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Posted on Fri, Sep 27, 2013 20:35

Some of you have known me for sometime on this site.  Many of you know me well enough to know that I'm a outspoken guy with morals and integrity.  So here's a little story that just happened.

 

I see this girl on this site that I find interesting.  She has a small photo, but it looks as though I might could find her attractive.  I read her profile and like what she wrote.  It seems that we have similar beliefs.  So I make a comment on her profile.  She is obviously a paying member so she emails me and ask for a photo. Well, many of you know that I'm not one to post photos or even share.  I'm willing to meet anyone in person, even if just for a few moments so that they can decide what they think of my looks.  I just don't like taking photos and rarely take a photo.  So back to the story.

 

I never really told her that I wouldn't send her a photo...but I guess in so many words I did.  So the emails stop a few days ago and I tell her I realize that since I will not send a photo that she will no longer be communication with me.  I understand this completely.  I do not fault her one bit in her decision.

 

So a few day pass, I go to the chat on this site.  I leave the room and go into the kitchen.  When I return, I have a IM from this woman.  She is asking me why I will not send her a photo.  I reply asking if she is still there.  She is not, but within a few minutes she replies. Saying it doesn't matter.  I reply back saying Okay, but I was hoping to talk to her.  She replies back that I will not give her a straight answer.  I didn't even have time to give her a answer.  But I'm cool if she doesn't want to talk to me...that is her choice.  I'm not pushy in any way.

 

 

But what did anger me is that it popped up on my screen that she blocked me. I did nothing to warrant her blocking me.  It kind of makes me feel bad since I always treat women with respect.  I'm never pushy with anyone.  I try to be a nice guy.  It's one thing if I was emailing her and harassing her, but I wasn't. I really can't understand why some people do this.

 

I do believe she is a nice woman, I just can't understand why she would block me when I've done nothing to her.  I guess it doesn't matter, but it kind of hurts my feelings, as I did nothing wrong.



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Posted on Tue, Mar 25, 2014 17:44

Quoting hollywoodesign:

As a woman, in my opinion, if someone isn't willing to share a phto, there is something wrong. It could be eveb dangerously wrong!! You might be a serial killer!

 



So let's think this out for a minute.  People that don't have a photo get very few responses, if any.  Now if someone was a serial killer looking for victims, wouldn't he or she put up a nice normal photo?  

 

Also, do you block people only because they don't or will not share a photo?  Or would you just say, I can't be interested if you don't share a photo.  

 

So you are saying something is wrong with me because I choose not to share my photo?  LOL  I'd say a few ladies on here would disagree, and one has met me in person, so you can ask her yourself.  Proof that your opinion is not correct in every case.



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Posted on Tue, Mar 25, 2014 16:36

As a woman, in my opinion, if someone isn't willing to share a phto, there is something wrong. It could be eveb dangerously wrong!! You might be a serial killer!

 



It's easy to look intelligent. Just think of something stupid to say, and don't say it!

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Posted on Mon, Nov 11, 2013 16:17

Quoting MCT921:

It's interesting the "blocking" that some people do - I have been blocked as well...still not understanding why - I can get into the details of the interaction we had but I guess thats neither here nor there - I just went on one day to drop him an email only to find out I was blocked - It's interesting really we had shared many text, photos, talk time and seen each other and then BLOCKED... No hard feelings here just wish I understood better... I've very upfront with who I am, what I am looking for, my photos are current, etc... - My age range for a man is 45 to 60 one would think that they would be able to communicate with the opposite sex a little better... (Here's the kicker...he still sends photos and text to me on my phone from time to time)... go figure

I've also had a gentleman block me because I did not respond to him within 3 days...I was sent a nasty email from him stating same and then he blocked me...WOW...When I tried to respond and let him know I had a family emergency and that was the reason for the delay - thats when I saw his email and just laughed out loud - Really what do some people think or do they -

Life happens to everyone and sometimes the timing is off - But I try my very best to be as respectful as I can to everyone so when I encounter things such as this is really is disenchanting...



