Does each person who draws breath have a perfect match? When do you stop looking for perfection? I feel sometimes like I'm just being too picky and at other times that I'm simply being brutally honest. There are things that each of the men I've dated lately did that I absolutely couldn't stand. Not that these were all big things, some were just stupid things that shouldn't have bothered me, but they did. Weird stuff that bugged me and I know that I couldn't live with for any long period of time...like more than a few months. Forget years, years are not even a remote possibility. Now granted, I haven't really dated many men here ...what is it they say about dating in Aspen? The odds are good but the goods are odd. No truer words... That actually sounded harsher than it was intended but if you lived here, you'd know the expression and could appreciate it's sincerity.
At what age do you give up your idea of a perfect relationship and begin to start accepting things that used to be deal breakers? Like baldness...if you ruled out bald guys in Aspen, half of the dating pool (of a certain age) would disappear. It seems like height becomes more flexible after a divorce. We married taller men and that didn't work out so well so perhaps broadening our horizons might not be such a bad idea. There are traits that we can live with but do wear us out. I dated one fellow that I dearly love as a friend but he treats each day like it was a triathlon. He physically wore me out. I tried my damnedest to keep up so I did get in pretty good shape during that relationship. As it turns out, he was madly in love with a woman who could keep up and I had my heart broken when I discovered that. However, there are things about him that I love and things that I know I just could not live with. It does make me wonder though whether there will ever be a relationship that could possibly live up to my expectations? Am I alone in this thought? Are our expectations sabotaging our potential relationships?
I still hold on to the belief that I will one day meet the man that will actually exceed my expectations. Though, lately the bar is set pretty low...(hey I'm 50 ok?) I'm tired of being alone. I do wonder if I'm giving up what could turn into the perfect relationship...given time. We tend to make snap judgments without giving people enough time. Ok, there are times where you just plain know that there is not even the slightest chance in the world that you could stand to be in any kind of a relationship with a particular person. But I do believe that each of us has given up a few good possibilities, if only we'd given them just a little more time, had our minds and hearts a tiny bit more open. Just maybe?...
Does each person who draws breath have a perfect match? When do you stop looking for perfection? I feel sometimes like I'm just being too picky and at other times that I'm simply being brutally honest. There are things that each of the men I've dated lately did that I absolutely couldn't stand. Not that these were all big things, some were just stupid things that shouldn't have bothered me, but they did. Weird stuff that bugged me and I know that I couldn't live with for any long period of time...like more than a few months. Forget years, years are not even a remote possibility. Now granted, I haven't really dated many men here ...what is it they say about dating in Aspen? The odds are good but the goods are odd. No truer words... That actually sounded harsher than it was intended but if you lived here, you'd know the expression and could appreciate it's sincerity.
At what age do you give up your idea of a perfect relationship and begin to start accepting things that used to be deal breakers? Like baldness...if you ruled out bald guys in Aspen, half of the dating pool (of a certain age) would disappear. It seems like height becomes more flexible after a divorce. We married taller men and that didn't work out so well so perhaps broadening our horizons might not be such a bad idea. There are traits that we can live with but do wear us out. I dated one fellow that I dearly love as a friend but he treats each day like it was a triathlon. He physically wore me out. I tried my damnedest to keep up so I did get in pretty good shape during that relationship. As it turns out, he was madly in love with a woman who could keep up and I had my heart broken when I discovered that. However, there are things about him that I love and things that I know I just could not live with. It does make me wonder though whether there will ever be a relationship that could possibly live up to my expectations? Am I alone in this thought? Are our expectations sabotaging our potential relationships?
I still hold on to the belief that I will one day meet the man that will actually exceed my expectations. Though, lately the bar is set pretty low...(hey I'm 50 ok?) I'm tired of being alone. I do wonder if I'm giving up what could turn into the perfect relationship...given time. We tend to make snap judgments without giving people enough time. Ok, there are times where you just plain know that there is not even the slightest chance in the world that you could stand to be in any kind of a relationship with a particular person. But I do believe that each of us has given up a few good possibilities, if only we'd given them just a little more time, had our minds and hearts a tiny bit more open. Just maybe?...
