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  • A heartbreak later, still surviving...
  • I've been on an online dating service before. A new friend told me about this aposed to the popular ones advertised. Had a wonderful experience with a fantastic man on my last experience. Hoping to find another best-friend through this one. Material things are great to have but ultimately, I need to feel good about the decisions and choices I've made in my own life. So the journey starts on this quite Sat. night. I can hear the laughter out in the courtyard of my apt. I'm fighting a virus & can't partake in the festivities but I love to hear people laugh, the look in their eyes of hope and love. As a helpless romantic, it's difficult for me to fight this battle I feel inside me with my cynicism about how much someone can truly love another person.Is it worth only 1 more chance to fix something? Or is it worth fighting for the one who accepts you faults & all? That's my question for today. Are we only worth 1 more chance or is 1 chance not enough?
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To love myself Posted on May 31, 2006 at 01:06 PM
To love another you must first have love for yourself. When you have love for yourself, you'll know and won't have to ask. STOP ALL CRITICISM. Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive. BE GENTLE, KIND, AND PATIENT. Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved. PRAISE YOURSELF. Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES. Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So lovingly release the old negative patterns. Above all, have compassion for yourself and for where you're at. Remember that you're a truly loveable person and that you deserve only kind treatment, especially from yourself.
Chances.... Posted on May 28, 2006 at 05:59 AM
How many chances does someone you love get? What faults are acceptable and which are not? for instance, is someone who is an alchoholic because of insecurity and becomes a even more jealous through the drinking too much to handle? Cheating for most isn't acceptable including myself. If the relationship isn't abusive, physically or hard is too hard too work at it?