*It seems to me that these blogs have become forums instead of blogs..There used to be a difference, now I can't see one.
With topics ranging from squirters to penis size, I feel that the blogs have deteriorated to Jerry Springer level. When I first came on board to MM,the Blogs were intellectual and worth reading. Blogs are web journals.. a place to put ones thoughts, experiences and shared learning on a particular subject, a place to be educated. I don't think they are here for shock value.. that belongs in the forum.
The reason I joined MM was for the blogs. I thought that I could meet and speak to others who were intellectual, learn something new and contribute to the lives of others. When was the last time we discussed literature, or touched on travel, or spoke about what we do so that we can help each other network or support one another during the times we may need it.
Those of you who know me, know that I am consistent. I decided to take on line datingto a new level and I am running a tele-call on Tuesdays at 7:00 pm for those of you who want to have real time discussions around self improvement ( not NOT nips and tucks) smile, communication and on line dating...Coach Frankie
okay- a light and silly blog..
I have had many pets throughout my life from horses, cows, dogs to guinea pigs and birds. ( i was going to be a vet)..smile
I am not sure if there is any longer a delination between pet and or baby names.In light of the recent Hollywood crop of babies we have: 'apple, moses, homer, shiloh,india, asia, ireland, brooklyn, madison, phinneas, coco, d'artagnan, Kal-el, Tallulah, scout, mercedes, you get the idea..I can't see my ever naming my cow India- although in retrospect that might be funny, but I did name her Coco..not after Chanel but Cocoa puffs, I had a guinea pig named Shiloh, so i guess what I want to know is what did you name your dog?
Mine is Roxy and Samson.. sounds like a stripper and a guy with long hair.. lol..CF
the Vagina Monologues was an empowering play about women for women. It was a series of monologues played by a variety of women who came on and off stage to weave their story throughtout the performance.
Every monologue somehow relates to the vagina, be it through sex, love, rape, menstruation, mutilation, masturbation, birth, orgasm, the variety of names for the vagina, or simply as a physical aspect of the female body. A recurring theme throughout the piece is the vagina as a tool of female empowerment, and the ultimate embodiment of individuality
It seems that we need to remind ourselves of this power in the wake of recent postings on this topic by a few boys.
I must say that I was astounded, saddened and offended at the graphic and inappropriate descriptor these boys use to describe the multitudes of women they have slept with, especially given their ages.. Coach Frankie
I have a FREE BMW to give away.. who wants it? Who???? Ok going , going .. GONE.. to the highest bidder. Was that you? No? NOt fair you say?
Whoever said Life is not Fair, was absolutely correct. Since we have all heard this and know this to be a truism, why then are we always so surprised when it is not?
One of my pet peeves on these sites is to read the following
" i have posted a picture so I need to see yours, its only fair". I have to say, this drives me crazy. I am not sure why and I apologize to the many who have this on their profile.
Why didn't we say How unfair it is to be looking for someone at this stage of our life? How unfair it is to be this age and compete with women 15 years younger for the same men. How about how unfair it is that most of the time, men NEVER join these sites and women are the ones who pay so that they can recieve mail.
Wanna know what I think is unfair? NOTHING...smile.. yes that is true. All is fair, because we chose to be here. We chose by either our actions or inactions the life we are now living. No, life may not be fair. Good people get hurt and bad people live on..would it be fair to say.."that's life"..yup
How about becoming old in the North American culture? Is that fair? NOPE! I would prefer to be from some Asian family as I get older.At least i would be respected for my wisdom..smile.. Is Life fair that I was hit, that Hirosho has cancer or that Erica's friend recently died? Maybe not. I think we waste our time worrying about stuff being Fair or NOT instead of being grateful for what we have, choosing to make do with what we do have, and learning to be happy and making the best of bad situations( staying positive)
Keeping a sense of humour is probably the best thing you can do to arm yourself against an Unfair world. You could complain..thats where the BMW comes in.. BITCH, MOAN and WHINE- you have two minutes- GO!!!!!
