Well, my time here has been short but it's been fruitless. Many winks, many emails . . . no love.
MM has been interesting to say the least and it's not as if I'm not taking new perspectives with me. But sticking around is not going to happen and on August 5, my membership is up. I won't be renewing as I'm going to look for love in other places.
To those that were encouraging and uplifting, a heartfelt thank you.
To the rest, best of luck in your searches for a life-long partner.
Another misunderstood, underrated, and often misjudged man has left the building. But I go with hope and a zeal to find Miss Right. Good bye, everyone.
There is nothing wrong with being passionate about something that you hold near and dear to heart. I know I have had a couple outbursts about things that strike a peculiar cord with me but I certainly mean no harm. As with much about me, my bark is bigger than my bite . . . and no, I don't bite . . . well, too hard. ;)
But we all have things that mean something deep to us and I think holding on to that passion is what is more admirable than what is right or wrong or even different. Everyone has something strange, different, interesting, or off-the-wall about them and embracing their ability to express it is far more important.
In the case of divorce, irreconcilable differences is the #1 reason to break off a marriage. In simple terms, he likes blue, she likes red; neither can agree on which to choose and so determine that it's the end of things. For me, however, I see two people that have found a difference that with love and care, can create a new bond because now the other can appreciate the likes of one. Meeting in the middle isn't about combining ideas and differences into a mix-mash of an idea . . . it's about setting aside differences and just focusing on respect and admiration.
Just some rambling thoughts I had tonight . . . thought I'd share.
Think you're smart? What does this mean?
Qui vult dare parva non debet magna rogare.
Oh, and it's sort-of a motto I keep for myself with regard to relationships I have. It's a nice way to keep myself in check. ;)
Couldn't stop with just a few geographical facts, so here's some odd ones for you:
The expletive, "Holy Toledo," refers to Toledo, Spain, which became an outstanding Christian cultural center in 1085.
The idiom "pillar of salt" means to have a stroke, or to become paralyzed and dead.
The last thing to happen is the ultimate. The next-to-last is the penultimate, and the second-to-last is the antepenultimate.
The phrase "raining cats and dogs" originated in 17th Century England. During heavy downpours of rain, many of these poor animals unfortunately drowned and their bodies would be seen floating in the rain torrents that raced through the streets. The situation gave the appearance that it had literally rained "cats and dogs" and led to the current expression.
The phrase "sleep tight" originated when mattresses were set upon ropes woven through the bed frame. To remedy sagging ropes, one would use a bed key to tighten the rope.
The phrase "rule of thumb" is derived from an old English law which stated that you couldn't beat your wife with anything wider than your thumb.
The plastic things on the end of shoelaces are called aglets.
The ridges on the sides of US coins are called reeding or milling. They were added during the Cowboy era because certain crooks would shave the silver off the edges to rip off the recipient of the coin. Back then, coins were smelted from pure silver as opposed to the mix of metals today.
The right side of a boat was called the starboard side due to the fact that the astronavigators used to stand out on the plank (which was on the right side) to get an unobstructed view of the stars. The left side was called the port side because that was the side that you put in on at the port.
The side of a hammer is a cheek.
The symbol on the "pound" key (#) is called an octothorpe.
The term "devil's advocate" comes from the Roman Catholic Church. When deciding if someone should be sainted, a devil's advocate is always appointed to give an alternative view.
The term "dog days" has nothing to do with dogs. It dates back to Roman times, when it was believed that Sirius, the Dog Star, added its heat to that of the sun from July 3 to August 11, creating exceptionally high temperatures. The Romans called the period dies canicular, or "days of the dog."
The term "honeymoon" is derived from the Babylonians who declared mead, a honey-flavored wine, the official wedding drink, stipulating that the bride's parents be required to keep the groom supplied with the drink for the month following the wedding.
The term "throw one's hat in the ring" comes from boxing, where throwing a hat into the ring once signified a challenge. Today it nearly always signifies political candidacy.