How young, how smart. You are right on target. My most memorable relationships were with women who I felt were better as a person... not necessarily smarter or more proficient but a woman who had those qualities that translate into "nice".
In addition to how they make you feel about yourself, I would add someone who inspires you to be a better person.
Quoting: Originally posted by SweetSimone I know what you mean, I personaly don't think that its EVER too late to seek out the person who will be best suited for you.
What I have learned about looking for the right person over the years through some good experiences and some bad is that when we set unimportant standards and limits on what we want it will do nothing more than limit our odds of finding our significant other.
The thing that I focus on the most NOW is how he treats me and the way he makes me feel when I am with him.
If he makes me feel good about myself, happy, cared for & secure when I'm with him and if my needs are being met then I put effort into making it work, if on the other hand I feel neglected, unappreciated, disrespected , uncared for and stressed out I do not waist much time.
Every woman deserves to be cherished.
Quoting SweetSimone:
I know what you mean, I personaly don't think that its EVER too late to seek out the person who will be best suited for you.
What I have learned about looking for the right person over the years through some good experiences and some bad is that when we set unimportant standards and limits on what we want it will do nothing more than limit our odds of finding our significant other.
The thing that I focus on the most NOW is how he treats me and the way he makes me feel when I am with him.
If he makes me feel good about myself, happy, cared for & secure when I'm with him and if my needs are being met then I put effort into making it work, if on the other hand I feel neglected, unappreciated, disrespected , uncared for and stressed out I do not waist much time.
Every woman deserves to be cherished.
Simone,
How young, how smart. You are right on target. My most memorable relationships were with women who I felt were better as a person... not necessarily smarter or more proficient but a woman who had those qualities that translate into "nice".
In addition to how they make you feel about yourself, I would add someone who inspires you to be a better person.
Timing has alot to do with it...what was the phrase? ¿ There are people that come into your life...if for a moment...an hour....a day ...or a lifetime. ¿ If we remain open... we grow through/with the time we spend with a friend/lover. When the time and chemistry is right the 80/20% rule follows, where we love 80% of what we have and leave the other 20% open for the adventure of change. ¿ ass u me that we or anyone else¿is perfect is the blind leading the blind..the journey is the only perfection¿ ¿ D
Timing has alot to do with it...what was the phrase? ¿ There are people that come into your life...if for a moment...an hour....a day ...or a lifetime. ¿ If we remain open... we grow through/with the time we spend with a friend/lover. When the time and chemistry is right the 80/20% rule follows, where we love 80% of what we have and leave the other 20% open for the adventure of change. ¿ ass u me that we or anyone else¿is perfect is the blind leading the blind..the journey is the only perfection¿ ¿ D
I know what you mean, I personaly don't think that its EVER too late to seek out the person who will be best suited for you.
What I have learned about looking for the right person over the years through some good experiences and some bad is that when we set unimportant standards and limits on what we want it will do nothing more than limit our odds of finding our significant other.
The thing that I focus on the most NOW is how he treats me and the way he makes me feel when I am with him.
If he makes me feel good about myself, happy, cared for & secure when I'm with him and if my needs are being met then I put effort into making it work, if on the other hand I feel neglected, unappreciated, disrespected , uncared for and stressed out I do not waist much time.
Every woman deserves to be cherished.
I know what you mean, I personaly don't think that its EVER too late to seek out the person who will be best suited for you.
What I have learned about looking for the right person over the years through some good experiences and some bad is that when we set unimportant standards and limits on what we want it will do nothing more than limit our odds of finding our significant other.
The thing that I focus on the most NOW is how he treats me and the way he makes me feel when I am with him.