Pardon? no ones listening..Okay I want to be fair.. I am.... smile. CF
THE PLANE IS ON ITS WAY TO HOUSTON WHEN A BLONDE IN
> >ECONOMY CLASS GETS UP AND MOVES TO THE FIRST CLASS SECTION AND SITS DOWN!
> >THE FLIGHT ATTENDANT WATCHES HER DO THIS AND ASKS TO SEE HER TICKET.
> >SHE THEN TELLS THE BLONDE THAT SHE PAID FOR ECONOMY CLASS AND THAT SHE
> >WILL HAVE TO GO BACK AND SIT THERE.
> >THE BLONDE REPLIES, "I'M BLOND, I'M BEAUTIFUL, I'M GOING TO HOUSTON
> >AND I'M STAYING RIGHT HERE."
> >THE FLIGHT ATTENDANT GOES INTO THE COCKPIT AND TELLS THE PILOT AND THE
> >CO-PILOT THAT THERE IS A BLONDE SITTING IN FIRST CLASS THAT BELONGS IN
> >ECONOMY AND WON'T MOVE BACK TO HER SEAT.
> >THE CO-PILOT GOES BACK TO THE BLONDE AND TRIES TO EXPLAIN THAT BECAUSE
> >SHE ONLY PAID FOR ECONOMY SHE WILL HAVE TO LEAVE AND RETURN TO HER SEAT.
> >THE BLONDE REPLIES, "I'M BLONDE, I'M BEAUTIFUL, I'M GOING TO HOUSTON
> >AND I'M STAYING RIGHT HERE."
> >THE CO-PILOT TELLS THE PILOT THAT HE PROBABLY SHOULD HAVE THE POLICE
> >WAITING WHEN THEY LAND TO ARREST THIS BLONDE WOMAN WHO WON'T LISTEN
> >TO REASON.
> >THE PILOT SAYS, "YOU SAY SHE IS A BLONDE? I'LL HANDLE THIS. I'M
> >MARRIED TO A BLONDE. I SPEAK BLONDE."
> >HE GOES BACK TO THE BLONDE AND WHISPERS IN HER EAR. SHE SAYS, "OH,
> >I'M SORRY." AND GETS UP AND GOES BACK TO HER SEAT IN ECONOMY.
> >THE FLIGHT ATTENDANT AND CO-PILOT ARE AMAZED AND ASKS HIM WHAT HE SAID
> >TO MAKE HER MOVE WITHOUT ANY FUSS.
> >I TOLD HER, " FIRST CLASS ISN'T GOING TO HOUSTON ! "
The other day I noticed a post on another site by a very pretty young woman who happened to be in a wheel chair. She was asking WHY she could have wonderful conversations with men and then as soon as she mentions she is in a wheel chair- they take a hike never to be heard from again. She apparently has full function and feeling and felt that if even ONE of the guys would just meet her, that they might overcome their fear/shallowness of going out with her. I don't know this woman but I do know another woman who became paralyzed 3 years ago in a riding accident.She is absolutely gorgeous and now lives in her chair, she has no feeling below her waist. She skis, she has had her antique sports car adapted so she can go with her club on trips, an amazing woman. It funny but I happened to have two dates with men who BOTH dated her as well. Special guys for sure.
Some of you know that I was in a motorcycle accident. If you don't, well suffice it to say that I broke every major bone from the waist down. It will be 3 yrs. in August. I am walking agan but did spend some time in a wheel chair. I learned a big lesson during that time. When You are in a wheel chair, you are invisible. People are afraid to look at you because you might talk to them. They might become like you. It was very strange...but this is NOT the point of this blog. Self worth is.
