Ok, I am fairly new to this and have been out of the dating world for 12 years. I have never lied to someone about who I am nor do I feel the need to do so. In fact, I would prefer to show my not so perfect features perhaps right away. None of us are perfect. I would rather scare you off immediately then pretend to be someone I am not and waste your time and mine. Life is short and time is not free. Sometimes simple answers are best. Such as, be yourself and find someone who loves you for you and likes you for you. This is what I want. So, I can't figure out why people aren't being honest around here. If you are married..just say so. There is someone for you too. Whatever it is that you are just be honest. How else can you find your soul mate if you are not an honest person? Your word is important. If you say you are going to do something then you should do it. It shows character and class. Anyone agree here?