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Awareness Brings Love and Your Soulmate Posted on Jun 16, 2006 at 09:03 PM
This article reflects many of my own beliefs; I thought I would share it here. Awareness Brings Love and Your Soulmate By: Elizabeth Joyce A time comes in your life when you finally get it When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH ALREADY! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. Slowly, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world through new eyes. This is your awakening. You realize that it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that in the real world there aren't always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of happily ever after must begin with you, and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance. Accepting how things are and that you cannot change them is most difficult. Arriving at an inner peace that this is fact seems to be even more difficult. You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect, and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are and that's OK (Others are entitled to their own views and opinions.) You begin to learn the importance of loving and championing yourself, your goals, your desires, and in the process a sense of newly found confidence is born of self-approval. You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn't do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected. You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say, and that not everyone will always be there for you, and that life is not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own, to take care of yourself and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance. You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are, to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties and, in the process, a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness. As Louise Hay used to say, true forgiveness is forgiving others for what they have done or what they have not done, past, present and future. You realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you, is a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche from birth. As you begin to sift through all the crap you've been fed about how you should behave, how you should look, how much you shouldn't weigh, what you should wear, where you should shop, what you should drive, how and where you should live, what you should do for a living, who you should sleep with, who you should marry, what you should expect of a marriage or what you owe your parents, you learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. This is a great step getting to know yourself. There was a time that I did not know of any style of furniture except Ethan Allen. One day a friend of mine took me into New York City. We went to a huge furniture store. There was a different theme setting on each floor. One floor was French Provincial, one floor was Chinese, one floor was Mediterranean, one floor was Modern. What a shock that was for me. I loved going to each floor, and to watch my inner reactions. I learned what I liked and did not like. What warmed my heart and made me feel comfortable and what did not. It was a great experience. As you begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for, you learn the difference between wanting and needing, and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with. In the process you learn to respect your instincts. You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive. That there is power and glory in creating and contributing, and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a consumer looking for your next fix. You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life. This is how Love begins. This is how trust builds. When you find your truth, your specialness within your own heart, growth occurs and happiness follows. You learn that you don't know everything, it's not your job to save the world, and that you can't teach a pig to sing. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility, and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry, and that martyrs get burned at the stake. Guilt is someone else wanting you to do what you really do not want to do, and it doesn't work. It is manipulation and control, and in seeing this, you can resist the old feeling of I have to, and begin to live as you choose without having to apologize to anyone. Then you learn about love; romantic love and familial love. You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable, or important because of the man or woman on your arm, or the child that bears your name. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations, and outcomes. You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love. You find out that love is a verb, it is action. You can then look in the mirror and come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a perfect 10 and you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head while agonizing over how you stack up. You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity, and respect, and you will not settle for less. You allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you, to glorify you with his or her touch and in the process you internalize the meaning of self-respect. You learn that your body really is your temple. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water, and taking more time to exercise. You learn that fatigue diminishes the Spirit and can create doubt and fear, so you take more time to rest. Just as food fuels the body, you find that laughter fuels the Soul, so you take more time to laugh and to play. You learn that, for the most part in life, you get what you believe you deserve and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for, and that wishing for something to happen is different from working toward making it happen. More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success, you need direction, discipline, and perseverance. One thing that seems to be lacking at this time in our history is discipline. Remember the word is from disciple, or a follower of truth. You also learn that no one can do it all alone and that it's okay to risk asking for help. You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time, FEAR itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears, because you know that whatever happens you can handle it. You know that to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your terms. You learn to fight for your life, appreciate your time on Earth, and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom. You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think you deserve, and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people. On these occasions you learn not to personalize things. You learn that God isn't punishing you or failing to answer your prayers. It's just life happening. Then you will learn to deal with evil in its most primal state - the EGO. (Easing God Out!) You learn that feelings such as anger, envy, and resentment must be understood and redirected, or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you. You learn to admit when you are wrong, to make amends when you can, and to build bridges instead of walls. You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about; such as a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, or a long hot shower. Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself, and you try to make yourself a promise-to never betray yourself. So, you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind. You put out a bird house with fresh seed and smile as the colorful birds come to feed. You make it a point to keep smiling, keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility. Each day is an experience, and nothing lasts forever, except the imprint of love within your heart. Finally, with courage in your heart you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live, as best as you can. It is then that you can truly share with others. Oh, one more thing! There is something you should know. You have been loved since long ago, and are never without it. This love is deep within your own heart. Without love your Soul will fade away. Your Soulmate is here on the planet, waiting for you.
