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Posted on Tue, Feb 12, 2013 15:12

Today I was in the library parking lot when a kamikaze lady driver, who was at least 90 years old, almost ran over me and the guy on the other side of her car who was walking toward the library too.

 

He was about my age, very good looking, charming, no wedding ring, and struck up a conversation with me about how we were almost killed at the same time by the same crazy old lady, and we should not be mad at her because we will be old someday too. We laughed while we walked into the library. He held the door for me, and wished me a great day. He did not seem shy at all.

 

Then while I was making my book and movie selections he kept flirting with me, bumped into me once, and I responded with smiles. But he never came over to talk with me. I took my time checking out. He kept watching me and smiling. I looked over my shoulder with a BIG smile as I left the library. He only smiled back. I took my time getting to my car, but he never followed.

 

Did I do something wrong? He seemed to be giving me all the right signals and I was responding. Any ideas about how I should have handled this situation?

 

 

 

 

 

 



BeWell and wishing you only the best ! ..................;-D

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Posted on Sun, May 12, 2013 13:00

Your are toooo damn funny!!



"LOVE TAKES OF MASKS WE KNOW WE CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT AND KNOW WE CANNOT LIVE WITHIN" ~James Arthur Baldwin

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Posted on Sun, May 12, 2013 12:58

I would have made a comment to him like: "Is it me or are we to meet again over coffee?" Flirting back with words would have maybe enticed him more. Because you can smile to be polite and he can't read your mind though behind the smile. Next time let him know your interested with flirtatious words to let him know it is okay to ask you out. Just an idea. Sounds like you guys could have hit it off. Maybe he will be at the Library again!!



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Posted on Fri, Feb 22, 2013 21:31

Quoting BeWell:

Dear Hoping,

 

I know you would love for me to track down Library Guy, and “…taunt him for his poor behavior”, but do know the situation is under control.

 

You see, I have people. They are special people in high places who take care of things for me. One of them is Captain Karma. He took the assignment and is now in the process of making sure Library Guy learns the art of becoming a gentleman.

 

Another one who works for me is the Law of Compensation. When bad things happen to me she makes sure that I am compensated in a good way-- to make up for the disappointment, pain, harm, sorrow or whatever that happens. My good surprise will happen as long as I don’t play any dysfunctional games, punish or retaliate in any way. That's how it works! I’m excited to find what she has in store for me which will make up for Library Guy’s rude behavior.  

 

So that’s why I didn’t get upset -- I completely trust that the Universe is manifesting the right and perfect man for me who is even better looking, healthier, smarter, and much more charming than Library Guy. All I have to do is follow my intuition. My intuition tells me that I’m NOT going to find “him” at the library on Tuesday, Monday or any other day. ;-D

 

See the picture below of what I’ll be wearing to the library on Monday…………….. BeWell…….;-D


LMSAO!! Is that ? Well, WHAT IS THAT SUIT? LOL... 

 

Love it girl.. I must say BEWELL<<<<<

 

I have come to know the one you speak of... this...  "KARMA"... 

 

Has been a good friend in my past as well! 

 

However, I must say.. 

 

The "Compensation" you speak of has not entered my life as often as this KARMA... 

 

I think there may be some "PROCRASTINATION" going on with her.. 

 

I hear her motto is :

 

PROCRASTINATE TODAY!!

 

WHY PUT IT OFF???? ..... 

 

Hope you have a great weekend!! ;)))))))



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Posted on Fri, Feb 22, 2013 18:16

Dear Hoping,

 

I know you would love for me to track down Library Guy, and “…taunt him for his poor behavior”, but do know the situation is under control.

 

You see, I have people. They are special people in high places who take care of things for me. One of them is Captain Karma. He took the assignment and is now in the process of making sure Library Guy learns the art of becoming a gentleman.

 

Another one who works for me is the Law of Compensation. When bad things happen to me she makes sure that I am compensated in a good way-- to make up for the disappointment, pain, harm, sorrow or whatever that happens. My good surprise will happen as long as I don’t play any dysfunctional games, punish or retaliate in any way. That's how it works! I’m excited to find what she has in store for me which will make up for Library Guy’s rude behavior.  