Yesterday I was speaking to a gentleman who told me that he didn't think that he could have gone through all that I had been through. I will admit it has been challenging. He said he probably would have killed himself. I thought to myself you have got to be kidding".He said that if he couldn't be the way he was before the accident then he didn't want to live. Wow..of course the thought that immediately went through my mind was that he didn't think I should be here, that I am worthless too then. We hung up the phone and I didn't really give it to much more thought. I know that it has made going out a bit more challenging but I didn't think I was ready to be put out to pasture just yet..smile.. Well a few hours passed and he called me back. I guess he had thought about his words- words are very powerful are they not, and he said 'I hope you didn't think that I meant that you should kill yourself".. " I just meant it about me". Well what is the difference really? If he felt worthless than that meant I was worthless in his eyes as well. Now I am no where near as challenged as that young lady in the wheel chair, so i can only imagine how brave and courageous she is to wake up each day and not only keep her self esteem up but fight for her self worth against a society that can't see worth where there is not perfection. Wow, we live in a shallow world.. i found this today and like many coincidences in the universe, it really wasn't..smile
Sometimes we just need to be reminded!
A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20.00 bill.
In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like this $20 bill?"
Hands started going up.
He said, "I am going to give this $20 to one of you
but first, let me do this.
He proceeded to crumple up the $20 dollar bill.
He then asked, "Who still wants it?"
Still the hands were up in the air.
Well, he replied, "What if I do this?"
And he dropped it on the
ground and started to grind it into
the floor with his shoe.
He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty.
"Now, who still wants it?"
Still the hands went into the air.
My friends, we have all learned
a very valuable lesson.
No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it
because it did not decrease in value.
It was still worth $20.
Many times in our lives,
we are dropped, crumpled,
and ground into the dirt
by the decisions we make and
the circumstances that come
We feel as though we are worthless.
But no matter what has happened
or what will happen, you will
never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled
or finely creased, you are still priceless to
those who DO LOVE you.
The worth of our lives comes
not in what we do or who we know,
but by WHO WE ARE.
You are special -
Don't EVER forget it."
If you do not pass this on,
you may never know the
lives it touches, the hurting hearts it speaks to,
or the hope that it can bring.
Count your blessings, not your problems.
And remember: amateurs built
the ark, professionals built the Titanic.
If God brings you to it - He will bring you through it.
It is my understanding that most religeons have a day of atonement. One perfect day that a human being can ask forgiveness from his fellow man and receive it. I would Like to make Sunday our Day of Antonement and Amnesty.
If you would sincerely like to atone for some past indescretion and behaviour you are not proud of then please think about joining me on Sunday July 2 for Amnesty Day.
ASK for forgiveness with sincerity AND it is my belief and hope that all will BE FORGIVEN !
I know that when we take responsibility for our actions, we gain our power back. We also get our self respect back.
I am not one to hold a grudge. If I get angry, It is a flash fire and then it is OVER. I never bring it up again.
I would love for all of you to think about atonement and amnesty.
I am really tired of reading nasty stuff that is designed to hurt. We have such a great opportunity to help one another and network on here, why do we use our energy for evil when it could be used for good?
Paupers and Princes, Princesses and Plebians...it doesn't matter what card you carry, how much money is in your bank account, or what you drive cause in the end, you won't be taking it with you.
Please join me on Sunday July 2.06
I had the pleasure of having a man create an amazing dinner for me that really was one of the most memorable I have ever eaten. I am NOT a gourmand but I have eaten at some pretty swanky places and honestly his dinner was a 10!
We had Cornmeal crusted salmon fillets, avec chix/spinach risotto, asperagus/almonds and spinach salad w/raspberry blueberry dressing...yummy...
how about you? Best date dinner
Is anyone on here wishing for a different life, job, challenge, mate, etc but are afraid to leave your comfort zone to make it happen? What is your greatest Fear?
Fear of success, Fear of Failure or Fear of Change?
