Letting go of the past
We have all heard it is "A Must" to move forward. Yet we are, at times, stuck in the past.
It seems only those around us notice this bogged down dilemma. They see us struggling, fighting and blaming everyone around us. Why is it never our fault? Do we not own any of our pain? we should!
The question is, "How much of it is ours and how do we move forward with grace, acceptance and our head held up with pride.
I have learned when we fail to own our part of self hurt; It comes back to haunt us. The backache, chronic cough, sleepless nights, binge eating or relentless chatter on the phone in an atempt to seek validation. It is all due to pain we should have owned.
If we would learn to live in the NOW. Much would be resolved. Sounds simple, I know. Yet, trust me, it is far from easy.
Conditioned behavior can sneak up and derail us. Keeping on a spiritual track of "Present Moment Awareness" is the key which sets us free from past pain. Our freedom comes with welcoming gifts. Growth, peace and the reality of showing us we a simply Human.
Let go and own "IT". Believe it or not; God/Your Higher Power can only take over when we learn to truly let go. The lesson will then be delivered to the one who was equaly involved in our pain.
It takes two. Two to love, two to agrue and two to see what is right and forget about WHO we may think is right. living in the NOW brings an experience of empowerment and a sense of calmness which welcomes sleep, a relaxed body and mind. No headaches, backaches.....just peace.
Now, How do we achieve this magical state? Real simple... Just "BE IN THE NOW" with no reservations and no judgement. It can only be achieved through practice.
As I sit here with a back rap on due to a locked lower disc I had to ask myself; What in the world brought this on??!!! It did not take me long to figure it out.
I learned long ago to lie to ones SELF is a fools game.
So many of us see someone else's ANGER as volitile behavior. I have learned such is not the case. Have you ever visited a rescue pound? One may see a canine as being aggressive when really he is insecure, fearful, uncertain due to past experiences. So why do we not realize humans lack the ability to communicate as well?
When we look past the mass of madness we just may find someone who is trying to express themselves. Unfortunately they have failed by our standards. We ALL have our own triggers which stand in the way of seeing them for who they truly are at said moment.
Someone has to stand up and be the eye in the sky. The Hero in the moment. It takes a huge heart and a Soul dedicated to being humble to reach this place of wisdom. We all benefit when just one of us choses to practice strong yet humble heartfelt open acceptance....
It's truly never a matter of who's right as much as it is WHAT is right.
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WE SHOULD ALL.....
DANCE IN THE RAIN ATLEAST ONCE IN OUR LIFE.
WE ALL HAVE MOMENTS WHERE WE ARE GIFTED WITH "AHA'S"
WE NEVER KNOW WHEN THEY WILL BE OFFERED TO US. THE TRUTH IS, WE FAIL TO RECOGNIZE SUCH A POWERFUL GIFT IF OUR HEARTS ARE NOT IN A CONSTANT STATE OF "IN THE NOW" OR "PRESENT MOMENT AWARENESS".
WHILE RUNNING TONIGHT I REALIZED HOW IMPORTANT MUSIC IS TO"ME". FOR THOSE WHO ARE IN TOUCH WITH THE BEAUTY OF RHYTHM, LYRICS; IT IS OKAY TO EMRACE THE TALENT OTHERS SHARE WITH US THROUGH THEIR SONGS. SO MANY BEAUTIFUL MESSAGES HAVE BEEN CREATED. THE COLLECTION OF WORDS OFFERED BY ANOTHER'S GIFTED VOICE.
WHAT I FIND TO BE SO FASCINATING IS HOW SONGS, MUSIC MARK OUR LIFE'S JOURNEY IF WE ONLY ALLOW SUCH CREATIVITY TO BE "OUR VOICE"....
A SONG CAN STRONGLY CONNECT YOU AND A SITUATION.
LISTENING TO THE SAME SONG YEARS LATER REKINDLES FEELINGS. YOU, POSSIBLY NOWHAVE GROWN, MOVED ON. YET THE SONG STILL HOLDS THE MEANING OF THE MOMENT YOU HAD LONG AGO.