The term "the whole 9 yards" came from W.W.II fighter pilots in the South Pacific. When arming their airplanes on the ground, the .50 caliber machine gun ammo belts measured exactly 27 feet, before being loaded into the fuselage. If the pilots fired all their ammo at a target, it got "the whole 9 yards."
The term, "It's all fun and games until someone loses an eye" is from Ancient Rome. The only rule during wrestling matches was, "No eye gouging." Everything else was allowed, but the only way to be disqualified is to poke someone's eye out.
The two lines that connect your top lip to the bottom of your nose are known as the philtrum.
The white part of your fingernail is called the lunula.
The ZIP in Zip-code stands for "Zoning Improvement Plan."
Theodore Roosevelt was the only U.S. president to deliver an inaugural address without using the word "I". Abraham Lincoln, Franklin D. Roosevelt and Dwight D. Eisenhower tied for second place, using "I" only once in their inaugural addresses.
A "Blue Moon" is the second full moon in a calendar month (it is rarely blue).
A ghost writer pens an anonymous book.
A poem written to celebrate a wedding is called an epithalamium.
A speleologist studies caves.
Anagrams amused the ancient Greeks, Romans and Hebrews, and were popular during the Middle Ages.
Ballistics is the science that deals with the motion of projectiles.
Cannibalism, eating human flesh, is also called anthropophagy.
Clans of long ago that wanted to get rid of their unwanted people without killing them used to burn their houses down - hence the expression "to get fired."
DNA stands for Deoxyribonucleicacid.
In 1945 a computer at Harvard malfunctioned and Grace Hopper, who was working on the computer, investigated, found a moth in one of the circuits and removed it. Ever since, when something goes wrong with a computer, it is said to have a bug in it.
In the 19th century, craftsmen who made hats were known to be excitable and irrational, as well as to tremble with palsy and mix up their words. Such behavior gave rise to the familiar expression "mad as a hatter". The disorder, called hatter's shakes, was caused by chronic mercury poisoning from the solution used to treat the felt. Attacking the central nervous system, the toxin led to behavioral symptoms.
In the Middle Ages, young men and women drew names from a bowl to see who their valentines would be. They would wear these names on their sleeves for one week. To wear your heart on your sleeve now means that it is easy for other people to know how you are feeling.
No word in the English language rhymes with month, orange, silver, and purple.
Oddly, no term existed for "homosexuality" in ancient Greece - there were only a variety of expressions referring to specific homosexual roles. According to several linguists, the word "homosexual" was not coined until 1869 by the Hungarian physician Karoly Maria Benkert.
Poor whites in Florida and Georgia are called "crackers." They got the name from their principal staple food, cracked corn.
The "O" when used as a prefix in Irish surnames means "descendant of."
The "y" in signs reading "ye olde.." is properly pronounced with a "th" sound, not "y". The "th" sound does not exist in Latin, so ancient Roman occupied (present day) England used the rune "thorn" to represent "th" sounds. With the advent of the printing press the character from the Roman alphabet which closest resembled thorn was the lower case "y".
The ancient Romans built such an excellent system of roads that the saying arose "all roads lead to Rome," that is, no matter which road one starts a journey on, he will finally reach Rome if he keeps on traveling. The popular saying came to mean that all ways or methods of doing something end in the same result, no method being better than another.
The correct response to the Irish greeting, "Top of the morning to you," is "and the rest of the day to yourself."
Just a few interesting geographical facts:
The Canary Islands are misnamed: The Canary Islands in the Atlantic Ocean off the coast of Africa are misnamed. The Romans called them Canariae Insulai, which means dog islands. They used this name because of the many canines they found there. But for centuries people have mistakenly believed the islands were named for the canary bird. In fact, the canary bird, also found on these islands, gets its name from the Latin Canaria, pertaining to the dog.
Greenland: The largest island in the world, got its name not because it has lush green fields which the name implies, but rather because people were purposely misled to believe that it had greenery, or good place to grow crop to make a good living. Viking explorers called the frozen island in the Arctic Circle Greenland to attract settlers, who otherwise might have been scared off. However, only the coastal area turns green and even this greening occurs solely during Greenland's brief summer. But long after the Vikings had passed and their subterfuge had been discovered, the erroneous label remained as the island's official name.