LOL, after what you described, it seems my experience was rather mild. :-)



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Posted on Mon, Nov 11, 2013 10:07

It's interesting the "blocking" that some people do - I have been blocked as well...still not understanding why - I can get into the details of the interaction we had but I guess thats neither here nor there - I just went on one day to drop him an email only to find out I was blocked - It's interesting really we had shared many text, photos, talk time and seen each other and then BLOCKED... No hard feelings here just wish I understood better... I've very upfront with who I am, what I am looking for, my photos are current, etc... - My age range for a man is 45 to 60 one would think that they would be able to communicate with the opposite sex a little better... (Here's the kicker...he still sends photos and text to me on my phone from time to time)... go figure

I've also had a gentleman block me because I did not respond to him within 3 days...I was sent a nasty email from him stating same and then he blocked me...WOW...When I tried to respond and let him know I had a family emergency and that was the reason for the delay - thats when I saw his email and just laughed out loud - Really what do some people think or do they -

Life happens to everyone and sometimes the timing is off - But I try my very best to be as respectful as I can to everyone so when I encounter things such as this is really is disenchanting...



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Posted on Thu, Oct 10, 2013 19:03

Quoting lostinthe70s:

yeah..I'm sure you are not a creep, but a few have ruined it for the rest.

I personally don't get involved with someone who doesn't have a photo.

I agree..she should probably show a better one of herself, but in my experience, people like that are often timid or not that serious to find someone. They just like the attention from men.



LOL, I personally don't get involved with someone who doesn't have a photo, either.  What a hypocrite I am. :)

 

It wasn't the small photo, lack of photo or whatever that I'm complaining about.  It was the fact that I was blocked when I did nothing wrong.  I have a perfect right to share or not share a photo.  If I chose not to share and for that reason she was not interested, then we part ways without issue.  I didn't email her back or bother her in any way.  She IM me, then got pissed when I didn't share a photo...then immediately blocked me as if I were harassing her.  That's what I take issue with.  My issue is never that someone doesn't want to talk or whatever, because I don't post a photo.  I'm completely understanding of that.

 

No the real issue was this.  She actually though that I might be a good, honest guy that is who he says he is.  She was interested, but she feared that she would find me unattractive.  So it was a catch 22 for her.  When I didn't just immediately cave to her request, she became pissed and blocked me.  I know the score.  And to me it doesn't matter, it's just that I'm a gentleman and I felt insulted.  So for that reason, I posted this blog.  MM removed it, then I became upset with them.  Now they put it back up.  My intentions were 2 fold.  1. To say we shouldn't block members for no reason  2. If she sees this blog, let her know I feel that she was wrong.



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Posted on Thu, Oct 10, 2013 07:36

If you mind people asking for you photo just put one on line and then it's out there. Good or bad at least your being upfront. 



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Posted on Wed, Oct 09, 2013 23:56

yeah..I'm sure you are not a creep, but a few have ruined it for the rest.

I personally don't get involved with someone who doesn't have a photo.

I agree..she should probably show a better one of herself, but in my experience, people like that are often timid or not that serious to find someone. They just like the attention from men.



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Posted on Mon, Oct 07, 2013 16:17

Quoting lostinthe70s:

She is probably tired of deceitful men and you not showing yourself can come off creepy to some women. I mean you could be 400lbs and naked with no teeth. She has no idea. I've been there so I know, but I wouldn't have blocked you.


Hello Lost,

 

 

I agree totally.  Everything you said is correct, except I do wear clothes. :)  The blocking is what upset me.  IMO blocking should be reserved for someone that is harassing, not a guy that just doesn't have a pic and says good luck to you, then doesn't bother her again.  And honestly she didn't even give me a chance to say much before she did it.  And she contacted me, through chat, I didn't contact her. 

 

 

 

I guess why I got upset about it also, is that she had this little tiny photo.  I told her, I couldn't even tell what she looked like.  And she hasn't bothered to put up any more photos.  Not that I asked her to, as I wouldn't.  But what's the difference in no photo or a photo that you can hardly even tell what someone looks like.  And how am I even to know what she looks like or if it's a real photo?  The thing is, that I like what she wrote.  I liked what she stood for.  So I was interested.  I wanted to know who she was inside.  She showed me very quickly who she was on the inside. 

 

 

At some point I'm going to put up a photo. (unless I meet someone, which may happen)  I know I've said that many times.  I just hate taking photos.  Hoping met me in person.  On a couple of occasion in the blogs she stated that I'm not a troll (I believe that was her words).  There is a reason why I don't post photos, but it has nothing to do with no teeth, naked and 400lbs.  And, I'm not one of those deceitful men.  I believe there are a few on these blogs that will defend me???  If I asked nicely. :)  

 

 



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Posted on Mon, Oct 07, 2013 04:31

She is probably tired of deceitful men and you not showing yourself can come off creepy to some women. I mean you could be 400lbs and naked with no teeth. She has no idea. I've been there so I know, but I wouldn't have blocked you.



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