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Posted on Sat, Sep 28, 2013 14:30

This is the reason why guys wink and seldom e-mail....Now this is just my opinion and doesn't go for everyone. All of these dating sites including this one require money. Some of them and even the well know one requires both parties to be members and pay a fee. Guys are suckers.. We are pretty much expected if we were brought up right to pay for dinners, entertainment etc. The people who own these sites don't care, they care only about a fee and they too know guys are suckers. So what happens is that if you have ever been a member on here before they intice you by telling you that you have a message and you need to join up again so what do we suckers do......we join up again and either the member that winked at you doesn't have a profile or you never hear from them again. Yes, all of you women out there as well as the owner's can have a good laugh at me too again because I guess I too have those letters across my forehead. HA, HA, Ha on me.That's ok I can take it.....Ge wizz why am I laughing now.....this has cost me more money....HOLD IT !!!!! no I am not cheap so let's get that off the table first.

So why do we wink????Sadly its because we don't want to be scammed and taken advantage of because we think we are too smart. So we wink in hopes of an attractive woman to owr own eye responds and leads the way for once. I have been rejected way more times than most women on all these sites put together but it just seems so many profiles of women say "I don't respond to winks " I hope I have been honest in my accesement and I hope all of you cansee why we wink. I also hpoe you had a good laugh even if its at me and yes I am not a very good speller. Please forgive me for that. Feel free to respond and have a great nite.



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Posted on Thu, Dec 05, 2013 18:47

You are right on Sir .

I was twice  payed member , exact the same result .

However , lets keep on mind , there are many folks who are sooooo incredibly cheap they asking women to pay for membership in order to have chance to respond to her .

I do not consider this as a good relationship material .



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Posted on Sun, Nov 03, 2013 18:36

How does everyone feel about using that "request to chat" feature?

 

I particularly enjoy it when the Malaysian group sends me the 27 year old who wants to talk to me :-). I'm sure they're interested in my 80s music collection and 8 track.



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Posted on Sun, Nov 03, 2013 18:05

Hi Hoping4Love

Thank you for clarifying that.

You wrote: 'There is never a good enough reason to send money to a complete stranger!' - Great advice.



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Posted on Sun, Nov 03, 2013 14:40

Quoting loveyou27:

Quoting Hoping4Love2000:

For those if you who get caught up on the "scammers?" I truly do not get it. IF you know how to READ, and pay attention--- you can find them out by the first chat with them. They don't speak English properly and it is very noticable! 

 

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Hi Loveyou27--

 

I don't get on here often, but saw this... 

 

SCAMMERS... They "usually" do NOT write in proper English and you can tell this if you read the content. Most scammers take pictures of other people, but they are some place like Nigeria, etc... They will also start asking for money, etc... and I have very little sympathy for anyone wiring money to someone they have never met. 

 

THERE IS NEVER A GOOD ENOUGH REASON TO SEND MONEY TO A COMPLETE STRANGER!



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Posted on Sun, Nov 03, 2013 10:09

Quoting Hoping4Love2000:

For those if you who get caught up on the "scammers?" I truly do not get it. IF you know how to READ, and pay attention--- you can find them out by the first chat with them. They don't speak English properly and it is very noticable! 

 

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Posted on Fri, Nov 01, 2013 13:31

Better to stick with emails. There is nothing about a wink that says.. 'I am searching for a mature relationship'. It is like walking by a construction site and getting sudden whistles and cat calls. Not at any moment am I saying, "Which one of these 'charming gentlemen' do I want to go out for dinner with tonight?" 

I am partial to a man pursuing a woman or a woman pursuing a man. Although, I tend not to initiate the first outing because in my experience most men seem to misunderstand my intention which is to see if we are in synch by getting to know you more on a mental level.

Hoping4Love2000, I would say that a scammer is a person who is deceitful for gain. I have grammatically challenged friends with accents (who do not have English as a first language) and they are not scammers. By your definition if I was to travel to Germany and make a brave attempt at the German language then I would be a scammer in Germany. This great country was built by people who came here with accents and some times incorrect American English grammer. I am thinking that maybe what you meant to highlight is someone claiming to be in the same town, state or country, but is elsewhere.



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Posted on Tue, Oct 08, 2013 19:13

Nicely said.



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Posted on Mon, Sep 30, 2013 19:40

Hi BT--- and ALL~~

 

Only on for a few--- don't get in here much lately, but saw this, so I had to read your thoughts. 

 

BT- I have to say this.....