If he makes me feel good about myself, happy, cared for & secure when I'm with him and if my needs are being met then I put effort into making it work, if on the other hand I feel neglected, unappreciated, disrespected , uncared for and stressed out I do not waist much time.
original quote by Aspengal50 "I still hold on to the belief that I will one day meet the man that will actually exceed my expectations. Though, lately the bar is set pretty low...(hey I'm 50 ok?) I'm tired of being alone. I do wonder if I'm giving up what could turn into the perfect relationship...given time. We tend to make snap judgments without giving people enough time. Ok, there are times where you just plain know that there is not even the slightest chance in the world that you could stand to be in any kind of a relationship with a particular person. But I do believe that each of us has given up a few good possibilities, if only we'd given them just a little more time, had our minds and hearts a tiny bit more open. Just maybe?..." GIVEN up a few possiblities - for me ...I think maybe...like gorgeous "Jorge" who lived on my floor in the condo building in Miami...Wished I had invited him over for dinner..as a neighbor thing..[When they live in your building....you have total control of throwing them out when need be. lol, lol OTHER times in my life...yes, I did me "the Match" for me...Hello to two particular "mates" in Australia...who I met in America.. STILL...I will never give up my goals in life..finding love being one of them.. AND..as read in profile of "Conyersguy",.
I am fully aware that Life is a series of trade-offs,
BUT I am never willing to trade-down,
When you get to know someone, date someone a few times, and you cannot envision a personal relationship with them EVER..how can you settle?¿¿¿HENCE, they coined the phrase NEXT!!!!!¿ lol. lol
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Quoting: Originally posted by Aspengal50 Does each person who draws breath have a perfect match? When do you stop looking for perfection? I feel sometimes like I'm just being too picky and at other times that I'm simply being brutally honest. There are things that each of the men I've dated lately did that I absolutely couldn't stand. Not that these were all big things, some were just stupid things that shouldn't have bothered me, but they did. Weird stuff that bugged me and I know that I couldn't live with for any long period of time...like more than a few months. Forget years, years are not even a remote possibility. Now granted, I haven't really dated many men here ...what is it they say about dating in Aspen? The odds are good but the goods are odd. No truer words... That actually sounded harsher than it was intended but if you lived here, you'd know the expression and could appreciate it's sincerity.
At what age do you give up your idea of a perfect relationship and begin to start accepting things that used to be deal breakers? Like baldness...if you ruled out bald guys in Aspen, half of the dating pool (of a certain age) would disappear. It seems like height becomes more flexible after a divorce. We married taller men and that didn't work out so well so perhaps broadening our horizons might not be such a bad idea. There are traits that we can live with but do wear us out. I dated one fellow that I dearly love as a friend but he treats each day like it was a triathlon. He physically wore me out. I tried my damnedest to keep up so I did get in pretty good shape during that relationship. As it turns out, he was madly in love with a woman who could keep up and I had my heart broken when I discovered that. However, there are things about him that I love and things that I know I just could not live with. It does make me wonder though whether there will ever be a relationship that could possibly live up to my expectations? Am I alone in this thought? Are our expectations sabotaging our potential relationships?
I still hold on to the belief that I will one day meet the man that will actually exceed my expectations. Though, lately the bar is set pretty low...(hey I'm 50 ok?) I'm tired of being alone. I do wonder if I'm giving up what could turn into the perfect relationship...given time. We tend to make snap judgments without giving people enough time. Ok, there are times where you just plain know that there is not even the slightest chance in the world that you could stand to be in any kind of a relationship with a particular person. But I do believe that each of us has given up a few good possibilities, if only we'd given them just a little more time, had our minds and hearts a tiny bit more open. Just maybe?...
Quoting Aspengal50:
Does each person who draws breath have a perfect match? When do you stop looking for perfection? I feel sometimes like I'm just being too picky and at other times that I'm simply being brutally honest. There are things that each of the men I've dated lately did that I absolutely couldn't stand. Not that these were all big things, some were just stupid things that shouldn't have bothered me, but they did. Weird stuff that bugged me and I know that I couldn't live with for any long period of time...like more than a few months. Forget years, years are not even a remote possibility. Now granted, I haven't really dated many men here ...what is it they say about dating in Aspen? The odds are good but the goods are odd. No truer words... That actually sounded harsher than it was intended but if you lived here, you'd know the expression and could appreciate it's sincerity.
