You can have everything, but if you don't know how to communicate what you want or need your relationship is doomed! That's right DOOMED! Why do you think your relationship starts of with a bang and then ends leaving you to wonder what went wrong? The reason is simple you didn't communicate very well. I know men are not very effective at communicating. They expect you to know what they want. Take it from me, I have been their for eight months. So I have the t-shirt to proove it. Want your relationship to succeed, then learn to talk and listen. Don't say hony I hear you. You very well know you are just saying it to get her off your back and girls don't bombard your man. If he is not a communicator then you will have to teach him. A relationship have four legs it stands on. 1. Communication. 2. Trust. 3. Respect. 4. Sex. If no. 2-4 is missing you can still find a way to deal with it, but if your communication is in trouble you will have trouble. So for those who are already in a relationship start communicating and for those considering. You will do well to remember it. Now most will ask what is communication. Simple. It is the way you express yourself with words. With the words you speak you convey a message. So choose your words carefully in future.
How do you find that special someone? Easy I say. The most improtant thing is know exactly what you want. If you can do that you are half way there. The first thing you have to do is take out a peace of paper. Then write what you want and don't want. Rember be specific. If he/she has to have green eyes for eg. then write it down. Write as much detail about the person you want in your life or don't want in your life down. You have got to know other wise you will not meet that person or get close to what you want. I have seen many people on this site that is looking for that special someone. Do this excersise and see what happen. Keep the paper with your ideal mate on it safe. The cosmic law of life work diffrent to what we think. So if you are serious about wanting someone in your life then do it!
How scary that my sound if you don't try you will never know. Life will always have there ups and downs. It is what you make of it. If life gives you lemons make lemonade. We always think that life is not fair. Is that true or is it that when things do not go our way that we through a tantrum and say life is not fair. I say take a chance on life. You never know what could happen.
Is it fair to say that someone is a gold digger just because he/she wants a beter life? In my life I have learnt that whether you are rich or not doesn't mater. Take away the money, the fame, and everything else and it all boils down to one thing. You are still human, and humans make mistakes. Nobody is perfect. GOLD DIGGERS is a term used by those that think that they are better than others. People that want a better life are ambisious. Society is crewd up. Nothing is as it use to be.
Will it ever stop? Your mom likes him, but you don't. You like him, but your mom don't. Can one realy please your mother in this regard? Thinking back I must say I made some prety awful choices. Why is it that we tend to go for the guys our mothers hate? Is it to spite or prove that we are more than capable of finding mr Right? Can we come to a compromise? Will we ever learn or keep on making the same mistakes. Do we settle for more or less? At this stage I am not sure, but one thing I know is that I can not settle for my mothers choice. No way! Then I would rather stay unmarried.
Loneliness can be a friend or enemy. This will solely depend on your view point. The question of how to deal with loneliness still elude many people. If you are a shift worker or listen to the radio late at night you will hear lots of people are awake. Some by choice, some by the sheer need for company. In dealing with the matter it is wise to find yourself a pet. It my not be human, but can releave the most lonely of lonely people for the need of companionship. Loneliness can drive people to do insane even irresponsible things. Keeping busy deffinately will break the patron of loneliness. So get busy with something or get a pet.
Today has been a long day. Being a trainer for the Department of Correctional Services makes sure you think on your feet. Presenting frontline management is no joke, especialy if you don't know the content. Keswa was late and I took over. Sixty six new students are giving her stress, it seems. Lucky for me I adapt fast because of my life experience. Finally I am doing what I have wanted to do for so long. Seven year is a long time to waite, but patients is a virtue. People at work have been telling me how happy I look and that I should have made this move a long time ago. Shadow has come to fetch me to sleep. At this stage I don't feel like sleeping. Living on a farm has it positive and negative sides. Looking at my new surroundings I feel frustrated. Boxes are stacked in my study. I now I have to unpack. The tempreture is dopping fast. It is cold for October. Last year this time I slept in summer pjs, now I am wearing my winter ones. How strange. The wind is blowing softly. Making the big old trees leaves rustle. Tomorrow is another day. I wonder what challanges ly ahead. At least is Friday and I don't work shifts any more. What a blessing. This weekend I will have to do through preparation for the HIV/AIDS PEER EDUCATORS TRAINING on Monday and Teusday. This issue is being tackled head on in the department. I hope I get permision to hold a bennit for the first of December. It will be good pa for us.
Time to go. Until tomorrow.