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Posted on Tue, Apr 03, 2007 18:23

I have begun writing a book on why men cheat and the motivations behind their indescetions. For you men out there, feel free to post your comments or email me directly For you woman, tune in, because this blog is going to be very interesting. The first reason I would like to put out there for discussion is that Men have to cheat, to maintain their fragile sense of self esteem.


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Posted on Sat, Aug 21, 2010 22:30

Hi there,we only ask what your thinking to confirm what we KNOW is going on,women's intuition is a very annoying DON for men,Sorry men are very simple beings because they are so predictable.Very few of them have any respect for any thing that is not themselves.They can't be true even to their own shadows.


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Posted on Thu, Jul 22, 2010 00:23

When I was 18 my father took me to Thailand....a bit awkward as I boarded a bus full of men in their 30

s and 40's from around the world who where on their way to Patya Beach for sex. My father was 38 and their for the same reasons...everyone thought we were lovers..but he was my father who walked with me and talked to me as we passed man after man after man...and he told me why these men were there and he made me sit with his lovers in the morning...and he told me how important it was to learn how to master the art of pleasure....

As harsh as this story may sound, it is mine and never have I had a man cheat on me becuase I learned early that as a woman we are the Seductress and it is an honorable noble position.

Wathc a Lioness who hunts for her male.

Shiva holds the space while Shakti dances.

Loose your egos and rise in Mastery as a Goddess and this topci will no longer exist!!



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Posted on Thu, Jul 01, 2010 23:48

Hello everyone.... I am back on the site after a 1 1/2 year hiatus. I am amazed that you all have kept this blog alive and running since I left. I see we've had over 7,000 views. Wow.

 

Why Men Cheat is a topic which has drawn much controversy and chatter... the topic seems to really hit a nerve. Perhaps because it causes so much pain.

 

It hurts to be cheated on. To be betrayed. But there is another side to the topic.... the WHY.

 

Let's continue to explore the topic in detail and discover the answers together.

 

Marc Holland

 

 



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Posted on Tue, Mar 16, 2010 16:09

Quoting wwww12345

Maslow does indeed have part of the answer, but not all. If you look at nature, you will find that almost all species cheat, males and females. Cheating provided genetic diversity, which is good for the species. Thus, to not cheat is actually going against what is natural and built in as a survival of the species instinct.


Hello W.

i agree with you..men and women cheat..it is human nature...some times they need to feel full filled and need attention or simply they need fun time...so they cheat...men mostly cheat because of insecurity and lack of self esteem...


Julie



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Posted on Sat, Feb 20, 2010 05:53

'EGO' is a problem of both men and women. Unconditional love is rare...man has evolved from other beings of the past and instincts cannot be suppressed. Some men that cheat are good men others evil men...but who is to blame?


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Posted on Fri, Feb 19, 2010 23:00

Men cheat because they are simple creatures. It's easy no emotional attatchments/resentments. Like I said men are simple beings. Although I was a cheater because i wanted to escape. Not proud of it and trust me if I ahd to do it all over again, I'd choose not to.


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Posted on Fri, Jul 10, 2009 05:06

So far every response has ignored the topic that you wanted up for discussion: whether men cheat to fulfill frail egos. Yes, I am a great listener (& apparently a great reader!). I don't believe the male ego is frail. In fact, most men I meet or have met have huge egos that they seem to fulfill regularly to keep it strong. Sure, the ego can be cut to the quick making it fragile, but I don't think that's why men cheat. In my opinion, men who cheat are not men at all, they are little boys who have not grown up. They are people who did not evolve with very high morals, values, principles, respect for themselves or others, period. In some cases, maybe they were raised to believe cheating is acceptable, as is the case in many foreign countries. I am a Loyal Leo who is all heart. I believe most cheaters (male or female) have no heart. I am wrtiing a book too (1 of several). Maybe you'd like to visit me in South Beach & we can commiserate. If so, please e-mail me. All the Best ;)


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Posted on Sat, May 16, 2009 15:17

Men cheat 'cause they want to and they can... simple as that.

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Posted on Wed, Dec 05, 2007 13:59

Re: VivaChau write: According to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs in "A Theory of Human Motivation, physiological needs, such as, food, water, sex, etc.. are at the bottom of the ladder, love is at the third level, and the top is self actualization, a state in which one could accept and denounce of material things to be free or to be closer to God. If men/women love someone and could not be loyal to the person, then perhaps, the issue here is not whether they are at fault or not but where we are in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. We really cannot expect someone who is still trying to satisfy their physiological needs to love us when one has to be secure first with safety and physiological needs first. We should not wallow in self pity or feeling hurt because someone is not ready or share the same sentiment with us about love in its higher order. If someone is lusting for us and uses the word love to express his or her feelings, then at best it is only lust, a transient moment. Should we wait for them to change in the name of love? Well, we could, but who among us could change overnight? Is it possible to expect someone to reach the love level when he or she is still trying to satisfy their physiological needs?

Maslow does indeed have part of the answer, but not all. If you look at nature, you will find that almost all species cheat, males and females. Cheating provided genetic diversity, which is good for the species. Thus, to not cheat is actually going against what is natural and built in as a survival of the species instinct.


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Posted on Tue, Dec 04, 2007 16:20

Hello All, I don't if some of you might remember a song called "The Clean Up Woman." But, the premise is that a women may push a man out then another woman comes along and snatches him up. I've just kinda figured this out. I dated a guy and another woman got in his ear and they started "cheating" emotionally. I felt him pulling away and broke up with him, next thing I know she is engaged to him! So, I think women have to pay attention to a man's emotional as well as other needs and make sure she is the one meeting them. Otherwise, the clean up woman will get him.