IT WILL SHOW YOU HOW FAR YOU HAVE COME OR IF YOU ARE STUCK. HOW MUCH YOU STILL LOVE, OR THE PAIN YOU ENDURED.
ANEW SONG COMES..... A FOLLOW UP OR BETTER YET, THE OLE TUNE REMAINS A CONFIRMATION OF WHAT ALWAYS WAS..... LONG LASTING LOVE AS IT STILL AND FOREVER WILL HOLD YOU IN THE MOMENT OF THE BEGINNING.
I SAY THIS AS I REALIZED, AGAIN, AS IF IT WERE FOR THE FIRST TIME. WHERE AND WHEN I CAME TO RECOGNIZE THERE TRULY IS A GOD.
I HAVE SEEN, BEEN AND DONE MOST EVERYTHING YOU HAVE EXPERIENCED. ONE THING REMAINS CONSISTENT. THERE IS NO LOVE LIKE THE LOVE I HAVE EXPERIENCED AS A MOTHER.
"MIRACLE" BY CELINE DION WAS THE SONG FOR ME. EVERY WORD, EVERY VERSE SPOKE DEEP TO MY HEART WHEN I HEARD IT FOR THE FIRST TIME YEARS AGO. IT STILL TAKES MY BREATH AWAY AS I REFLECT BACK ON THE YEARS I HAVE BEEN BLESSED TO BE GIVEN THE GIFT OF BEING A MOTHER. AS THE SONG SAYS,.....
"YOUR MY LIFE'S ONE MIRACLE. EVERY THING I'VE DONE THATS GOOD. AND YOU BREAK MY HEART WITH TENDERNESS AND I CONFESS IT'S TRUE I NEVER KNEW A LOVE LIKE THIS TILL YOU. YOU'RE THE REASON I WAS BORN. NOW I FINALLY KNOW FOR SURE. AND I'M OVERWHELMED WITH HAPPINESS, SO BLESSED TO HOLD YOU CLOSE. THE ONE THAT I LOVE MOST. THOUGH THE FUTURE HAS SO MUCH FOR YOU IN STORE. WHO COULD EVER LOVE YOU MORE?.....THE NEAREST THING TO HEAVEN, YOU'RE MY ANGEL FROM ABOVE"....
ONLY GOD CREATES SUCH PERFECT LOVE...................
I HAVE LOVED DEEP, I HAVE BEEN LOVED, EVEN FELT THE SING OF LOST LOVE. FOR THIS I FEEL FORTUNATE. HOWEVER MANY OF LOVES HAVE FADED, MOVED ON, GONE ASTRAY. THE ONLY LOVE WHICH HAS REMAINED CONSITENT IS THE LOVE BETWEEN ME AND MY SON, ME AND MY GOD.... AND, OF COURSE THE LOYAL LOVE OF MY POOCHES.
I SAY THIS WITH SINSERETY. IF YOU CAN'T SAY HOW YOU FEEL ONCE YOU DO FIND YOUR ONE TRUE LOVE, SEARCH FOR A SONG. FIND ONE WHICH BELLOWS YOUR DEEPEST SENTIMENTS. SING IT LOUD AND SING IT WITH UNBRIDLED PASSION. DON'T WORRY IF YOU ARE OFF KEY. YOU ALREADY ARE IF YOU FAIL TO FIND A WAY TO EXPRESS YOURSELF TO THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE. IMPERFECTION IS PERFECTION TO THE HEART AND SOUL OF "THE ONE" WHO IS WAITING TO HEAR YOUR HEART.
MUSIC TRULY IS A UNIVERAL LANGUAGE........
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MUCH HAS TRANSPIRED SINCE THE LAST TIME I BLOGGED. MUCH HAS CHANGED. FOR THE FIRST TIME IN 18 YEARS I SEE THE BEAUTY OF FALL. I FEEL THE WIND AS IT TICKLES MY CHEEKS WITH A FRESH CHILL!