 

So that’s why I didn’t get upset -- I completely trust that the Universe is manifesting the right and perfect man for me who is even better looking, healthier, smarter, and much more charming than Library Guy. All I have to do is follow my intuition. My intuition tells me that I’m NOT going to find “him” at the library on Tuesday, Monday or any other day. ;-D

 

See the picture below of what I’ll be wearing to the library on Monday…………….. BeWell…….;-D


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Posted on Fri, Feb 22, 2013 10:27

Quoting BeWell:

Dear Hoping,

 

Thanks for all the encouragement, story and advice. I have decided not to pursue Library Guy anymore, and I'm returning to Monday's as being my regular library day. I know I can do much better than Library Guy. I think rMac figured out the mystery to the rather odd behavior he displayed. Read rMac's posts and mine to him.

 

As far as me surprising you.... Yes, I'm a Capricorn and on the reserved side, but surprisingly I do have a sense of humor. I can also assure you that I am 100% female in all the good ways. However, I do admit that I need more practice walking in my black stiletoes with 4" heels........  ;-D..... BeWell


Hey hey BEWELL---

 

Monday's it is then!! :)

 

I would still go just to taunt him for his poor behavior! (See gems and germs.. I do have a naughty side!!)

 

I saw what RMAC posted.. His thoughts were hysterical!!

 

 My initial response was many men / women flirt, but are TAKEN... Makes them feel good, but they go home to their spouses, no harm done. 

 

However, as RMAC stated, there is still something a bit disturbing in his behavior that even for a man who is taken, does not quite "fit." It just doesn't add up, even for married man. ???? 

 

Now, as for your "humour..." 

 

OMG!! I just LOVE that side of you!! You simply must share more of your personality with us!! 

 

NOW WHAT ARE YOU WEARING FOR MONDAYS LIBRARY LADS!! 

 

We kindly request a photo of your "library attire" 

 

NOW AVOID OLD LADIES IN THE PARKING LOT... AND CRYING MEN WHO RUN AWAY!! 



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Posted on Thu, Feb 21, 2013 08:30

Dear Hoping,

 

Thanks for all the encouragement, story and advice. I have decided not to pursue Library Guy anymore, and I'm returning to Monday's as being my regular library day. I know I can do much better than Library Guy. I think rMac figured out the mystery to the rather odd behavior he displayed. Read rMac's posts and mine to him.

 

As far as me surprising you.... Yes, I'm a Capricorn and on the reserved side, but surprisingly I do have a sense of humor. I can also assure you that I am 100% female in all the good ways. However, I do admit that I need more practice walking in my black stiletoes with 4" heels........  ;-D..... BeWell



BeWell and wishing you only the best ! ..................;-D

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Posted on Thu, Feb 21, 2013 08:02

Quoting rmac22:

Another explanation, he really is a natural flirt, but is married or otherwise has a significant other.  He likes to flirt or carry on as long as it goes nowhere.  As soon as he thinks it might amount to something he runs for cover.  By showing up again, he sensed danger -- this lady might be available -- can’t risk it -- I like my current sweetie, and she is as jealous as they get. 

 

That might have gotten started during the last week.  He is full out in the glow of a new infatuation. 

 

Different phenomenon:  One of the places where I used to work, the young women flirted outrageously with a few of the older men (I was not yet in that category).  The men flirted back just as outrageously.  It looked like fun; I asked one of the young women why they did not flirt like that with me.  Her answer, “If we flirted with you we would mean it; if you flirted back we would think you meant it.”   He might be the male counterpart of those young women.  Somehow, you got moved into the serious category.

 

By the way, don’t be surprised if in a few weeks or months, he comes looking for you.   Right now he might be unavailable.  Then, he might be otherwise.  How will he find you?  Same way you found him. 

 

RMac



Dear rMac,

You could very well be right on with your guess about what was going on with him. This new idea you have makes the most sense. I couldn't figure it out. I guess I exagerated a little when I said he had the look of terror on his face. It wasn't really terror, but definately the look of "Oh SH_T!".

