This blog is for informational/educational purposes only and is in no way meant to offend anyone.
1. NEVER give out your personal email address, phone number, place of employment, mailing address or your last name to someone you just met online.
2. Stay on the site to communicate. Scammers want to get you on to IM quickly or email through your personal email address. There are 2 reasons for this: (1) the scammer knows it is just a matter of time before they will be kicked off the site and they would not be able to continue communicating with you and (2) to gain personal information about you.
3. NEVER send money to anyone—NEVER NEVER NEVER!
4. NEVER accept or cash any check or money order for anyone.
5. Trust your gut instinct---if something does not sound right, it probably isn’t.
6. Ask questions and listen to the answers you are getting---do they make sense?
If at anytime you suspect you might be communicating with a scammer, please report it. You may either email me at MMCounselor or contact support. We will be more than happy to check them out for you.
Do not post any username here without prior verification the member has been removed.
The majority of the photos posted here are not of the actual scammer, but are photos of innocent people that were stolen.
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author.
Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: It is you who determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! ♥
Margarine was originally manufactured to fatten turkeys. When it killed the turkeys, the people who had put all the money into the research wanted a payback so they put their heads together to figure out what to do with this product to get their money back.
It was a white substance with no food appeal so they added the yellow colouring and sold it to people to use in place of butter. How do you like it? They have come out with some clever new flavourings....
DO YOU KNOW.. The difference between margarine and butter?
Read on to the end...gets very interesting!
Both have the same amount of calories. Butter is slightly higher in saturated fats at 8 grams; compared to 5 grams for margarine.
Eating margarine can increase heart disease in women by 53% over eating the same amount of butter, according to a recent Harvard Medical Study.
Eating butter increases the absorption of many other nutrients in other foods. Butter has many nutritional benefits where margarine has a few and only because they are added!
Butter tastes much better than margarine and it can enhance the flavours of other foods.
Butter has been around for centuries where margarine has been around for less than 100 years .
And now, for Margarine..
Very High in Trans fatty acids.
Triples risk of coronary heart disease ...
Increases total cholesterol and LDL (this is the bad cholesterol) and lowers HDL cholesterol, (the good cholesterol)
Increases the risk of cancers up to five times..
Lowers quality of breast milk
Decreases immune response.
Decreases insulin response.
And here's the most disturbing fact... HERE IS THE PART THAT IS VERY INTERESTING!
Margarine is but ONE MOLECULE away from being PLASTIC... and shares 27 ingredients with PAINT.
These facts alone were enough to have me avoiding margarine for life and anything else that is hydrogenated (this means hydrogen is added, changing the molecular structure of the substance).
Open a tub of margarine and leave it open in your garage or shaded area. Within a couple of days you will notice a couple of things:
* no flies, not even those pesky fruit flies will go near it (that should tell you something)
* it does not rot or smell differently because it has no nutritional value ; nothing will grow on it. Even those teeny weeny microorganisms will not a find a home to grow.
Why? Because it is nearly plastic . Would you melt your Tupperware and spread that on your toast?
Share This With Your Friends.....(If you want to butter them up')!
Chinese Proverb: When someone shares something of value with you and you benefit from it, you have a moral obligation to share it with others.
I know some of you own GUNS but this is something to think about...
If you don't have a gun, here's a more humane way to wreck someone's evil plans for you. Did you know this? I didn't. I never really thought of it before. I guess I can get rid of the baseball bat.
Wasp Spray - A friend who is a receptionist in a church in a high-risk area was concerned about someone coming into the office on Monday to rob them when they were counting the collection. She asked the local police department about using pepper spray and they recommended to her that she get a can of wasp spray instead.
The wasp spray, they told her, can shoot up to twenty feet away and is a lot more accurate, while with the pepper spray, they have to get too close to you and could overpower you. The wasp spray temporarily blinds an attacker until they get to the hospital for an antidote. She keeps a can on her desk in the office and it doesn't attract attention from people like a can of pepper spray would. She also keeps one nearby at home for home protection. Thought this was interesting and might be of use.
On the heels of a break in and beating that left an elderly woman in Toledo dead, self-defense experts have a tip that could save your life.
Val Glinka teaches self-defense to students at Sylvania South view High School. For decades, he's suggested putting a can of wasp and hornet spray near your door or bed.
Glinka says, "This is better than anything I can teach them."
Glinka considers it inexpensive, easy to find, and more effective than mace or pepper spray. The cans typically shoot 20 to 30 feet; so if someone tries to break into your home, Glinka says "spray the culprit in the eyes". It's a tip he's given to students for decades.