Online Love Chemistry Posted on Jun 06, 2006 at 11:02 PM
How can one become attracted, fall in love, and what have you, ONLINE? What happens is you'll meet the right person online that meets your expectations of chemistry in the following stages: 1. You like each other's bios. Next 2. The photos you receive are very intriguing. Next 3. The email banter is very stimulating, flirtatious, etc. Next 4. The telephone conversations bring about interesting connections. Next 5. The real life meeting, the most important of all, you go armed with the knowledge that you are about to meet someone whom you already have evidence of being attractive, witty, bright, kind, talented, etc. And realizing all that, it's easier to feel comfortable. If you are attracted to him/her physically, you're going to know in about 10 seconds, and if it's mutual, then BAM! off you go. The fun is just about to start. So... you have to meet each level of chemistry as it comes to you and pass... for some, this is effortless, for many it can stop on any level. People who don't spend the appropriate amount of time at each level are going to get curveballs thrown at them, trust me. People who spend too much time at any level above are going to risk falling for a projected image of their ideal fantasy. This happens often and easily, for a few reasons. Your mind is playing tricks on you, it's a form of escape and wishful thinking, and you aren't used to dating this way, as it really is the reverse of what we've all been doing for years. Try to trust your instincts. Be safe, be honest, and have fun!
A Women's Anthem Posted on Jun 03, 2006 at 07:36 PM
Alicia Keys is my favorite female vocalist. A Woman's Worth by Alicia Keys You could buy me diamonds You could buy me pearls Take me on a cruise around the world Baby you know I'm worth it Dinner lit by candles Run my bubble bath Make love tenderly to last, to last Baby you know I'm worth it Wanna please wanna keep wanna treat your woman right Not just dough but to show that you know she is worth your time You will lose if you chose to refuse to put her first She will if she can find a man who knows her worth Mmm Cause a real man, knows a real woman when he sees her And a real woman knows a real man ain't afraid to please her And a real woman knows a real man always comes first And a real man just can't deny a womans worth If you treat me fairly I'll give you all my goods Treat you like a real woman should Baby I know you're worth it If you never play me Promise not to bluff I'll hold you down when shit gets rough Cause baby I know you're worth it She walks the mile makes you smile all the while being true Don't take for granted the passions that she has for you You will lose if you chose to refuse to put her first She will if she can find a man who knows her worth Oh Cause a real man knows a real woman when he sees her And a real woman knows a real man ain't afraid to please her And a real woman knows a real man always comes first And a real man just can't deny a woman's worth No need to read between the lines spelled out for you (spelled out for you) Just hear this song cause you can't go wrong when you value (better value) A woman's (woman's) Woman's (woman's) WORTH! Cause a real man knows a real woman when he sees her And a real woman knows a real man ain't afraid to please her And a real woman knows a real man always comes first And a real man just can't deny a woman's worth
Lyrics to one of my favorite song. Posted on Jun 03, 2006 at 03:17 PM
I'm a big fan of Gerald Levert because most of his songs speaks to a woman's heart. Gerald Levert - I'd Give Anything I'm waiting For someone who could turn my life Around Someone who could make me feel The way I use to feel But she never comes I'm searching But there's no one that I'd care to talk About And all the lovers in the world Don't amount to much 'cause what I really want is just one true love I'd give anything And everything To fall in love Just this one time I'd like to find What I've been dreaming of Well I could find someone to hold me But that wouldn't be enough I'd give anything To fall in love Now I lay here I'd rather not be sleeping by myself Staring at the wall I question it all Will she ever come I'd give anything And everything To fall in love Just this one time I'd like to find What I've been dreaming of Well I could find someone to hold me But that wouldn't be enough... I'd give anything To fall in love I'm gonna keep on making wishes I'm gonna keep on being strong I won't settle for less than true love at it's best I'm gonna keep on holdin' on I would give anything to fall in love I'd give anything And everything To fall in love Just this one time I'd like to find What I've been dreaming of Well I could find someone To hold me But that wouldn't be Enough I'd give anything To fall in love I'd give anything To fall in love I wanna fall I wanna fall In love...