 

Thank you for sharing your story. Your office ladies must have really respected you.

 

I'm not interested in this guy anymore, and, just in case he does try to track me down, I'm going to be looking out for him on that dangerous library parking lot. ;-D

 

I appreciate your help so very much!.................... BeWell......... ;-D



BeWell and wishing you only the best ! ..................;-D

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Posted on Wed, Feb 20, 2013 23:44

NOW-----

 

What I will tell you is this BEWELL---

 

You darn well BETTER show up at the library next Tuesday!! Same bat time--- Same bat channel!!

 

Don't you DARE give this YUTZ the satisfaction of thinking FOR ONE MOMENT, you were there to see him!

 

NO MAM!!!

 

Your routine is to be there at that time for the next couple of weeks!! 

 

All beautiful, all smelly and ALL YOU!! 

 

I'll be darned if I ever let a man think he got the most of me!!!!  Should you NOT show up? He'd be there gloating thinking, "Hmmm... I got to her... She ONLY came here to see ME!"

 

HA!  

 

Show up, looking all "like you do!!" ;) 

 

and IGNORE HIM while your presence is known!! 

 

NEVER COWAR LADIES!! ;) 

 

Should he approach you? Be the CLASSY lady I'm sure you are.. Hear him out politely and graciously! (After all.. You were only making conversation with him yesterday.. and weren't there to see him) 

 

Here's the REAL deal... 

 

HE HAD A REASON FOR RUNNING!!

 

OTHER SIDE OF COIN---- 

 

BEWELL.. I've NO REASON to discount your account here... No dismissing I enjoy your presence, as I POST ON YOUR BLOGS! ;) 

 

Erego--- 

 

I view: #1 or #2... WHY to scurry off in panic?

 

IF he "liked" you he would be back to SEE YOU at same time, same day... Therefore I view:

 

1) GF was watching ..... as he has flirted in library before.. and perhaps she SAW him last week... They have "set time".. and SHE'S THERE!! It's his NORMAL ROUTINE??? 

 

2) He just wasn't prepared to "handle you" and PUTZED out peeing his pants! (YUTZ!!) 

 

Okay.. Either way.. He's a ditch.. But always hold your temperment and remain classy... 

 

BUT GO THERE ON TUESDAY... SAME TIME TO RETURN YOUR BOOKS... 

 

1) IF he "really" wants to avoid you.. He WON'T be there... 

 

2) IF he was really just being a cowardly putzy lion? He will be there to APOLOGIZE for RUDE behavior!! YOU take it from there depending on YOUR GUT!! 

 

You appear an "OVERLY" attactive woman for your age BEWELL; therefore, I CAN see a man becoming all "flustered" with you... 

 

PLAY IT OUT---

 

FOLLOW IT THROUGH---

 

(and remember.....Sometimes all FOLLOWING THROUGH means is--- SHOWING UP---)

 

SHOW UP!!! for his "apology" Pretty Lady--- 

 

He may not be "evil"... 

 

Just may be ILL-ADVANCED with dating?? ------- His REACTION was TOOOOOO  EXTREME.... 

 

MAKES LITTLE LOGIC SENSE-- LEADING ME TO BELIEVE----

 

Perhaps his wife of 43 years died 8 months ago? 

 

WHAT A BLESSED FRIEND YOU COULD BE... 

 

MY POINT? 

 

WE DON'T KNOW THE STORY HONEY---

 

YOU'RE IN THE LIBRARY FOR GOD SAKES.. 

 

GO FINISH THE BOOK!! 

 

Quick story--- Since I know you guys are tired of the Princess in Pink---- :) ~~ LOVE YA ~~

 

With my ex--- about 2 years in divorce--- LONG AGO--- 2000?? (MOM did NOT see 9-11!! :) 

 

We have our 3 small children in back seat of vehicle

 

I'm on passenger side-- Ex driving---

 

Left lane... I notice people honking--- and passing!!! MANY PPL!!!

 

I tell my ex--- 

 

"Honey, I think you are driving too slow for the left lane.... People are honking.. I see you are driving 40.. That's too slow, even for "blue hairs" ..