It's also one he wants everyone to hear. If you're looking for protection, Glinka says look to the spray. "That's going to give you a chance to call the police; maybe get out." Maybe even save a life.
Please share this with all the people who are precious to your life Did you also know that wasp spray will kill a snake? And a mouse! It will! Good to know, huh? It will also kill a wasp!!!
It has been brought to our attention that someone is sending out an email to members asking for their Username, Password and Age. While this email may appear to be coming from MM/SuccessfulMatch, it is not. MM/SuccessfulMatch would never ask you to send that information. If you received such an email, DO NOT REPLY to it. Obviously someone is phishing for information to access profiles.
Here is the email that was sent out. Thanks and Stay Safe! Britt
Upgrading on our site. Wednesday, September 7, 2011 12:19 PMFrom:
firstname.lastname@example.org Dear member,
there is an upgrading on our site for all the upgrading members,due to this, your account is not visible to other members at the moment,pls click on the reply and provide the following informations to correct the error on your account.
Username: Password: Age:
If you'd like to change any other information in the future, please go to the "update my account" link after 24 hours of submitting the requested information.
.If you have any suggestion on improving our service, please let us know.
I was just over in the Chat room--not sure how many of you have had the chance to give it a try, but it is rather fun. Instant interaction with other members there having a good time. Hope to see more of you joining in on the fun -- a great Ice Breaker to meet new members.
To say the least, being MMCounselor can be challenging, but very humorous at times. I have decided to start sharing some of the humorous things I deal with daily. This is an actual online chat I had with a member today and I am still "smiling & nodding". You just couldn't make this stuff up! I am posting this to warn all the women here, there is a DANGEROUS man on the site! Please be careful and STAY SAFE! Brittany
Online chat with a member:
Member:Can you help me?
Counselor:What seems to be the problem?
Member:I got email from Sam
Counselor:Who is Sam?
Member:the guy that sent me email
Counselor:OK—what is Sam’s username on the site?
Member:I told you his name is Sam-he sent me email.
Counselor:I can’t find a member with the username of Sam
Member:That is why I need help
Counselor:OK—how can I help you with Sam?
Member:You need to move Sam
Counselor: Where should I move him to?
Counselor:There is no member on the site with the username of Sam
Member:He signs the email Sam.He won’t lie
Counselor:What is the name on his profile?
Member:How do I find profile?
Counselor:Click on the name of who the email is from.
Member:k did that
Counselor:Does he have a photo posted?
Member:yes I think so
Counselor:What do you mean, you think so?Is there a photo there or not?
Member:yes photo of a car I think
Counselor:OK—next to the photo you think is a car, you will see Username:xxxxxxxxx
Member:no don’t see usernamexxxxx
Member:it says username: IAMINSANE
Counselor:OK—what seems to be the problem with him?
Member:He sent email asking if I had breakfast yet—that is personal question.I thnk he is very dangerus man
Member:Hello are you there?
Member:ar us there?
Member:wher are you?
Counselor: DON’T BOTHER ME! I AM SLITTING MY WRISTS! (did not actually respond with this, but I was sure thinking it)
How To Be Rude: Anti-Guide To Blogging Here’s how to be inconsiderate, uncouth and downright rude on your blog.
Step 1: Stop Listening
It’s all mindless babble, right?
What good would listening do? You’ve got a message to sell. Don’t pay any attention to what people are saying about anything else, either. If you want to make a statement, make a statement. Do it. No need to ask anybody for input. Feedback is for sissies.
While we’re at it, you can forget about listening to what people aren’t saying as well. The comments they aren’t leaving at your blog. The thumbs-ups they’re not giving you. The rave reviews you’re not seeing. So what if the spotlight is shining on another’s face? Blogging rudeness is all about you, baby …
Step 2: Stop Caring
… And because it’s all about you, who else matters?
When you start caring about what people think, you open yourself up to all kinds of pain. Why put yourself through all that? It’s so much easier to just speak your mind and go your own way. One of the best ways to be rude – and therefore, one of the best ways to guarantee that you’ll never achieve respect as a blogger – is to stop caring about anything and anyone else except for you and your stuff.
Step 3: Stop Sharing
Sharing is tough. Sharing means selfness. Sharing means listening and caring.
