .Because I am new to the dating concept , I ask you as A man what do you look for in a "date" that would interest you enough to "date/meet" the second and subsequent time?
Quoting dannyspl:
One good thing to know while dating Never assume! Let them show you and prove to you what kind of character or substance they have. Women who assume he is Mr. Right, (BTW that is based purely on emotions or how you feel about him at that time) assume he is a good provider or giver, or assume they can change him over time are usually wrong.
And assuming can get really expensive for guys! I should know...lol
This is A lesson I have learned the hard way.Giving should always be mutual. BTY What is the difference between Mr. right and Mr. Right now from a mans perspective?You can not try and change or fix someone,what was the general attraction in the first place?Assuming is expensive for women as well trust me! I am very "open-hearted not likely to change; But after being on dating sites, I have come to realize the big difference between virtual and reality affections/or emotions toward A person.I have friends all over the world, some I may never meet, but care for and would be there for them. Then there are the friends(men) that you may end up meeting and building A connection with. I am not dating material especially for serial daters. But everything starts with the first " date" or "meet" .Because I am new to the dating concept , I ask you as A man what do you look for in a "date" that would interest you enough to "date/meet" the second and subsequent time?
Thank you Pauline Just some wisdom Ive learned since my divorce. If she and I practiced this we would still be together cause she didnt put me first in her life and I stopped giving and withdrew because of it. Happy Mothers Day Moms do give alot I agree! I was referring to dating and building relationships here.
Thank you Pauline Just some wisdom Ive learned since my divorce. If she and I practiced this we would still be together cause she didnt put me first in her life and I stopped giving and withdrew because of it.
Happy Mothers Day Moms do give alot I agree! I was referring to dating and building relationships here.
One good thing to know while dating Never assume! Let them show you and prove to you what kind of character or substance they have. Women who assume he's right cause they feel he is Mr. Right, (BTW that is based purely on emotions or how you feel about him at that time) assume he is a good provider cause of his job or lifestyle or giver cause he is nice to you on that first meeting. Or assume they can change him over time are usually wrong.
And assuming can get really expensive (money wise)not emotionally, for guys! I should know...lol
One good thing to know while dating Never assume! Let them show you and prove to you what kind of character or substance they have. Women who assume he's right cause they feel he is Mr. Right, (BTW that is based purely on emotions or how you feel about him at that time) assume he is a good provider cause of his job or lifestyle or giver cause he is nice to you on that first meeting. Or assume they can change him over time are usually wrong.
And assuming can get really expensive (money wise)not emotionally, for guys! I should know...lol
An honest man WOW!I always give people the benefit of the doubt.I assume they are givers until proved otherwise. We all know what happens when we ass-u-me:)Happy Mothers Day Everyone!
An honest man WOW!I always give people the benefit of the doubt.I assume they are givers until proved otherwise. We all know what happens when we ass-u-me:)Happy Mothers Day Everyone!
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