I HAVE FOUND ME! THE LAST 16 YRS HAVE BEEN DEDICATED TO OTHERS. WHAT THEY WANT, WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE THEM HAPPY, THEIR WORLD A MORE COMFORTABLE PLACE. CERTAIN PARTS OF ME, I AM PROUD TO SAY, I WILL KEEP. THE PARTS WHICH I KNOW HAVE BEEN UNFAIR TO "ME" ARE BEING LEFT BEHIND ONE BREATH AT A TIME.
THIS YEAR I HAVE LEARNED MORE ABOUT MYSELF THAN ALL THE YEARS LEADING UP TO THIS MOMENT. ONE OF THE BIGGEST AWAKENINGS I HAVE HAD IS I FOUND "COURAGE"
I ALWAYS FOUND MYSELF TO BE COURAGEOUS. ANYONE WHO KNOWS ME WOULD AGREE. BUT NEVER UNDERSTOOD HOW TO PICK UP FOR THE "LITTLE GIRL" INSIDE OF ME. THIS JOURNEY WE ARE ON IS SO VERY AWESOME. SO MUCH TO LEARN. IF WE STOP ALLOWING MOMENTS OF AWAKENING IN OUR LIFE THAN ONE OF TWO THINGS HAVE HAPPENED.
WE ARE RESTING IN PEACE OR WE ARE A "KNOW IT ALL" LIVING IN MISERY.
WROTE THIS IN 2004
That moment is gone forever.
Take time to speak kind.
Choose wisely each spoken word.
For it carries the power to move...
In all directions.
Select with careful finesse.
In an instant you can find your on a course
Driven by emotions which inflict.
Offer the gift of listening
with a kindness, gentleness.
As each second slips by words mark our way.
They will define our next experience.
Be slow to react.
It only takes a breath to respond from the heart.
Let love be A Flowing River
Which carries you through each
Awakening moment in time.
Life is Perfect.
We create the imperfections.
Learn to discern from each move you make.
Add to your wisdom. accept your mistakes.
You deserve your happiness. Bathe in its warmth.
Live and feel what you are capable of giving then
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When do you know,
I am a firm believer we ALL have more than one Soulmate. Otherwise,
those who have lost a love to tragedy would have no hope....
Anyone who knows me will agree I choose to put a spin of humor on any perception. Here are a few I realized are hints... "You May Be The One."
Please feel free to add any HINT'S of your own. I would love to read your perception of "Love In The Making."
1. HE SMILES WHEN U WEAR HIS BOXERS
2.SHE QUIETLY PUTS THE SEAT DOWN WITHOUT CALLING U A "PIG."
3.HE DOES NOT MIND IF U FALL ASLEEP ON HIS SIDE OF THE BED.
4.THE" BEDHEAD" LOOK CREATES A TENT POLE UNDER THE COVERS!
5. WHEN WALKING IN FRONT OF THE TV DURING A FOOTBALL GAME?... THEY LOOK AT "YOU PASSING", NOT THE QUARTER BACKS!
6.WHEN YOUR IMPERFERCTION'S ARE "PERFECTION" IN THEIR EYES!
7.HE DRIVES SLOW TO WORK AND HAULS ASS GETTING HOME.
8. Your head is forced under the covers. You hear, "Smell this" followed by bellowing boyish laughter!.
9. You hear "I AM SORRY" only ONCE for any hurtful offense.
10. You are not called "Honey"...You are given a special "Term of endearment".....( my favorite).
11. They laugh with you not at you...(unless you bring a toy bigger than theirs to bed).
12. If the sky is blue and you are SCREAMING IT IS GREY! They agree in front of others..it is grey. then tell you when alone and with love; Pookie, the sky was really blue!
13. They will step on a trail of toilet paper attached to your heels before anyone can see.
14. when all which is not "YOU" is removed; Make up, push up pads, toupee's.... and you see a spark? You just may be "The One"!!!
I have learned so much about love over the years. I feel there are as many ways to show love as there are breath's we take each day. The trick is to find someone who loves like "YOU LOVE" feels like "YOU FEEL" but most important is to find someone who understands; No matter how you love, when you say, "I lOVE YOU" it is but a confirmation of actions already shown, displayed, shared. I love you is but 3 little words without ACTION!