Benjamin Franklin said, Posted on Jun 01, 2006 at 08:29 PM
'Most people die at age 25, but are not buried until age 65'. What do you think he is really saying? My Answer: He was saying that people forget how to dream.
How You Undress... Reveals Your Personality Posted on Jun 01, 2006 at 02:07 PM
Psychiatrist Dr. Frank Caprio gives the following breakdown: Which type are you? HAPHAZARD UNDRESSER If you throw your clothes all over the house, you are a friendly, life-of-the-party type. You are: free with your thoughts and opinions, not caring much about what others think of you. METICULOUS UNDRESSER If you remove each piece of clothing and put it away carefully, you are a serious person who likes life very calm. You are: comfortable with routine and you believe that the best way to deal with life's problems is to prevent them in the first place. SHOES AND SOCKS FIRST UNDRESSER You methodically remove your shoes and socks before you begin undressing. You are: a perfectionist, a bit shy, observant, dependable, intense and think before making decisions. You go about your tasks methodically, with concentration. You know how to pay attention. SLOW UNDRESSER You take off the shirt and ten minutes later get around to taking off your pants or skirt. You are: extremely self-confident, intellectual, a deep thinker and do not like to be hassled. Usually you like a lot of free time for yourself. FAST UNDRESSER You get out of your clothes as quickly as possible. You are: concerned about others and what they expect from you but you are worried about your own needs. You are family-oriented and stay extremely busy. JEWELRY OFF FIRST UNDRESSER You take off your rings, watch, etc. before anything else. You are: warm, thoughtful, sensitive and romantic. NEVER THE SAME WAY UNDRESSER You never undress the same way twice. You are: a very curious, interesting person and you enjoy a broad range of activities. You take risks and enjoy fun and adventure. I am a Jewelry Off First Undresser; definition just about sums me up.
Finding your soul mate. Posted on May 27, 2006 at 10:59 PM
Sure, we all dream about meeting the right person. . . the one that we are meant to be with forever. Dreaming about it is all fun and easy, but the real question is, where do you find this soul mate of yours? Fate? Well yes, if you believe in fate, then yes, it will have something to do with it, but not without effort on your part. Fate needs you to give it direction so that as a team, you can find the person you have always wanted as a part of your life. The first thing you have to do before finding your soul mate, is finding yourself. What qualities are important to you? What are your morals and beliefs? How do you show your affection and how do you expect it to be presented to you? These are questions necessary for you to ask yourself before going out there. Giving yourself an interview will make things clearer of what type of person you are really looking for, instead of just going on a blind search. It is very common for a person to date people just for "dating". While dating is a fun and useful experience, it is not advisable to just go out with anyone just to have a date, or to enter a relationship because you do not want to be alone. When you go out on a date, it is important that you use that date as an opportunity to observe and see if the person is someone you would like to see again and if they carry the qualities you are looking for. If, for example, if you are searching for a person who is in touch with his or her romantic side, but go on a date with someone who likes acting rough at baseball games and loves hunting, then you could pretty much see where the relationship would go. You should be able to sense these qualities after a few dates. Once you have realized that these dates will not lead to a relationship you have dreamed of, then obviously the person is not your dream mate either, and it would be best if you stop seeing each other to prevent any misleading expectations. Continuing to date someone just because you entered a comfort zone or do not want to hurt their feelings will only hold you back from meeting who you are really meant to be with, not to mention waste precious time for both you and your date's. Gently break it to him or her that you find them to be a very interesting and nice person, but you feel like going solo for a while and then move on. Tracking down your soul mate will require patience; so do not feel frustrated or hopeless if you do not find him or her in a certain amount of time. Good things take time to be brought together and you will come together when the time is right. The time becomes right when you look out for the right signs. Such signs would be: Being strongly attracted to each other physically. Being strongly attracted to each other's personalities. Having common interests. Sharing the same values. Major respect for one another. Someone who makes you feel truly special and worthy. Someone who puts in a great effort to show you their passion for you and the things that is important in your life. Meeting on the same emotional levels. These are some major and important signs to look out for when trying to track down your soul mate. It will not be difficult to realize because you will know when things are right and the way you want it. When you have found such a person, it is good for you to remember to take things one-step at a time. Sometimes people jump in too fast and end up getting hurt or realizing they jumped to conclusions a little too soon. Take it slow and observe how things are going. See if the person who seems to be perfect in every way for you, remains to carry the same qualities as the relationship proceeds. When time has proven that the two of you are truly compatible in ways you have always dreamed of, then the relationship may go to the next level and the two of you can make a serious commitment and start focusing on building a future together. Like before, it is important that you pay attention to how you handle a commitment together and if you both agree on what kind of future the two of have in mind. Staying on the same levels is a huge sign that you are with the right person. Finding your soul mate will be the best accomplishment you will ever make, but it does not stop there. Finding the right person is just the beginning. Keeping the right person takes work too, on both your parts. The two of you will have to continue valuing each other for the rest of your lives, respecting each other's individuality and dreams. Refresh your memory of how the two of were brought together and why you both decided to make a commitment to one another. As long as you keep the magic between you alive, your relationship will continue to grow the love and care you both never imagined could ever happen to you!