West Indies: The islands that today constitute the West Indies got their name from Christopher Columbus, who mistakenly called the area Indies because he thought that they were part of the Indies island of Asia.
Cleveland: The largest city in Ohio, one of the leading industrial centers of the United States, was founded in 1796 by a surveyor for the Connecticut Land Company. His name was Moses Cleaveland, and a village formed on the site he had surveyed along the southern shore of Lake Erie was named after him. But in 1831 a newspaper printer misspelled the name, dropping the a from Cleaveland. The village now grown into a city has been known as Cleveland -without the a- every since. Interestingly, residents of Cleveland lovingly refer to their city as the mistake by the lake, but not necessarily because of the typographical error.
1. Men, in general, have not lost their ability to be romantic but are either a)too lazy to be romantic or b) more often than not, are not inspired enough by the woman they are with. However, there are exceptions to the general population of men that actually enjoy being romantic and a gentleman regardless.
2. Men aren't as dumb as some women may wish to immediately excuse their issues with. Relationships are a two way road and sadly, a lot of women do a lot of "he doesn't do this for me" or "he never does that for me." Perhaps your man didn't do those things for you because he didn't feel you deserved it. Instead of blaming him, perhaps discovering what you could have improved on first is the better route to take. Then again, this is the age where finger-pointing is quite popular. Oops, I spilled some McD's coffee on my crotch, I'll be right back after I sue them.
3. Most men actually like cuddling and doing romantic things. If you're with someone who doesn't, they are the rare exception . . . not the other way around. What's that? That's every man you've dated? You have poor taste in men, then.
4. Almost all men are just as--if not more--self-conscious as women about their looks and about how accepted they are. They just go about dealing with it in their own way which will never be as you would handle it.
5. Those macho players you keep running into at the bar and wonder why "all men" are jerks? . . . perhaps it's the type of environment you're meeting men in instead of those few members of our gender representing us as a whole. The man you should be with and want to be with won't be found at the end of the bar or on the dance floor.
6. More often, men are concerned about their partner's feelings and pleasing them than most would say or like to think. It's a shame that on the flip side, most men are considered selfish when it's actually quite the opposite.
7. Nearly every man will compliment a women on their beauty and looks first when they are interested in getting to know you before saying something on a deeper level. This is a scientific fact. But getting a compliment no matter how it's phrased does not mean he's being a pig and wants to get laid.
8. Deep down, nearly every man wants you to be with him sexually because you truly like or love him and want to express that. As much as we are stereotyped to be more apt to have sex because of physical desires, we actually do have emotion ones that only some men choose to ignore; but they are the vast minority.
9. When a man compliments you about something you would tend to disagree with within yourself . . . actually thank him and believe him. Who else are you trying to please? Stop saying you're the if he's telling you you're not! When you do this, you slowly push him away for not believing him . . . and it doesn't matter what you meant, that's what he hears.
10. Putting on a J-Lo dress and a ton of make-up actually doesn't hide your insecurity to a man . . . it only encourages the vast minority of men that are pigs to think you're an easy target. Though there may be times where dolling up is appropriate, most honest men want to see you for you . . . not your assets.
With all the recent negativity on here, I just thought I'd post that I'm a real person, I breath, am wearing shorts and a t-shirt right now, just had dinner, am working on some graphic artistry, and am listening to Lisa Gerrard while I type this.
No one I know that is fake has emailed me or winked at me and though many have not returned emails, it doesn't bother me. I've been honored to meet some very wonderful women (date or no date) and I will never give up hope that meeting someone special will happen soon. You're welcome to send me a note if you need proof that this fair-weather blogger is a real person and is the person in the profile. Otherwise, have a great weekend and don't forget that the glass is half full!