At what age do you give up your idea of a perfect relationship and begin to start accepting things that used to be deal breakers? Like baldness...if you ruled out bald guys in Aspen, half of the dating pool (of a certain age) would disappear. It seems like height becomes more flexible after a divorce. We married taller men and that didn't work out so well so perhaps broadening our horizons might not be such a bad idea. There are traits that we can live with but do wear us out. I dated one fellow that I dearly love as a friend but he treats each day like it was a triathlon. He physically wore me out. I tried my damnedest to keep up so I did get in pretty good shape during that relationship. As it turns out, he was madly in love with a woman who could keep up and I had my heart broken when I discovered that. However, there are things about him that I love and things that I know I just could not live with. It does make me wonder though whether there will ever be a relationship that could possibly live up to my expectations? Am I alone in this thought? Are our expectations sabotaging our potential relationships?
I still hold on to the belief that I will one day meet the man that will actually exceed my expectations. Though, lately the bar is set pretty low...(hey I'm 50 ok?) I'm tired of being alone. I do wonder if I'm giving up what could turn into the perfect relationship...given time. We tend to make snap judgments without giving people enough time. Ok, there are times where you just plain know that there is not even the slightest chance in the world that you could stand to be in any kind of a relationship with a particular person. But I do believe that each of us has given up a few good possibilities, if only we'd given them just a little more time, had our minds and hearts a tiny bit more open. Just maybe?...
original quote by Aspengal50 "I still hold on to the belief that I will one day meet the man that will actually exceed my expectations. Though, lately the bar is set pretty low...(hey I'm 50 ok?) I'm tired of being alone. I do wonder if I'm giving up what could turn into the perfect relationship...given time. We tend to make snap judgments without giving people enough time. Ok, there are times where you just plain know that there is not even the slightest chance in the world that you could stand to be in any kind of a relationship with a particular person. But I do believe that each of us has given up a few good possibilities, if only we'd given them just a little more time, had our minds and hearts a tiny bit more open. Just maybe?..." GIVEN up a few possiblities - for me ...I think maybe...like gorgeous "Jorge" who lived on my floor in the condo building in Miami...Wished I had invited him over for dinner..as a neighbor thing..[When they live in your building....you have total control of throwing them out when need be. lol, lol OTHER times in my life...yes, I did me "the Match" for me...Hello to two particular "mates" in Australia...who I met in America.. STILL...I will never give up my goals in life..finding love being one of them.. AND..as read in profile of "Conyersguy",.
I am fully aware that Life is a series of trade-offs,
BUT I am never willing to trade-down,
When you get to know someone, date someone a few times, and you cannot envision a personal relationship with them EVER..how can you settle?¿¿¿HENCE, they coined the phrase NEXT!!!!!¿ lol. lol
Im a woman whos 5'7. I really dont care of man's height.,I dont care if he has small or big package either. All i care if he has a good and genuine heart. Look for internal heart of one person not the outside coating of this person.
Im a woman whos 5'7. I really dont care of man's height.,I dont care if he has small or big package either. All i care if he has a good and genuine heart. Look for internal heart of one person not the outside coating of this person.
Im a woman whos 5'7. I really dont care of man's height.,I dont care if he has small or big package either. All i care if he was a good and genuine heart. Look for internal heart of one person not the outside coating of this person.
Im a woman whos 5'7. I really dont care of man's height.,I dont care if he has small or big package either. All i care if he was a good and genuine heart. Look for internal heart of one person not the outside coating of this person.
Aspen, ¿ Good points.¿¿ Of course, one of the things we hopefully learn as we get older is that some of those things really don't matter.¿¿ We're not "settling."¿ They just really don't matter.¿ The best example I can give here is height.¿ Now I'm glad some of you women are picky about height (I'm 6-1), but really now, how can it possible be germane to the quality of the man?¿ Only if there was a direct correlation between the the magician and his wand, and THAT mattered to you, could I understand it. ¿ But like you say, if something's gonna drive you buggy, it really doesn't matter if it's rational or not.
Aspen, ¿ Good points.¿¿ Of course, one of the things we hopefully learn as we get older is that some of those things really don't matter.¿¿ We're not "settling."¿ They just really don't matter.¿ The best example I can give here is height.¿ Now I'm glad some of you women are picky about height (I'm 6-1), but really now, how can it possible be germane to the quality of the man?¿ Only if there was a direct correlation between the the magician and his wand, and THAT mattered to you, could I understand it. ¿ But like you say, if something's gonna drive you buggy, it really doesn't matter if it's rational or not.
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