Chronicles of a Single Woman Posted on May 26, 2006 at 10:52 PM
So ladies are you ready? These are 10 rules that every single or dating woman should take to heart: 1. Never get your hopes up too high too soon, for he could be wanting a friendship only at the time. 2. Never push him in a direction that you think he should go, for the more you push the more he will balk. And believe me they can come up with some really good reasons why! 3. Let him have some room, or they call it personal space. They like to "breathe" which consists of "male bonding" , or having time to themselves. 4. Go out with your girlfriends; they are probably wondering what happened to you! 5. Be independant enough to have your own life, for he will value you for that. 6. Stick to what you say or do, for men don't really like spineless women. Get some backbone girl! And don't think that he can read your mind, HE CAN'T! Be bluntly honest in a nice way; it usually turns out better in the long run! 7. Don't nag, they hate that! 8. He has feelings too; they just don't express it like we do. If you do happen to find someone who does, don't let him go!! 9. Don't expect instant miracles; you can't change them, sorry. But don't change who you are for them either. 10. Life only happens once, and if that means ending a relationship for some reason, do it! Get out of your rut and enjoy life, follow your dreams and you will never regret it!
Why Look To The Web For Love? Posted on May 24, 2006 at 11:45 PM
Why look to the web for love? Can the web be trusted to deliver to you that Mr. or Mrs. Right that has eluded your life so far? Well, for a lot of people that have found Mr. Right on the web, the answer is a resounding yes! Others, however, are far more skeptical. So I examined the pro's and con's of online dating and came up with the following: Pro's No Insecurity For many people the thought of going out trying to meet someone in real life is simply daunting. For them, even if they met somebody they liked the look of, the thought of actually going up to talk to them is simply too much. What would they say to them? How would the other person react? For a lot of people, the web is simply a godsend. They can simply log in to a chat room or personals site and be themselves. You are not meeting someone face to face, there really even does not have to be any verbal communication. It is all done with text through a computer, or through the online personals. Get to know a person Through the web, you have a great chance to get to know a person for who they really are before the physical aspect is even in question. With online relationships, there has to be communication. This interchange of ideas is that allows people to really get to know another person. Not limited by time On the web, you can log on at any time and find someone to chat to. For people that are extremely busy and don't have time for the bar surfing or socializing, it is much more convenient to be able to log on when they have 30 minutes or so to spare. Not limited geographically It is a big world out there and there are a lot of people searching for love. In looking for love online you are not just limited to friends of the girl next door or your workplace. Cons Not limited geographically One of the biggest pros for online dating also happens to be one of its biggest cons. Geography! With the web, it is very possible that you will meet and fall for someone who lives an incredible distance away from you. The chances of this happening can be reduced if you look for love in the personals rather than chat rooms. Are they an "Axe Murderer"? How do you know the person is being real on the other end of the computer? We all hear stories about people that went out and met their Internet lover who turned out to be an "Axe Murderer" The simple fact is that you can meet some nasty people out there so be careful. However, if you take your time and talk to someone for long enough, it is very difficult to totally fake your feelings. Also, whose to say that the person you met at the party wasn't the same? So, why look to the web for love? Because it allows you the freedom to find someone on your own terms. You don't have to be fake to impress someone. The more honest you are the better your chances of finding someone that loves you for you. As always, there are risks, so be careful.