The sooner you stop posting about issues that might interest the members here, the better. The more space and time you’ll have to devote to strutting your own stuff. Besides, why would people interested in your blog want to be diverted away ? Isn’t that antithetical to your quest for domination and control. Remember your beliefs are the only right ones and it is your job to bring others to your mindset.
Never mind that whole thing about reciprocity. As you sow, so shall you … however it goes, you’ve long since forgotten.
Step 4: Start Complaining
Now that you’ve stopped listening, caring and sharing in your blogging and succeeded to offend members with your vulgar language or perhaps your blog has been removed for failure to comply with the Terms of Service agreement, the next step is to fill the void. Time for some griping! Now is the time to really open up and show your real stuff.Fire up – say whatever you want.
Complain about the technology. Complain about your missing blog. Complain about the chore of going on and on about yourself.Complain about the comments left on your blog. Heck, you can even complain about the complaining.
Since when did a positive, grateful attitude get you anywhere.
Step 5: Start Being Ugly
Now for some real fun. It’s time to get mean and nasty.
Not to mention unforgiving. Remember that fiasco when so-and-so didn’t agree with your self-centered blogging campaign? You could just forgive them and move on, but where’s the fun in that? Track ‘em down and give ‘em a piece of your rude, rude mind.
Wait a sec – don’t track ‘em down. Instead, bring them to you. Start a new blog and just vent. Be as filthy and rotten as you can. After all, people seem to like that.
Moral of the Story Time
Let’s review, shall we?
The best ways to be rude in your blogging:
Start being ugly.
Now get out there and make me proud. And may you fail miserably to the extent that you do these things.
And whatever you do, do NOT leave a comment below. Because I don’t care, and I’m not listening.
CID warns of Internet romance scams By U.S. Army Criminal Investigation Command
FORT BELVOIR, Va. (March 23, 2010) -- Special agents from the U.S. Army Criminal Investigation Command are warning the American public to be vigilant of Internet scams and impersonation fraud -- especially those promising true love, but only end up breaking hearts and bank accounts.
According to Army agents, CID is receiving frequent reports of various scams involving persons pretending to be U.S. Soldiers, who get romantically involved on the Internet with female victims and prey on their emotions and patriotism.
"We are seeing a number of scams being perpetrated on the internet, especially on social, dating-type websites where females are the main target," explained Chris Grey, Army CID's spokesman.
The criminals are pretending to be U.S. servicemen, routinely serving in Iraq or Afghanistan. The perpetrators will often take the true rank and name of a Soldier who is honorably serving his country somewhere in the world, marry that up with some photographs of a Soldier off of the internet, and then build a false identity to begin prowling the internet for victims.
The scams often involve requests for money from the victim to purchase "special laptop computers," international telephones and transportation fees to be used by the "deployed Soldier," so their fictitious relationship can continue. The scams include asking the victim to send money, often thousands of dollars at a time, to a third party address so the phone or laptop can be purchased for the Soldier.
Once hooked, the criminals continue their ruse.
"We've even seen instances where the perpetrators are asking the victims for money to "purchase leave papers" from the Army or help pay for their flight home so they can leave the war zone," said Grey.
These scams are outright theft and fraud and are a grave misrepresentation of the U.S. Army and the tremendous amount of support programs and mechanisms that exist for Soldiers today, especially those serving overseas, said Grey.
Army CID is warning people to be very suspicious if they begin a relationship on the internet with someone claiming to be an American Soldier and within a matter of weeks, the alleged Soldier is asking for money or marriage.
Many of these cases have a distinct pattern to them, explained Grey. "These are not Soldiers, they are thieves."
The perpetrators often tell the victims that their units do not have telephones or they are not allowed to make calls or they need money to "help keep the Army internet running."
"We've even seen where the crooks said that the Army won't allow the Soldier to access their personal bank accounts or credit cards," said Grey.
All lies, according to CID officials.
"These perpetrators, often from other countries, most notably from Ghana, Angola and Nigeria, are good at what they do and quite familiar with American culture, but the claims about the Army and its regulations are ridiculous," said Grey.
To date there have been no reports to Army CID indicating any U.S. servicemembers have suffered any financial loss as a result of these attacks. Photographs and actual names of servicemembers have been the only thing utilized. On the contrary, the victims have lost thousands.
The U.S. has established numerous task force organizations to deal with this and other growing issues; unfortunately, the personnel committing these scams are utilizing untraceable email addresses on "gmail, yahoo, aol," etc., routing accounts through numerous locations around the world, and utilizing pay-per-hour Internet cyber cafes, which often times maintain no accountability of use. The ability of law enforcement to identify these perpetrators is limited, so individuals must stay on the alert to protect themselves.