HAPPY VALENTINES DAY TO ALL! PLEASE SHARE A QUOTE OF YOUR OWN.......
I look forward to your take on "LOVE IN TRUE MOTION"
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HOW DO YOU TELL IF A MAN MEANS WHAT HE SAYS?
Men are just as unpredictable as Women. We tend to think they are the "Players" when in reality we are the ones who bring on the "GAME" in them. If Women would be honest, up front and kindly direct men would have no way of getting one over on US.
We tend to blame them for our own lack of INTUITION; The one gift God gave us which we, as WOMAN, often fail to listen to when it calls deep within us.
When Woman start realizing they are in control of their own LOVE destiny they will ACCEPT no one is to blame for their loneliness. Same goes for MEN!
I have heard time and time again; "Why are men such liars" or "Women are all full of bull sh#t!"
There is no gender who is exempt from pain regarding LOVE. We are both guilty of failing to understand the other.
Every failed relationship holds two people accountable! The minute you stop focusing on what was done to you and look deep at what you may have brought to the demise of your past relationship the quicker you will gain spiritual growth and insight..... Compassion will be born!
One thing I have learned in my 49 yrs of life is MEN do not know what WOMEN are thinking! We need to TELL them! I also have recognized men seem to hold a grudge longer than a woman. Maybe it is time to let go of the ego and look deep into the mirror.
We are all looking for the same emotionally needs. LOVE, ACCEPTANCE, A PARTNER WHO IS OUR BEST FRIEND AND ONE HELL OF A GOOD LOVER!
The big question is, "How far apart ARE Venus and Mars?!
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The Colors of Your Heart
The only way to truly allow yourself to get to know someone is to give them the freedom to be who they were born to be, think, respond. I love people of all walks of life! Have always been fascinated by different cultures and beliefs. I ACCEPT them ALL....
The Colors of The Heart
It beats within us.
The measure of
Who we are is
The sun rises and sets
On every thought
Our "Center Place."
All avenues of emotion
On the pulsating
Movement of this
We chose the colors
From which our
Paints the portrait
We create for the
World to see.
Own work of
This portrays our creative strokes.
"The Colors of the Heart"
Change the mood of
Chose colors of brilliance.
Create your canvas from
The dance of the brush
Is meant to be free.
Make YOUR heart
The "Center Place"
How you paint
Yourself to "BE"
Set free your inhibitions.
In jewel color.
Trust your heart be The Artist.
It's work will bring life brilliance
With complete abandonment.
Does our heart see all the colors
From which to chose?
How deep are your colors
Chose not a tainted heart
But one of
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Were all men weaned too early?
Okay men. I guess I am speaking for all the chest blessed Woman out there.
We know we have big breast. Some of us choose to hide it while others embrace what God gave them. As pictures do say a thousand words. I would be the latter of the two.
Being the smallest chested Woman in my family it was easy to hide under the radar from the boob seeking men growing up. Now? Not so easy. I get you love a nice chest. I think I speak for all Women when I say "We DO TOO"
However, we are not going to leave you a long drawn out email about your pecks and what we would like to do with them.
I come from a very uninhibited family. We never made nudity TABOO. It is natural, normal and should be accepted as such. No matter what. There is no one or no comment which will change my outlook.
Why the big fixation? Why point out the obvious? I feel every Woman has a right to embrace her "voluptuousness." Thanks to Dove we are more free to do just that. Sure, when I am the size of a toothpick my cup size shrinks. However I choose to be more ample, curvy! Give me the Jane Mansfield, Marlyn Manroe figure any day.
I have seen woman hide their size with creative measure. One girlfriend going so far as to carry duck tape around in her purse. Is this all due to the constant comments thrown at her by men/woman who just could not hold a thought in their head? Or is it her own insecurities? Can't speak for her however I know what I think..........
All Woman want to be adored, appreciated and loved for who they are both inside and out. Any Woman who says otherwise is just in complete denial.