 

(FOR ME) Winks are for WOMEN to tell a man, "I see you over there. Do you see me over here? I am a lady and I do not pursue men, as I was raised to conduct myself like a lady. A genuine lady is not aggressive, nor does she chase men. Further, a lady with experience knows full well, a man must be GENUINELY INTERESTED, or he is a waste of her time to begin with. Men tend to lose interest quickly as this place is like a smorgasboard at an all you can eat buffet table! MEN pay attention to the women scantily clad etc... whereas, women paying attention to half naked men... not so much... 

 

For those if you who get caught up on the "scammers?" I truly do not get it. IF you know how to READ, and pay attention--- you can find them out by the first chat with them. They don't speak English properly and it is very noticable! Men, if you READ the profiles, you can tell when a woman is a scammer as well. 

 

BT- Let me ask you this.. (and BTW--- WELCOME to the blogs) 

 

Say a man winks at me--- How am I supposed to respond? And WHY would you want a woman to be the leader to begin with? I swear, men truly are becoming emasculated! (I can't take rejection, what if she's a scammer, let the woman lead....) 

 

FIND YOUR GONADS GENTLEMEN! It's called dating and from the beginning of time when the caveman yanked the cave woman to the cave by the hair--- MEN ARE TO BE LEADERS! 

 

The "story goes" ... 

God created ADAM, THEN he noticed Adam was a little bored one day--- so he decided to take a rib from Adam and created EVE... 

 

If women were suppose to take the lead, God would have made the Bible be written more like this.. 

One day God created EVE. But when she was cooking in the kitchen, she made too much food, so he decided to create ADAM to eat the excess food. So, He made man to love food and love women!! 

 

Some of you men have it backwards-- as do some women.. Ladies, when a man is interested in you, he WILL let you know. He will write you an appropriate email to say hello--- Not wink at you and 15 other women on the same day, b/c it's easy and less risky, and maybe if he throws enough spaghetti, something will stick to the ceiling.. 

 

Well, JMHO for what it is or isn't worth.. (But, we all know.. I am worth NOTHING around here! LoL) 

 

BT, again WELCOME to the blogs dear! Hope you are enjoying your stay! 

 

HAVE A GREAT WEEK EVERYONE!!! Nice to see everyone again!! :))))

 

 



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Posted on Mon, Sep 30, 2013 13:39

I totally agree 'fourwinds' its been many years since I have been on this site and it is all about money now. They should let you send at least an email even if it is one a day. Rejection? I do think the worst thing is when people just don't reply, there are winks that state you are not interested so why not send one and it will save a lot of people wasting time. I do.  I have paid for a membership and it does not make that much different lol  so you wait in the wings and watch and I will be joining you next month.  lol



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Posted on Sun, Sep 29, 2013 01:05

in short easy sure theres scammers

 

guys dont wink,,,,,JUST LAZY ..... ok nothing fancy thats it just LAZY ... 



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Posted on Sat, Sep 28, 2013 20:31

hi bt

i didnt know any of that

i am a standard member and i understand that may limit me to the services offered here at MM but, I reply to winks with a wink,  if a man emails me with a coherent, more than one sentence message then I will email back if I am allowed

it may seem cheap on my part but i watch from the background and get a feel of the environment before I pay for a service and it really has fallen below par in the past few years - however i stay in the background hoping that will change

i truly appreciate your post.



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Posted on Sat, Sep 28, 2013 16:57

I suspect that some of the "winks" come from "corporate". I have also been enticed into paying for the green star, only to find it was a reported scammer,  or one that never returned a message. I enjoy the greeting cards , it permitted a written response... but allas corporate nixed that feature. I too wink and comment on profiles to introduce honorable myself 

 

So Sucker BT join the crowd...welcome to the Bogs



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Posted on Sat, Sep 28, 2013 16:24

When I first got on this site, there was a profile that said, "I do not respond to winks."  So I sent him a wink.  I thought at that time that the attitude was stuffy.  But then all the scammers started winking at me.  I saw the problem.  

It was a long time before I received a sincere wink.  

Suckers?  I don't know.  I don't see that a service should be provided as a charity.  I do feel that they could do just a little better with customer service here.  As far as rejection, that seems to be a universal experience.  

It reminds me of something my brother said to me once.  "When I was in high school, I felt like Goofy."  I wondered what he imagined the rest of us felt like.  There may have been two people in the school that didn't feel like Goofy. I found out along the way that some of the most dazzling among my peers felt like that. 



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