What to look for:
• If you do start an Internet-based relationship with someone, check them out, research what they are telling you with someone who would know, such as a current or former servicemember.
• Be very suspicious if you never get to actually speak with the person on the phone or are told you cannot write or receive letters in the mail. Servicemen and women serving overseas will often have an APO or FPO mailing address. Internet or not, servicemembers always appreciate a letter in the mail.
• Be extremely suspicious if you are asked for money for transportation costs, communication fees or marriage processing and medical fees.
• Many of the negative claims made about the military and the supposed lack of support and services provided to troops overseas are far from reality -- check the facts.
• Be very suspicious if you are asked to send money or ship property to a third party or company. Often times the company exists, but has no idea or is not a part of the scam.
MM has added a new feature to the site to better serve the members. Online Chat Support assistance is now available 24 hours a day 7 days a week to help members with website issues. You may chat online with a support team member and have your questions answered immediately. There may be occasions when you will experience a few minute delay if they are assisting another member, so be patient and try again in a few minutes. Until now, members have had to email support and wait 24 hours for a response, so having a support team member available 24/7 will be of great value to the members here. They may assist you with website issues, such as how the site features work or any technical difficulties you may be experiencing. I hope everyone will find this new feature to be beneficial and will utilize the services provided. As always, Stay safe, and Best wishes to you, Brittany MM Counselor
Today I received an email from a member, asking me to view her photos and tell her if I felt some of them might be sending the wrong message to men------well I did and yes there were several that might have been sending the wrong message. This caused me to do a little research of profiles here on the site and I found this one, very interesting comment on a male member's profile:
" I do have a comment/question..... Why, when 96% of you girls, present a seductive, provocative picture of yourselves, with sexuality posted front and centre in your profiles, feel men shouldn't make a sexual ineundo to you??????"
I just wanted to pass this on as "food for thought", since the comment came from a man.
Hi Isabella, I am always happy to see members blogging, but in observing your technique, there are a couple of issues I would like to bring to your attention: 1. Don't be a BLOG HOG--meaning, posting multiple (meaningless) blogs in a short period of time is considered Hogging the Blogs. This is construed to mean "LOOK AT ME", an appearance most members do not care for. If you are blogging only for attention, I might suggest you try the "highlighting feature" for your profile instead of posting ridiculous Fairy Tale blogs. 2. When members take the time to comment on your blogs, it is proper to respond to their comments--NOT REMOVE them. You certainly have the right to remove a comment if it is offensive in anyway, but I do know you have removed members comments that did not fall into this offensive category. This is nothing short of just plain rudeness. The blogs are a means for members to interact with one another. You have posted a multitude of blogs in a very short period of time--some have very few views while others have a fair amout of views, but only a couple of them still have comments from members on them--while you have chosen to remove all of the other comments. I am not sure what your agenda is, but you definitely are creating a negative vibe among the other bloggers and I do hope you will rethink your blogging etiquette. If you do not want feedback/ intereaction from other members, then you shouldn't be here blogging---plain and simple! So far your blogging techniques are causing members to attack you--I am giving you the benefit of the doubt at this time and saying, I don't think that is what you want, but then again, maybe it is. As you can tell, I am a pretty "straight shooter" and "tell it like it is" type person. I am here to help the members and when I see things "running in the ditch" I step up and try to get the issues resolved. You are more than welcome to continue to blog, but stop removing comments made by other members and try to limit the number of new blogs to maybe 1 a day. Best wishes to you, Brittany MM Counselor
Well for starters, I don't believe I just said "I Need a Man's Opinion", but stranger things have happened around here, so here it goes!
Daily I receive emails from female members asking me to critique their profiles and they want to know why men are not contacting them. My personal opinion is that men are very visual, so perhaps photos are what men look at, rather than actually reading the content of the profile---am I correct on this assumption?
What are you men looking for when you are searching profiles? (Please be nice in answering this--haha!) Seriously, I want to know what is it about a profile that makes you want to make contact with that person?
Can't wait to hear from all you HUNKS!