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Posted on Sat, Dec 01, 2007 06:17

Monk I would love to read your. But let me say this why do men cheat? there is no one reason, Some of the finest men do. Why because in their life something is mission friendship, passion, just being able to let go and be who they truly are. So many of our mates will do any thing to get us but once the chase is over, look out it is time for them to feel they have to mold us into there perfection's not only that some of our spouse's are lead to believe this is what's best for them so much that they totally lose who they are!! Cheating is bad word. I know so many women who husbands that will do anything for them and yes there love is strong but at the same time I seen men walk off with their head tucked because this woman dose not have the passion for life ,sex become distant and they just go threw the motions, instead they should take this man and have fun what happen to that? run around the house naked or something, yes men cheat and so do women when he we feel no one xcan see us anymore that life is just routine and small augments with no compassion yes they cheat. Now there are real dogs out there and I wont get into that ,but don't be so hard on the good man that dose he may just love his other partner too but just trapped into losing what he has worked dearly for all his life that has to be the hard part knowing someone is better suited for you and know you can never have this person and eventually they walk away because you have made a choice to stay with the wife/husband when there is another out there! so yes we cheat but I call breaking free I understand completely not that it is right but I understand . Happiness comes with a very high price tag some times


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Posted on Fri, Nov 30, 2007 08:13

According to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs in "A Theory of Human Motivation, physiological needs, such as, food, water, sex, etc.. are at the bottom of the ladder, love is at the third level, and the top is self actualization, a state in which one could accept and denounce of material things to be free or to be closer to God. If men/women love someone and could not be loyal to the person, then perhaps, the issue here is not whether they are at fault or not but where we are in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. We really cannot expect someone who is still trying to satisfy their physiological needs to love us when one has to be secure first with safety and physiological needs first. We should not wallow in self pity or feeling hurt because someone is not ready or share the same sentiment with us about love in its higher order. If someone is lusting for us and uses the word love to express his or her feelings, then at best it is only lust, a transient moment. Should we wait for them to change in the name of love? Well, we could, but who among us could change overnight? Is it possible to expect someone to reach the love level when he or she is still trying to satisfy their physiological needs?


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Posted on Thu, Nov 29, 2007 08:09

Certainly, girl, one does not have to maintain a relationship with ongoing issue like this. Just don't become murderous about it and turn into a d..k chopper. Sex is like food. Why one keeps tasting new things. If you are dealing with the one with a big appetite just look at him/her and make up your mind. This is bigger then our ability to reason. Now, love is too, not something you create and handle using your head. It comes and goes, and one has to have a big enough heart to hold it. If not, it will evaporate pretty quick. It has to enter your blood and run in your veins. And.... trust. It is part of love. The more you trust the more you are going to be hurt. Eventually you will learn, not to be distrustful,though, I hope, but make a right choice. You will have an insight. The ones who never trust are fools. They can never love. They come empty handed, live empty handed and disappear into nothingness empty handed, just a bunch of baggers asking another baggers to deliver happiness. What a waste of a human life. One is happy when one knows from the experience, not assumes digging into all kinds of theories and philosophy . Love, trust and you will see clear to make a right choice one day.

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Posted on Wed, Nov 28, 2007 22:14

Hey monk... Haven't you finished that book yet, you're as bad as me and my screenplay... Well... I just popped in for a minute to visit some old friends... But.. if you feel a strong mental connection, along with the physical... That is good ground for a True Love relationship to BLOOM... ; D awh... but hard to find ! ~


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Posted on Wed, Nov 28, 2007 13:42

its too bad i didnt save my reply. Otherwise i would continuously post it. Whats wrong with the truth millionaire match? THere was none of the four issues you kindly have up there of"what not to post". I didnt violate any of those terms. I will from now on save my replies on bloggers to see if you eliminate honesty. And the men who do cheat have lack of morals, values and respect, cause if they possessed respect, Cheating wouldnt occur, it would only be a thought or a little bit of imagination, and ladies if a man cant imagine you being universal to him pleasing to him mentally and physically then sorry...you will eventually lose it.


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Posted on Wed, Nov 28, 2007 01:46

so very true


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Posted on Wed, Nov 28, 2007 01:39

Not only men cheat just as many women cheat these days. People cheat because they want to it feels good the old have your cake and eat it to. Men are stuck in long term marriages that no longer have sex or romance some of you will have lived this.Not saying it's a good thing just that I understand it


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Posted on Tue, Nov 27, 2007 14:14

Cheaters are selfish,self centered people; men and women. The reason they cheat will vary by case. However, not for one minute do I believe it has anything to do with whether you allow hand cuffs in the bedroom or listen to Bach while your climaxing. It doesn't necessarily have anything to do with what you think their partner is lacking. Cheating has nothing to do with their partner. If you are unhappy; leave. If you are not sexually satisfied; work on being open with your partner or leave. If you like the thrill of the chase; chase your tail out the door. There is no justification for cheating.


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Posted on Tue, Nov 27, 2007 11:07

How do you rate this. Imagine your fiance cheating on you when your at home shaving your head so you dont have to watch it all fall out from having breast Cancer chmeo treatments, you want to talk about a bad boy Ill give you all you need for a cheat book but hes got to come close to topping it all.


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