I get "YOU"! Men are very visual creatures! As a matter of fact; It is one of the things I love about Men the most!! It keeps us Woman on our toes, at the gym, buying ab doers for God sake! :)
We are obviously more lenient. A secure and true woman is more accepting of the transformation over time. We do not scream at you for your hair falling out or that belly lapping over your belt. We just buy you a bigger pair of pants and infrom you the old ones are just not good for your circulation!!
We are not so fortunate. Let a woman's hair fall out and you men will cross over to the other side before passing us on a sidewalk. Gain a few pounds and you're ready to resgister our ass for its own zip code! So would you do US one favor. Let us enjoy what God or Dr. Boob gave us! We deserve as much.
We get enough bark and bite from the Women who would rather try and make fun of us than go and PAY A VISIT to Dr. Boob!
To the hundreds of men who have asked the question? Mine are a gift not a purshase!
Be Good to your SELF,
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WHO WANTS HONESTY?
We all demand it.
Say we will not tolerate a lie. Well , there is the biggest one of all.
Are we really ready for the truth?
Are we aware to expect the truth to be told we must first be "Accepting."
I remember my father telling me, "If you are not prepared for the truth do not ask me the question."
I am hardly one to volunteer my opinion. However I am a firm believer if you dare to ask. I feel a moral obligation to "shoot straight."
I find the truth is easiest to remember and it tends to get the biggest response. Hardly a dull moment when truth lay on the table!!
Why are we so hesitant to tell the truth?
Even something so small as whether or not we like Country music, smoke cigarettes, don't go to church.
If we felt people would be more accepting we may step forward with honesty more often.
So here are some pointers on this subject.
*Truth will always follow acceptance.
*If someone starts a question with "You don't_______, do you? They are clearly not approving of the act in question.
I remember Depaak saying in his book, The seven spiritual laws of success.
Never ask anyone something unless you are going to get the response you NEED.
Honesty and Acceptance reside in the same place.
A truly loving HEART..........................
TRIED TO POST A PIECE OF POETRY I WROTE TO THIS BLOG.
HOPEFULLY IT WILL SHOW UP IN IT'S ENTIRETY BY TOMORROW.
Be Good to Your SELF,
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TAKE OFF YOUR SHADES
I love my collection of sunglasses. Have to make sure I pick the proper pair to match my attire before leaving the house. Call it one of my "Sniglets" :)
In all honesty the eyes are the first thing I notice in a person. Even though I love my shades I am very conscious to put them away when not needed. I love Fashion just not at the expense of fully revealing myself. Which, to me, can only be told through with windows to your Soul..........
The only profile I have passed up were those who had all pictures with shades on. For me, there was no need to look further. He is not for me.
This piece of poetry was written on March 14th 2004
Through the eyes
One sees all.
When you fly, when you fall.
For they're the doors to the Soul
All is told.
Just one look is all it takes.
In open eyes
to see what's fake.
No words needed to reveal.
All your thoughts;
All that's real.
Don't look down for then you close.
The curtains of our "Secret Soul."
You may think that you can hide
All which lingers deep inside.
For those who look upon your face
Will notice if your hearts in place.
Your lids may fall to hide it all
Yet wisdom see's the building wall.
Restore your soul. Make it real.
For then it's pride that you'll reveal.
Look deep inside.
Make old ways new.
Present a face of love that's True.
You'll see there is no need to hide.
It's then you'll welcome love inside.
We search for TRUTH throughout our life.
Yet we're the last to do what's right.
To those who care to know behind
The eyes that stare at them
The person they are looking at
Their eyes become a guiding map.
you'll either find a friend inside
Or one who seeks a heart to trap.
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It you removed all the lies..............
How many characters remain?
When writing a profile it forces you to go within. The question is how deep are you willing to go? The fact of the matter is when asking ourself a question, any answer is the right answer as long as it is the truth.
Being true to One's SELF design's the Essence of your Soul. There is no hiding from the truth. So why lie at the most important point in your journey to find who is looking for you?