Let us know, and maybe we can help support you through it...my pleasure..Coach F
For those of you who have never spoken to Fairuz, think of the energizer bunny mating with TAZ.. not that she is anything other than sweet but man she will make you dizzy with her infectious laugh, high spirits and love. She speaks a mile a minute but never mind..with her delightful accent- a mix of parisian french/ and Her Magisties english, it is a seductive and sexy blend. Fairuz has an engaging personality , high emmotions and a joie de vivre unlike any I have EVER encountered. This woman will wrap you in a delightful cloud filled with expensive french perfume, champagne bubbles and LOVE.. pure and simple..this woman LOVES life, she loves PEOPLE and she is a tiger when it comes to defending her friends.
NOw I don't know if any of you are watching the
Soccer or NOT, but FAiruz is. She is Queen Cheerleader for France. So help her out and keep cheering for her favorite team. Do you know of ANYONE else who calls her friends around the WORLD when their favorite TEAM WINS? WEll that is OUR Fairuz...lol... I can only say that if you haven't made her acquaintance you are missing out on one heck of a fun and beautiful woman.. inside as well as out.
GO FRANCE...GO FAIRUZ
In a hospital's Intensive Care Unit, patients always died in the same bed, on Sunday morning, at about 11:00 a.m., regardless of their medical condition.
This puzzled the doctors and some even thought it had something to do with the supernatural. No one could solve the mystery as to why the deaths occurred around 11:00 a.m. on Sunday, so a worldwide team of experts was assembled to investigate the cause of the incidents.
The next Sunday morning, a few minutes before 11:00 a.m., all of the doctors and nurses nervously waited outside the ward to see for themselves what the terrible phenome! non was all about. Some were holding wooden crosses, prayer books, and other holy objects to ward off the evil spirits.
Just when the clock struck 11:00, Pookie Johnson, the part-time Sunday janitor, entered the ward and unplugged the life support system so he could use the vacuum cleaner.
Having a Bad Day??
The average cost of rehabilitating a seal after the Exxon Valdez Oil spill in! Alaska was $80,000.00. At a special ceremony, two of the most expensively saved animals were being released back into the wild amid cheers and applause from onlookers. A minute later, in full view, a killer whale ate them both.
Still think you are having a Bad Day???
A woman came home to find her husband in the kitchen shaking frantically, almost in a dancing frenzy, with some kind of wire running from his waist towards the electric kettle. Intending to jolt him away from the deadly current, she whacked him with a handy plank of wood, breaking his arm in two places. Up to that moment, he had been happily listening to his Walkman.
STILL think you're having a Bad Day??
Two animal rights defenders were protesting the cruelty of sending pigs to a slaughterhouse in Bonn, Germany. Suddenly, all two thousand pigs broke loose and escaped through a broken fence, stampeding madly. The two helpless protesters were trampled to death.
What?? STILL having a Bad Day???
Iraqi terrorist Khay Rahnajet didn't pay enough postage on a letter bomb. It came back with "Return to Sender" stamped on it. Forgetting it was the bomb, he opened it and was blown to bits.
There now, feeling Better ?
It seems to me that every month we get into these little tizzies on the blogs where a witch hunt takes place. I suppose no one learns from these because it happens with the new folks and there is no continuity or history from the old. Please let it suffice to say there are some of us that do REMEMBEr.. je me souviens.. and I for one, would rather talk about something of importance. Who cares about whatever their name is.. it is not worth the adrenalin rush.. lol.
I Challenge you all to drop the HE said /she said and come up with an interesting and useful topic.
We have had many examples of pathos on here..Lovers/ friends who have died, a dog who wasn't treated because of money, husbands who terrorized their wives, and many who have lost their dreams.. this is one side of life.. but there is another side.. a joyful side.. tell me, what day brought your greatest joy?
This is one of the most famous questions in History.
Maybe it's the litmus test for dating? What do you think? If you partner wasn't there or alive, AND YOU WERE, then maybe you should think about all the other events that you can't share.. smile..
anyway.. i was on my way back to public school after lunch.. YOU?
Every Relationship is built upon trust, whether it is a love match or an advice columnist.
I have not been quiet about the fact that I am writing a book and asking members to contribute their stories and experiences to me. I am proud to say that instead of disdain, I am treated with respect. Why? Well I can only assume that I have developed trust with the natives. I am not bashing the members, I am respectful of their choices and I give as well as take.