 

He glances at me, unmoved...  and heads over to the right, slower lane... 

 

Few minutes later he says, "You think we should tell the kids they are going to see Grandma in a wooden box?" 

 

I reply, "I think people would think we are really f****** up right now if they heard this." 

 

AND WE BOTH LAUGH... turning up stereo, so our kids won't be affected... 

 

He had WATCHED his Mother's last breath days prior..... in the hospital...

 

And I, had not been there, as I should have... 

 

The messed up Wife / Daughter

 

One never knows ......  the "baggage" ..... others carry..... 

 

I hurt FOR my husband that day.. and I hurt for MYSELF every day since---

 

WHO KNOWS what this crazy, book-dropping man is going through or has been though? 

 

You have books to return... and a story to finish...

 

Should he not show? 

 

Probably hiding something...

 

Should he show?  Frightened of reality.... 

 

Happens every day.... 

 

But, I always hated a story that leaves me hangin... 

 

LADIES:

 

Dating 101:

 

SHOW UP

 

SHOW OUT

 

MAKE YOUR PRESENCE KNOWN....

 

The REST is up to him~~~~

 

And ALLOW him that PRIVELEGE---

 

Let the man pick the flower~~

 



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Posted on Wed, Feb 20, 2013 23:35

Quoting RealtorLulu:

Well, it looks like you fell into a box of corn flakes and out popped the biggest one of them all. The whole thing seemed out of a movie. Maybe I'll use it in my next book.

 

Anyway, you deserve the man that will stand by your side and enhance your life, not dim it.  We will be here to cheer you on when he comes along. In the meantime, we have Brew, Dakota and RMac on our side. They are real men! Right guys?

 

Hugs!!



My Dearest LULU---

YOU... 

are the ...

CIRCLE---

In my CHEERIOS!!! 

LMFSAO!!! 

U R 
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA!! ;)



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Posted on Wed, Feb 20, 2013 23:26

Quoting BeWell:

Thanks everyone for helping me with my second chance at getting a date with the totally handsome library guy who was almost run over with me by the 90 year old crazy lady on the parking lot last Tuesday.

 

Tomorrow--Tuesday, February 19th at 2:00pm Central time-- I will be at the library all dolled up in my short skirt, sweater and black stilletos with 4" heels. I'll be wearing my brightest red lipstick, hair curled and all blown out,  and I'll be in a cloud of Eternity perfume so he'll remember my scent.

 

I'll bring my armload of movies to return of which I'm going to clumsily drop them on the floor near him so he'll come over to help me pick them up, and then I'll make my move...

 

With a script of questions in hand (so I don't forget in the middle of a senior moment) I'll ask my totally handsome library guy if he's married or in a relationship, and tell him I want to go for coffee up the street at Panera's and I promise to say "Yes" after he asks me for the date.

 

I will be carrying my deep sea fishing rod to hook him and reel him in. I'll be wearing shin guards in case he kicks me back after I kick him in the shins. I'll have an ambulance and EMTs on hand in case he doesn't recover after I've both kicked and stilletoed him into asking me out, and gassed him with all the perfume.

 

Now I hope he shows up for his second chance!!!! 

 

Did I get everything right?  Am I missing anything? Any last minute suggestions?

 

Love you all sooooo much......;-DDDD............BeWell

 

 


I ADORE THIS SIDE OF YOU!! 

 

It is a side I have never been graced to see!! OMG!!

 

LOVE IT! LOVE IT!! LOVE IT!!!

 

(And thank God you have it.. since I saw what an idiot he was!!)  

 

I'd try guessing baby doll... 

 

BUT WHO KNOWS" 

 

Wife? GF in the making? 

 

W-H-O   C-A-R-E-S!!!!!!

 

P-U-T-Z!!! 

 

Jeez... back to the magic drawing board! 

 

This, my ladies, is exactly WHY..... I WAIT for the man..

 

I'M SERIOUS LADIES!!

 

If a man doesn't approach you....... the reason DOESN'T REALLY MATTER, now does it!!!! 