I'll Give You A Call! I received this email from a member and I would love to hear a man's take on this one. I personally feel this is just the typical male, who does not have the guts to tell her, "He's Just Not Into Her". Why do men say they will call and don't? Give it to me guys! Britt MM Counselor
I JOINED THIS GENTLEMAN AT THE OPERA AND WE HAD A TERRRIFICTIME AND I PICKED UP AT THE AIRPORT 10 MINUTES FROM MY HOME AND THE DAY WAS GLORIUS, PURCHASED GREAT TICKETS FOR THE OPERA, HELD HANDS AND I AM SUPER ATTRACTIVE AND V FULL OF LIFE WITH A GORGEOUS BODY AND WE NEVER STOPPED LAUGHING AND HAD SO MUCH FUN. WALKED ALL OVER NEW YORK TOOKL HIM BACK TO THE AIRPORT AND HE SAID I WILL CALL YOU WHEN I ARRIVE HOME. DID NOT CALL. I WROTE A E-MAIL WANTING TO KNOW IF HE ARRIVED SAFELY, AND I HAD SPRAINED MY ANLKE AND HE HAD TO HOLD TO GET INTO THE CAB AND WAS TERRIFIC ABOUT THE ENTIRE SITUATION. HE TOLD ME HE WOULD BE TIED UP FOR THE NEXT FREW WEK-ENDS AND SO WAS I AND HE LIVES IN ALBANY AND WANTED TO KNOW IF IT WAS A PROBLEM. I SAID NOT PROBLEM A ND I WOULD BE HAPPY TO SEE HIM. SO WHAT AM I TO THINK. HE IS SINGLE AND I KNOW THIS FOR A FACT AND WAS LLOKING TO MEET SOMEWON AND ME LIVING IN NEW JERSEY WAS NOT A PROBLEM. HE WANTED TO KNOW ABOUT MY ENTIRE LIFE AND I SAID I HAVE NO CHILDREN, NO FAMILY NO LBAGGAGE AND I AM FREE. WHAT AM I TO DO? I AM MIFFED.
Dear Members, I am starting this blog as a means to obtain your input and assistance on questions I receive from members. Most questions I have a ready answer for, but occasionally, like now, I can use some help and I welcome any comments you might have that would help. In order to protect the privacy of the members, I cannot disclose the usernames. Stay safe and best wishes to you all, Brittany MM Counselor
I have an UNCLE approach: I just wanted to update you on the latest scam going on here. Yesterday I received a wink from a "female" member--naturally I thought this was rather odd, since I am a female, but then I thought perhaps this member might need some help and this was " her" only way to contact me. I emailed her to inquire if there was something I could assist her with, only to get a reply that she had an UNCLE she wanted to fix up and wanted to know if I would be interested in being friends with him-----wow...OF COURSE I WANTED TO BE FRIENDS with this UNCLE! He used the name Frederick Jones and lived in Los, California..(I think that is somewhere between Nigeria and Ghana). We chatted for awhile...of course he was new to this online stuff, he was in the oil biz and was currently in the UK on a contract......well the rest of the story is pretty typical scammer stuff, but this approach was certainly new, so BEWARE!
FYI: The username of the person that winked at me was Iwantahusband and she used the name of Stephanie Sullivan...she has been removed.
Wow...I never expected to receive so many emails asking about this subject, so I have done some research on the subject and have combined that with what should be common sense and this is what I have come up with:
I see a pattern with the unethical practices of blogging here. I acknowledge the fact that a blog on an online dating site is much more informal than perhaps one in the business world but, I think the same rules and ethics should apply. In reality blogging is no different than engaging in conversation with people in real life and bloggers should be shown the same respect as you would show to a friend, co-worker, or a stranger.
Here are a few suggestions that should be followed when blogging regardless of where you are blogging:
Post comments that are related to the blog. If you have something else to say to the author of the blog, email it to them.
If you don't like it, move on. If you don¿t share a blogger's opinion, don't make it your mission to bash his/her blog with your vile personal attacks . MOVE ON!
Rude and childish behavior just because you¿re an anonymous commenter or are behind a pseudonym is unacceptable. As much as good manners is required in the real world, it works the same in the blogsphere.
If you're emotionally riled by a blogger, pause before you hit submit. You might regret what you wrote.
Bear in mind your reputation . Even if you¿re blogging or commenting under a pseudonym, there are possibilities that you will be found out one day. Blogs are not dispensable. Even after you¿ve long deleted that embarrassing photo of your prom night, someone might just be able to dig it up years later on the Wayback Machine, that big bad Internet archive in the sphere.
6. There will always be differing opinions to yours. Remember to always respect other's views and opinions. If you want to share your own, do so in a mature debate. But bear in mind that you don't need to change that person's viewpoint.
If you have anything to add to this, please feel free to comment.