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Posted on Tue, Apr 03, 2007 06:23 PM

I have begun writing a book on why men cheat and the motivations behind their indescetions. For you men out there, feel free to post your comments or email me directly For you woman, tune in, because this blog is going to be very interesting. The first reason I would like to put out there for discussion is that Men have to cheat, to maintain their fragile sense of self esteem.

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Posted on Thu, Sep 21, 2017 02:12 PM

Men don't need to cheat, he need a few wifes to fallow his desires and fantasies...That's why Arabic men have a few wifes loving all of them! So they don't need to cheat!

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Posted on Tue, Sep 05, 2017 05:56 PM

Hey you, cheating is necessary for a man when a woman is not more attractive in her daily life; when a mother is just a mother and not his wife and woman before or at the same time oggi a mother. It's your nature and we're quite stupid or ingenuous sometimes. P.S. you look so good! Kisses from Italy

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Posted on Sun, Aug 20, 2017 06:25 AM

interesting responses posted on the topic of cheating be it the male or female in a relationship. If i may widen the perspective here by eliminating the gender standard in this topic by including unconventional relationships that are becoming more accepted in todays equal rights with same sex marriages being legalized and gender identification with transexualism both male and female we are still a race prone to cheating for all the reasons posted. yet i have not read where the cheater has been coerced to do so from a partner that is non supportive, perhaps abusive, or demeaning. is never happy with their partner who can never live up to some ideal that was probably there before any commitment was ever made. devorce is rampant in our society because its easier to end it then to stay in a relationship that is doomed why cant we be smart enough to know the first time a person treats you uncaringly by calling you names, lieing, or any form of abuse dont we end it then no need to cheat.

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Posted on Fri, Aug 18, 2017 05:28 PM

Low self-confidence and complex . Those who are physically not attractive


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Posted on Mon, Jul 10, 2017 12:20 AM

Quoting rmac22:

Since the beginning of time cheaters have left more offspring behind.  Those they raised and those raised by other men.  



 

I love your Comment RMAC .. Its true ..


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Posted on Sun, Jul 09, 2017 10:48 PM

Since the beginning of time cheaters have left more offspring behind.  Those they raised and those raised by other men.  


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Posted on Sun, Jul 09, 2017 08:52 PM

I've just now stumbled across your blog.  Did you finish your book, and how did it go? 

 

Now that I'm here, I'll add a few thoughts. 

 

The majority of the times that I've been cheated on, were by guys who weren't completely over their exes.  Of course, things never ended up working out with their ex's, and in the meantime, they've ruined things with me. 

 

One guy, it was an ex-girlfriend that broke up his marriage twice.  And they'd ended things 18 months before, but he couldn't get her out of his system, even admitting to me that he knew I was the way better one for him! 

 

Another big one for me, has been long distance relationships, and the guys don't know how to keep their pants on and stay committed.  When temptation is in front of them, they are weak and crumble. 

 

Some just unfortunately weren't raised with good old fashioned morals that myself, and others were raised with. 

 

I also tend to believe that old saying "once a cheater, always a cheater," is for the most part, generally true.  

Hence, why I never cheat in the first place.  I do believe that once a person cheats, it becomes an easy pattern, that they can now rationalize.  They figured they've already done it once. Sort of like once a person loses their virginity. 

 

Unfortunately, the cheaters, make it hard for those like myself, who have had enough of it, and refuse to waste their time on men like that, and chose not to date, until enough trust is built. 

 

A big reason for many men, is low self esteem, the feeling of wanting to be wanted, the power, the thrill, and the instant gratification, and satisfying their own selfish needs, without caring about others feelings. 

 

And the obvious, hormones, hormones, hormones...with no practice of self-control.  Teenage boys trapped in grown up bodies. 

 

 



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Posted on Sun, Jul 09, 2017 02:01 AM

 

I had been to many occasions , other countries and had met 

many people ..the only reason I have heard , and witnessed why 

men ( mostly ) Cheat is " they just can't say No frankly" ( either 

out of politeness towards women or the fear of being branded 

as no *ggs )..under unplanned circumstances ..Women are more courageous to say NO ( mostly )..

 

Sorry Guys ..just saying


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Posted on Sat, Jul 08, 2017 02:56 PM

Quoting Lostinmyeyes:

sounds like you cheat!