 

I GRACIOUSLY SHOVE MY FOOT IN MY MOUTH NOW--- Ummm... a GRACIOUS size 8.5 - 9.. on a tiny little body!!! (My disfigurement bewilders me!!) 

 

EASYMAN / NGL2011 / OTHERS...

 

I now say ... 

 

WHAT WE NEVER SAY!!!

 

A "REAL MAN" ....... 

 

will ask a lady out... 

 

If a "Man" isn't "man" enough for that....

 

He isn't "man" enough for me! 

 

I have men who obviously lack in education, possibly behind in car / house payments, have nothing more to offer than "who they are,"..... but at least they are "man enough" to APPROACH AND ASK ME OUT!! 

 

YOU DODGED A DOUBLE BARREL HERE!! 

 

WHAT A LOSER!! :) 

 

 



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Posted on Wed, Feb 20, 2013 07:30

Another explanation, he really is a natural flirt, but is married or otherwise has a significant other.  He likes to flirt or carry on as long as it goes nowhere.  As soon as he thinks it might amount to something he runs for cover.  By showing up again, he sensed danger -- this lady might be available -- can’t risk it -- I like my current sweetie, and she is as jealous as they get. 

 

That might have gotten started during the last week.  He is full out in the glow of a new infatuation. 

 

Different phenomenon:  One of the places where I used to work, the young women flirted outrageously with a few of the older men (I was not yet in that category).  The men flirted back just as outrageously.  It looked like fun; I asked one of the young women why they did not flirt like that with me.  Her answer, “If we flirted with you we would mean it; if you flirted back we would think you meant it.”   He might be the male counterpart of those young women.  Somehow, you got moved into the serious category.

 

By the way, don’t be surprised if in a few weeks or months, he comes looking for you.   Right now he might be unavailable.  Then, he might be otherwise.  How will he find you?  Same way you found him. 

 

RMac



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Posted on Wed, Feb 20, 2013 05:53

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What are the possibilities?  He has a gregarious twin.  His wife is back in town.  His significant other is working in the library today and he was petrified she would see you talking to him.  I like the last one.  Terror otherwise doesn’t fit. 

 

OK that’s my story and I am sticking to it.  Personalities don’t change that much in a week.  Yes almost getting run over may loosen you up some, but still he was good at it.  Doesn’t fit. 

 

I don’t suppose we can persuade you to go back next week.  Maybe not a good idea.  You might get arrested for stalking. 

 

Oh well.  The best laid plans ….

 

RMac



Thanks, rMac!

 

I can't figure it out either. Just doesn't make sense.

* Warm, compassionate and engaing at the sight of the near-accident.

* Distant, but flirty in the library right afterward.

* Shows up a week later and lies about it and then suddenly leaves appearing afraid.

 

I guess the more time he had to think about it the more he decided he didn't want to connect with me.  But why the fear and retreat?

 

After thinking about it a little more, maybe Library Guy didn't come back at 2pm to see me.  Tuesday may have been HIS regular day and he wasn't expecting me to be there. I normally go on Mondays. I may have surprised him and he ran. I hope to his psychotherapist.

 

No way I'm going back next Tuesday. I don't want a runner. And I'm certainly not a stalker.

 

Thanks for caring and sharing................ BeWell........;-D

 



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Posted on Wed, Feb 20, 2013 05:26

Lulu... It did seem like it was out of one of those very weird movies. Very surreal. Thanks for your words of comfort.


 

 

Mtnsunny.... You got it---the boat backed up and sank with the fish. You're right--they're out there. As Dory says in the Disney movie, Finding Nemo "Just keep swimming, just keep swimming....

 

 

 

Jenkneee.... Thanks, and good luck with "24 Hour Flex"!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


BeWell



BeWell and wishing you only the best ! ..................;-D

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Posted on Tue, Feb 19, 2013 21:41

Well, it looks like you fell into a box of corn flakes and out popped the biggest one of them all. The whole thing seemed out of a movie. Maybe I'll use it in my next book.

 

Anyway, you deserve the man that will stand by your side and enhance your life, not dim it.  We will be here to cheer you on when he comes along. In the meantime, we have Brew, Dakota and RMac on our side. They are real men! Right guys?