The beginning of this quest IS your profile. To say what you think people want to hear is only going to take you further away from who was meant to find you and put you in the middle of people you will eventually disappoint.
It is never about how tall or short. It is about how you own who YOU ARE. Being accepting of Self is the most empowing part of your journey on this Planet. Adding a 1/2 inch here or shaving off a few lbs there only diminishes your true SELF! No one will be impressed.
"Present Moment Awarness" would show you the person who is least impressed with these little useless lies is the person writing them. So, be free and embrace all of YOU! Be it big or small, rich or working hard to get there. Just be True.
One of the biggest disappointments I have encountered is expecting something, which I chose to believe, only to find out I was mislead. Funny thing, I have never walked away because someone is not tall enough or rich enough. I exit due to lack of authenticity.
Truth be told? The 1/2 inch lie will cost you miles of chaos.
I raised my son to understand one very important fact of Life. So before writing your profile remember this. Always! No matter what, Be True To Your "SELF." Because "What other people think about you is none of your business".....
Your "Perfect Mate" already sees you as perfect. Do you?
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The Power Of Love
As the Sea meets the Shore
When all resting awakens.
They are pulled to each other
Wtih a force to adorn.
So Will "My Love" find Me.....
In it's rumbling power
with each wave the're embracing.
Such mighty force merging
"Earth and Sea"
Be wrapped in perfect harmony
So will "My Love" find Me......
In the calm of the night.
All is given lays sleeping
It's so peaceful, so right.
On glass waters
So will "My Love" Find Me.....
Lay still my sweet Soul.
For your search has now ended.
Just open your heart
All within you is mended.
It is then you'll embrace
What was yours long before you.
It is all in the tide.
It will come flowing towards you.
As the moon pulls it high.
All within you is riding.
Let it go, feel your sigh
Dream no more,
there's no hiding.
"So Has My Love Found Me"
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No Baggage, No Drama!
I have read well over 1000 profiles in the year I have been a member on dating sites.
Some are funny. Others are short sweet and to the point. Then there are some who just expect the impossible.
The two statements which get me are, "I have no baggage" or "No Drama Please." Ok people, listen up. We ALL have baggage. unless we lived in a bubble all our life. This "Baggage" has made you who you are today. Did it destroy or define you? Whether you like it or not it is there. Lurking in some innner closet. so just let it out. Stop acting as if your life was paved with little gold bricks.
Are kids "baggage"...............If that is what you mean. Shame on you! I have a son. He is the most perfect thing I have ever done in my life. I am honored to be called his Mother. OK, a kid CAN turn out to be a "bag of pooh", However they learn by example and that would make the teacher the master piece of baggage.
Not one Woman with a compassionate heart and a loving mind is ever going to settle for a child being called "Baggage." Don't expect a reply when you wink.
Now this is almost comical. "No Drama Please" :)
Passion is drama! HOT SULTRY SEX can be dramatic!!
When I read in a profile
"No Drama " I am immediately warned. This man does not want to communicate, share, listen, talk or feel where a Woman is coming from.
News Flash!!!!! Not all Woman boil rabbits when they get upset!!
Truly? It is a very subtle way of saying "I am self obsorbed" can it be all about me please? Wake up and smell the perfume. If you want a Woman who is ALIVE, FULL OF LIVE, laughter and passion? Guess what? She is going to be dramatically beautiful!!
Dramatic Woman are Excentric, seductive, spontaneous! I am A Work of Art! I dance for no reason. I laugh uncontrollably, I cry when I am in pain or when those I love are hurting, I will stand up to anyone who brings harm to my family. I love deep, smile loudly at every face I pass!! If that is not drama, what is?
What I believe you are trying to say is "No Chaos" please!! You are not interested in a person with more issues than a New York news stand! I Get it!
So take it from a Dynamic Drama Diva! Drama is not CRAZY!? Drama is alive, fun, refreshing. choose another word....unless you want a boring, dull, detatched Woman who has the personality of a wet noodle.
From the Center of my Heart :)
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