Who are you responding to?  The author who is long gone?  


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Posted on Fri, Jul 07, 2017 08:38 PM

I love the author's perspective! Otherwise, simply put, men cheat because they can. I can also see it as a "means of survival." I totally get their point. Men are always given passes for being "human" and having reasons to enjoy variety, as if women are any different. We enjoy variety too. We just are not permitted the same luxury. This is what we know: Almost all men cheat, so women, do what you have to do to protect yourself. Be proactive. If you decide to be with a man long-term, make sure he has means to provide you with a handsome offering, should he cheat. It stings less that way. Nobody has time to put this any other way. Learn to be #Savage. #GuardYourHeart



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Posted on Wed, Jul 05, 2017 05:18 AM

This is why I'm watching and waiting for a man with strong inner strength.. Secure with who he is.. Then we will be a vibrational match together.. happy and grounded.. enjoying life and all it has to offer..;-)

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Posted on Tue, Jul 04, 2017 03:31 PM

one word, one basic instinct: survival. it is a fundamental rule governing the living universe. if men wouldn't be cheaters us humans would not exist. I am afraid it is that simple.


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Posted on Tue, Jul 04, 2017 01:15 PM

men get the slightest Attention from any Female and they think they are gods gift to women

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Posted on Tue, Jul 04, 2017 05:07 AM

sounds like you cheat!

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Posted on Thu, Sep 24, 2015 05:01 PM

Good evening all!

 

Sorry I came to this discussion late but had to respond.  

 

First of all, let's understand that a cheater can be male or female.  However, since the topic is about men, I will draw upon a famous line from a scene in "Moonstruck".

 

When John Mahoney's character tries to persuade a stern Olympia Dukukis to allow him into her abode,  she sternly remarks "You're a little boy and you wanna be bad!".  The response...just like the mastercard ad....PRICELESS!!

 

Adults make decisions understanding the consquences of their actions.  Children throw caution to the wind... (even if it's down wind to a stockyard) 

 

Remain blessed.


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Posted on Sat, Sep 19, 2015 01:53 PM

it really isn't and I'm guessing based on that response most men have cheated on you. Makes sense


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Posted on Mon, Sep 01, 2014 01:55 AM

Men cheat for the same reasons women cheat.  There's no difference between the sexes.  I'd say the largest reason for cheating is that the mastery of sex is largely a mystery and both sexes are unsatisfied in the bedroom.  The most ridiculous situation is to back yourself into an emotional relationship when the sex is flat and untinteresting.   Most men I've found haven't a clue how to connect in sex and most women I'm afraid aren't telling their men what they want.  Each bump in the dark and niehter are being honnest about their motives.

 

Cheating that hurts the most in my oppinion is the cheating that's done for the thrill of being decietful.  These individuals are actually aroused at the risk of humiliating their partner.   

 

Some individuals are gifted in act of sex and need a constant menue of new partners.  These individuals just should not be in a closed relationship and find other's who share that same open thinking.  It's unfortunate that sexual integrity isn't discussed, I in fact, have entire chapter about it.   I support those who have the guts to openly broker their sexuality, pair appropriately and request for open relationships when you know your not capable of maintaining a closed one.

 

Honestly men, most women should be having affairs if you wrap it up under 6 minutes and roll over and go to sleep...lol...I'm just saying. 



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Posted on Sun, Aug 31, 2014 04:59 PM

If a man is feeling valued, appreciated,  supported, encouraged, and acknowledged he is truly a lucky man who found a woman who is unique and very loving. He would then be a fool to risk all that is so special in a relationship.

 

Men may cheat not because they are missing one of the above but just because they want something different and new. It may not have anything to do with love at all. Just temporary chemistry, challenge and a different physical pleasure. Even though its very selfcentered he may not think about that at the moment but may feel very guilty later. The dangerous thing he may be tempted repeatedly. Especially if his marriage is not doing well.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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Posted on Sat, Aug 21, 2010 10:30 PM

Hi there,we only ask what your thinking to confirm what we KNOW is going on,women's intuition is a very annoying DON for men,Sorry men are very simple beings because they are so predictable.Very few of them have any respect for any thing that is not themselves.They can't be true even to their own shadows.

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