 

Hugs!!


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Posted on Tue, Feb 19, 2013 21:19

What are the possibilities?  He has a gregarious twin.  His wife is back in town.  His significant other is working in the library today and he was petrified she would see you talking to him.  I like the last one.  Terror otherwise doesn’t fit. 

 

OK that’s my story and I am sticking to it.  Personalities don’t change that much in a week.  Yes almost getting run over may loosen you up some, but still he was good at it.  Doesn’t fit. 

 

I don’t suppose we can persuade you to go back next week.  Maybe not a good idea.  You might get arrested for stalking. 

 

Oh well.  The best laid plans ….

 

RMac



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Posted on Tue, Feb 19, 2013 20:42

Quoting BeWell:

BREAKING NEWS!.... LIBRARY GUY REPORT

 

He was THERE!

 

I kid you not! I couldn’t believe it! I was in shock! Here’s what happened, totally true story.

 

 

I arrived 10 minutes early. He was already there and had selected an arm load of movies and music cds, so he must have been there for a while. He had on the same red and white leather baseball jacket that he wore last week. That’s how I knew for sure it was him.

 

 

As I walked in he looked up, saw me...  and then took off down an aisle! So I hung out looking at movies until he came to the front again and I approached him and said, “Hey, aren’t you the guy that almost got hit with me by that crazy old lady on the parking lot last week?”

 

 

With a look of total terror on his face he says, “Must have been some other guy. It wasn’t me!” Then he turned around and walked away, dumped his movies and cds and left the library. I stood there with my mouth open in disbelief of what he said and did. And everybody in the movie section was looking at us wondering what the heck  just happened.

 

 

Sorry to disappoint everybody--I chose not to wear the stilettos and short skirt and sweater, and glad that I didn’t. He may have passed out if I had done that. Instead I wore a cute, tight-fitting warm up suit. Library Guy had on workout clothes the week before and I thought I’d match his style. Anyway, I looked good and my hair and make up were perfect. I did wear the Eternity perfume so I’m sure he got a good whiff of me, as well as the rest of the library. ;-D

 

 

Oh well. It’s OK. I’m not crushed, only disappointed. :-/

 

 

I need a man who is outgoing and who can handle himself elegantly in social situations, and not run when a woman smiles at him. I need someone I can take to dinner parties, charity events and other social functions. Not that I have that many special occasions, but when I do I need the man in my life to be interesting, classy, emotionally mature and evolved-- like the type of guy I’ve written about in my profile. Library Guy, although he may appear to have it together, he is obviously not the right man for me.

 

 

Maybe next time I’ll have better luck with a better guy…… :-/ ……… BeWell

 



Awww, too bad it didn't work out but at least you solved the mystery enough with the second sighting. That was an odd way of responding to you!

I saw a guy today at the Gym that I hadn't seen before. There was no interaction, then I saw him after my workout at DelTaco.  I asked, "Weren't you just at 24 Hr Fitness.? " He teased me and said something like I was looking at him across the gym. I said I was fantasizing while looking at him and listening to my music so he said he'll flex just for me next time he sees me at the gym. Lol, it was a cute, funny exchange. I am sure nothing will ever come from it.

 

The older I get, the less shy I get. Who the freak cares what I say?  Usually it just makes the day more interesting.  Just go for it next time or you may regret it. Nothing is worse to me than a mystery, what if i? what if he?



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Posted on Tue, Feb 19, 2013 16:36

BREAKING NEWS!.... LIBRARY GUY REPORT

 

He was THERE!

 

I kid you not! I couldn’t believe it! I was in shock! Here’s what happened, totally true story.

 

 

I arrived 10 minutes early. He was already there and had selected an arm load of movies and music cds, so he must have been there for a while. He had on the same red and white leather baseball jacket that he wore last week. That’s how I knew for sure it was him.

 

 

As I walked in he looked up, saw me...  and then took off down an aisle! So I hung out looking at movies until he came to the front again and I approached him and said, “Hey, aren’t you the guy that almost got hit with me by that crazy old lady on the parking lot last week?”