All relationships need trust in order to grow. Trust is not developed overnight or because you want it. It is earned.
If anyone in here wants to be taken seriously, then you must go slow, and allow folks to get used to you and to know you.
Some of us have had our difficulties here in the past, but good old fashioned common sense, manners and big hearts have enabled us to overcome our ego's and the resentment we felt towards another. In time, we can SEE through the many postings that a real, genuine kind person lives beneath the words.
My ex used to DEMAND that I respect him. Respect like trust is earned. It cannot be shoved down someones throat just because you say you want it and deserve it. You don't. Take your time, develop the trust, give more than you take, and eventually , you will be taken seriously.
I am extremely proud and happy to announce that Will and I have been able to work through our differences and come out the other side with respect and forgiveness in tow. Will extended the olive branch to me and I was more than happy to accept it graciously. Now i want to pass it on. Hello Match Point,WElcome Back. Please accept the olive branch .. . Coach
ONe of the reasons that we aren't successful at this dating 'thing' whether online or not, is the fact that we tend to date the same person over and over again. Think of it as a long running play that should have had the curtain close on it a long time ago.
How many of you have actually recognized your pattern and consciously changed it?
Harvel Hendricks talks about the the Imago theory. This is where the person we choose is like one or both of our parents.
You may have a friend who continually finds themselves in abusive relationships. You both wonder why? Well the reason for that may be that it feels like home. If you had a lot of yelling and screaming in your home growing up, and you find that this is a pattern that presents itself in most of your relationships, (even though your conscious mind states you are NEVER going to have that in your life again) ask yourself is this all about? Where have you FELT like this before? Keep going back in your relationships and life until you find the VERY FIRST time you can remember feeling this way. I can almost guarantee you that you find yourself remembering a scene from your childhood. You see, the arguing and shouting feels like home. It's actually comfortable in its familiarity.
How do you break the cycle? Well the first thing you need to do, is recognize it and admit it to yourself.
That is more than half the battle. Then ask yourself " is this something you want in your life or not?
If not, then its time to do something about it. Learn to recognize the signs, listen to your early warning system..aka intuition, red flags, gut feeling, and get out of the situation immediately.
Consciously begin to choose partners who are NOTHING like anyone you have ever dated before. Try a different taste experience and see how that goes.
Begin to tune in to your body and recognize what you like and don't like. If you are co-dependent, get help. Until you are able to be content on your own, you will always be a prisoner of your own mind.
Isn't it time to take that baggage out of storage and dump it? It's old. You don't need it hanging around anymore.. smile.
Reward yourself for your efforts with a healthy relationship that supports you and fulfills you.
Long runs are for great performances not poor ones. CoachF
I have to say that after reading several blogs referring to gold diggers and how to protect men from these evil woman, even the recent one asking Should men hide their money, the topic is soooooo ludicrous on a site that promotes Millionaire Matches. Honestly how STUPID is everyone?
You JOINED a site called MILLIONAIRE MATCH. I bet half of you men joined the +150 side.. hahahaa. there is NO difference you know if you join -150, lol
Why are you ON a site that promotes the fact that you have wealth and then condemn others who join looking to match up.
There is something so twisted with your thinking.
If you don't want woman to want you for your money, then get off the site and stop bragging about all the things you have and others don't!! Simple.
This site exists so that the egocentric can show off.. Period.
I doubt that many people actually MEET on this site. I have seen more catch and release than anything else here.
In my experience, if you want to meet men, sign up on a different site. If you wnat to express your opinions then stay here and blog...smile..
The greatest benefit I have received from joining this site is all the FANTASTIC women I have connected with. Smart, sassy, intelligent women. Why can't you men see what I see.. coach
OK, this may be a delicate subject for a few of you but it's something that I just have to bring up, Do you BARE all down there!! You know, south of the belly button.