Finding someone special and dating someone new can be frustrating. You want someone to respect you and want you for "you" but it can be rough getting past the initial stages. Sometimes people aren't completely honest or deliberately lie, some are not who they said at all, and some are genuinely who you seek. It's not easy figuring it out and sometimes you just have to take risks to find it. Here's some obvious but hopefully encouraging words from Wikipedia about hope:
Hope is an emotional belief in the possibility of positive outcomes related to events and circumstances within one's personal life. Hope implies a certain amount of perseverance ? i.e., believing that something is possible even when there is some evidence to the contrary. Beyond the basic definition, usage of the term hope follows some basic patterns which distinguish its usage from related terms:
Faith - Hope is subordinate to faith in that while hope is emotional, faith carries a divinely-inspired and informed form of positive belief. Hope is typically contrasted with despair, and because despair connotes an ignorance of religious faith, hope likewise carries a connotation being informed, when compared to despair. (In some religions, despair is considered to be a sin.) In the Christian world, hope and faith go hand in hand. Christians have faith that their savior will complete their hope in an afterlife.
Optimism - Whereas optimism refers to a positive view at a conceptual or intellectual level, hope refers to a positive belief at the emotional level. While optimism may be rational and informed by facts, hope may lack a strong connection to reality.
The term false hope refers to a hope based entirely around a fantasy or an extremely unlikely outcome.
Positive thinking - Hope is distinct from positive thinking, a therapeutic or systematic process used in psychology for reversing pessimism.
No one has it easy, we all have our struggles, and I, for one, have hope. Have a great day!
I don't think anyone could have quite summed things up as eloquently as Robert Frost did. He was able to capture emotion and fact in prose and expel it in such a way that causes the mind to pause just enough to get a glimpse at reality; but not harsh reality, encouraging reality. Some of us are different and to those that have seen that side of me, you?ll understand. Seek out my other blog about questions and you?ll see what I refer to.
I think I?m going to leave this site soon. It has been a short stint for me and to those that winked or said hello, thank you. I may not have found love here or someone special to be with, but I suppose I found something else I needed more: Validation. I?m man enough to admit I needed it and I leave you with this poem by Frost that explains who I am better than I can:
THE ROAD NOT TAKEN
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
Now that I'm actively seeking to meet someone special, I'm always trying to come up with great first date ideas. I haven't dated in a while so I'm a bit rusty on what's truly enjoyed these days. Mind you, I live in the city (Los Angeles) so temperments can tend to be quite different here than in the country . . . I suppose. Anyway, what's your idea?
I'll try to be short, but bear with me.
I'm 33, single, not much of a "ladies man" and frustrated at the lack of relationships I have. I find myself wondering if there is something wrong with who I am, what I bring to the "courting" situation, or something else. I was raised to be a sensitive person with a huge heart, open emotions, and respect for all, especially women. When my mother died of cancer in 1996, it hit me hard and since then, I've worked to honor what she instilled in me over my youthful years.
Now, I'm getting older and starting to truly want to settle down and meet that one, special woman for me. For my sanity's sake, please be honest about these questions:
1. Does money really matter? I'm one who finds women who post about how genuine and great they are yet demand their partner make a huge income to be complete hypocrites. Money doesn't make a relationship solid so I guess I'm at a loss as to why so many seemingly wonderful women want a rich man. To me, it just seems quite superficial and not the type of person I want to be with (suppose I answered my own question). However, I know that finances are an important part to a stable relationship but I would think that two like minded people could work together coupled with mentalities that seek to earn more by hard work, tenacity, and goal setting. Am I wrong on this? Where are all these "genuine" and "great" women that don't care what their mate makes?
2. Why is vulnerability and openness such a turn off for women? My personality being extroverted and wearing my heart on my sleeve, I am very open about my emotions, morals, desires, etc. Why does this scare away 99% of the women I meet? My last girlfriend admitted she was scared at first because of this but had the maturity to hang in there and truly get to know me. Well, we developed quite strongly and I'm glad to have had that experience. Flash forward to two years later, I'm still looking . . . sigh.
3. Finally, is it possible for the nice, romantic guy to not finish last? It certainly feels that way a times and I'm hoping someone could shed some light on why women say they want guys like me but date the jerks.
Thanks for putting up with my wordiness and thanks for the input.