 

 

With a look of total terror on his face he says, “Must have been some other guy. It wasn’t me!” Then he turned around and walked away, dumped his movies and cds and left the library. I stood there with my mouth open in disbelief of what he said and did. And everybody in the movie section was looking at us wondering what the heck  just happened.

 

 

Sorry to disappoint everybody--I chose not to wear the stilettos and short skirt and sweater, and glad that I didn’t. He may have passed out if I had done that. Instead I wore a cute, tight-fitting warm up suit. Library Guy had on workout clothes the week before and I thought I’d match his style. Anyway, I looked good and my hair and make up were perfect. I did wear the Eternity perfume so I’m sure he got a good whiff of me, as well as the rest of the library. ;-D

 

 

Oh well. It’s OK. I’m not crushed, only disappointed. :-/

 

 

I need a man who is outgoing and who can handle himself elegantly in social situations, and not run when a woman smiles at him. I need someone I can take to dinner parties, charity events and other social functions. Not that I have that many special occasions, but when I do I need the man in my life to be interesting, classy, emotionally mature and evolved-- like the type of guy I’ve written about in my profile. Library Guy, although he may appear to have it together, he is obviously not the right man for me.

 

 

Maybe next time I’ll have better luck with a better guy…… :-/ ……… BeWell

 



BeWell and wishing you only the best ! ..................;-D

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Posted on Tue, Feb 19, 2013 06:14

Thanks for cheering me on, friends! I need the support! In response to the most recent postings...

 

BREW and RMac... I appreciate the encouragement and ideas.

 

LuLu... I will add your new idea to my list--"If he doesn't get it, run him over" with my car.

 

Hoping... I'll be sure to hop in the ambulance and talk to him on the way to the hospital. It just happens to be across the street from the coffee place. I'll ask the ambulance driver to go through the drive-thru window before taking him to the Emergency Room, and we'll make Library Guy pay for coffee for all, including EMTs and driver and 20 extra for the Emergency Room staff too. While we're at it we may as well order pastries to go too. ;-D

 

ROTFLMAO............. BeWell

(for those of you over 40 who don't know what this means... Rolling on the floor laughing my A_ _ off.)

 

 



BeWell and wishing you only the best ! ..................;-D

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Posted on Tue, Feb 19, 2013 06:08

Quoting rmac22:

Well, back in the dim distant past, my sisters advised me, “When a girl asks you for a date, you will accept, you will be nice, and you will have a good time.”  This was on an occasion where my younger sister advised me that one of her friends was going to ask me to take her to a party.  My older sisters then gave me the above advice as I was contemplating not accepting.  So I did, I was, and I did.  Did not ask the girl out later.   Should have, but that is another story.   

 

We, the girl and I in the above story, were both in high school so I do not think I am out of line using the term “girl” rather than woman or lady. 

 

RMac


Dear RMAC,

 

I think this about sums up much of WHY I feel the way I do.... 

 

Most men / boys I have ever known would do exacty as you. 

 

"Accept, be polite, and have a decent time, regardless of attraction." 

 

I do not view men as "bad" or "mean." 

 

Most men do not enjoy hurting others, especially a woman. 

 

I don't want to put a man in a position where he might feel awkward and uneasy. 

 

Nor do I want to throw myself out there to be rejected... and not asking me out for a second date denotes rejection... any way you slice it.  

 

I have no idea if any have ever gone away thinking, "Wow, I should have asked her out." 

 

I know I have had times where I wondered WHY HE DIDN'T. 

 

I always summed it up to, "He was just been being polite. He wasn't really attracted." 

 

But if any ever have second guessed themselves, I hope they learned not to be so timid and the next time, they asked the girl out. 

 

That's why I'd rather leave the ball in his court... 

 

Doesn't mean I don't mosey on over to his bleachers. I will make certain I am noticed. 

 

But if he doesn't respond? He must not be that into me. And the best marriages I've seen have been when the man was truly into his wife. 

 

I dont seek "guy friends." 

 

I desire a HUSBAND one day.... 

 

And I can make him happiest, if he is really into me... 

 

Thank you for your comment. 

 

 



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