I remember when I was a kid that women had to be shaved, shhhh 'down there' when they had babies. My girlfriends and I used to whisper and giggle about it. When we played house and someone had a baby, we used to pretend to shave them..hahaha IAs funny as that was, it was also a great source of angst and embarrassment. OMG How could we let someone down there to shave us?
Now a-days, not only are women intentionally getting rid of their pubic hair but they are taking the plunge in varying degrees. There is the Bikini wax that takes a good chunk off from each side so that NO hair can escape while wearing a bikini. Next is the Landing Strip. I have never figured out what the STRIP was for, but I guess its some sort of homing device or guide to the nether regions. Then we have my personal favorite The Brazilian,where any trace of hair is commandeered and waxed out on sight, leaving one soft, smooth, and silky girlfriend. I know a lady who always goes out on the night of her brazilian without underwear because she loves the feeling of the bare skin and it makes here feel sexy.
Men are not immune from hair removal either. More and more men are shaving themeselves hairless from their face to their hair free erogenous zones.
When did this phenonmen start? More importantly WHY? I am pretty sure in the 80's we had pubic hair. The nineties- well I was married so was only into bikini's then..lol.. a bit out of touch, and coming into the 2000's the 'bare your body 'look became a serious art form. It surprises me how many folks are concerned with removal of hair.
Do you remember when you were an adolescent waiting and watching nightly for any hair to appear? Now we watch it leave our heads and shave or wax the rest off.
Who started this trend anyway?
The other day I was speaking to my brother a physician who specializes in hair replacements and we were talking about the application of his field. He told me that he was going to be training an OBGYN so he could do it as a second career. I had to laugh at that as a visual. Well guess what, it gets even stranger. He said there are some folks who want you to bring back the good ole days by transplanting a healthy crop of new hair to their depleted gardens. Imagine the majesty of a thick full head of HAIR down THERE!!! NOw THAT's Bizarre. coach f
There are many folks in here and certainly on other sites that have created on line persona's for themselves and are reaping the compliments and attention that their "real life" counterpart would NEVER receive in a million years. This stroking of their ego and soothing of their soul is very seductive for them. I suppose that this creature that they have created and the fantasy world they live in, is no different than someone taking on a role in lets say Dungeons and Dragons. It is a role play where the lines of reality and fantasy start to become blurred.
They forget that they are a greying 250 pounds , 5'5" male or female and are so sure that they have fallen in love and its for real, that they are compelled to take the next step and meet their LoVE..Surley both of you must be feeling the good vibes and hence those horror date stories you all have experienced from time to time, are born. Now this was a drastic example, but accurate non the less. Next in line is the man or woman who lies about their age, has a photo of themselves up from 10 years ago or better yet of their daughter or son, and then says OOOPS.. I have something to tell you as you are walking them to your car. Now the whole tone of your evening is ruined. This person lied to you. What else was a lie?
Should these folks be outed? Do you feel compelled to shout from the rooftops and tell everyone around you who they really are?
If we open that can of worms where does it stop? What about the woman who turns psycho on your first date?- You recognize a manic depressive. How about the guy who doesn't leave a tip, or the woman who is rude to the wait staff and could be a walking advertisment for Crash- she is a racist to the extreme? How have they hidden this stuff so well? Your date orders 10 appetizers while you go to the bathroom OR he forgets his wallet- oops!!! smile
Where do we start tattling or do you think it is saving the next person? Is that our job? I bet a few of us have Ex's that would like to 'save' the next person from us too.. smile.
To tell or not to tell.. that is the question at hand today.. smile
for those of you who want to kiss and tell in private
I would love to hear your REAL LIFE experiences in this area/. I will be honest and tell you that I am writing a book.
I would especially LOVE to speak to the person who lied and hear your side of things. I am easy to find.. coach frankie
Well it seems that all the usual suspects are back in the fold... smile. I want to thank ALL of the gracious MM members male and female who contacted me and requested that I come out of my hiatus and return to the Blogging World of MM. Thank you .. coach