This may seem like a silly question but it is a bit puzzling to me. I met a fellow on here and we met out for dinner. He was pleasant enough but talked about his pending divorce quite a bit as well as his soon to be “ex”. I had thought or perhaps I assumed he was separated for some time. As far as I can surmise he was still with his wife in March this year. Although he stated he was the “leavee” (as he put it) I got the feeling that he did not really want to go but rather his wife wanted him to leave (which is not the same thing).
Here is the thing- under four months ago he was still married and trying to save his marriage as he and his wife went to counseling. She didn’t want to continue..)) I did ask him if he would try and work things out with her if she agreed and he said yes but she does not want to. hhmmmm!
He sent me an email asking me to go out again but I told him that I did not feel like I had any business getting in the way of any hope of reconciliation (there are kids involved). I told him to look me up when he was more settled. (He does not even know where he will be living). I had no wish to offend him as he seemed like such a nice down to earth guy. Was I wrong?
So my question is-how can you tell if you are the subject of some attempt to fulfill a loss or need now? As far as I can remember-rebound relationships are not often healthy or successful. Is there a timeframe one can look at between separation/divorce and dating?
I, myself have been separated and living in different countries for nearly two years and I am just now looking to start dating. (Maybe I waited a ridiculously long time but I wanted to be sure to have very little baggage..))
What a great, simple, way to explain socialism. Will America wise up before we all fail??????? An economics professor at a local college made a statement that he had never failed a single student before but had once failed an entire class.
That class had insisted that socialism worked and that no one would be poor and no one would be rich, a great equalizer.
The professor then said, "OK, we will have an experiment in this class on socialism. All grades would be averaged and everyone would receive the same grade so no one would fail and no one would receive an A. The Class agreed!
After the first test, the grades were averaged and everyone got a B.
The students who studied hard were upset and the students who studied little were happy.
As the second test rolled around, the students who studied little had studied even less and the ones who studied hard decided they wanted a free ride too so they studied little.
The second test average was a D! No one was happy.
When the 3rd test rolled around, the average was an F.
The scores never increased as bickering, blame and name-calling all resulted in hard feelings and no one would study for the benefit of anyone else.
All failed, to their great surprise, and the professor told them that socialism would also ultimately fail because when the reward is great, the effort to succeed is great, but when government takes all the reward and shares it with those not earning it, no one will try or want to succeed.