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WAIT 4 IT.....WAIT 4 IT...... WAIT 4 IT... 296 Views 11/15/15

OKAY, I'm back!!




LAWD... I sure miss all the fun around here... 


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"HOPE"...... The most POWERFUL word 291 Views 11/19/15

If you had to list only a few things you could never live without, what would they be, and why? One date site uses this question for their members in their profile, so I felt I would pose that question as a vessel for conversation. My response is something I feel strongly about, and being I was recently told how "hope" was a weak word, I felt this would be an excellent forum to explain why "hope" is actually the most POWERFUL word there is. When I am done, you will hold a clearer understanding of why my name on here is "HOPE" and why "Hope" is tatted on my ankle. 

People typically answer ..... God, kids, dog, job, cell phone, internet... Well, still waters often run deep in this little blonde brain because those things don't even touch the surface. I HAVE lived without God in my life as well as my children being away for long periods of time. I've lived without love and family at times, but I survived. Don't get me wrong. It wasn't easy, but we can live without almost everything IF we HAD to. 

But, I want to iterate something I find thought provoking. In my 48 years there is ONE THING I cannot live without and this is HOPE. (HOPE is my favorite word, by the way!)

I have known far too many friends who have buried their children. Sadly, friends of mine have placed their babies in the ground. Some at a very young age and others as adults. I cannot imagine any greater loss. In fact, my belief is God only allows the death of a child to happen to the strongest of people. If you have buried your child, my heart bleeds with yours. Know that as a Christian, I feel you are "special" to Him. He has placed you on the highest rolling deck, the same as when He sacrificed His son. But when that day came, and all the days since that excruciating pain anyone who has ever lost a child endures, what has kept them going? HOPE
On a personal level, I have never buried any of my 3 children, (Thank you God!) And some may call me crazy, (and I may have a twinge here and there) but I even have a pact with God. When a girlfriend buried her 23 year old daughter, I felt such intense pain for her despite having never met her daughter, that I made a pact with God then and there. It is my sort of wacky belief I guess, but I truly believe that I will NOT outlive ANY of my children. That keeps me going some days when I am sad and miss them. I know they are safe.  
I have been unemployed, home foreclosed on, lost everything I had several times, clothes included.... knocked down, kicked in the dirt, been in abusive relationships, I've even been basically homeless a couple of times in my life... 
But how did I press forward? 
One word..

People who think about suicide, yet they don't go through with it. WHY? Are they scared? Well, perhaps. But I feel in my heart what keeps them moving forward is somewhere in the back of their mind, they still have HOPE! They have not given UP, so they don't give IN. But the individuals who are successful at taking their own lives? They did so because they lost ALL HOPE! :(
HOPE according to OXFORD is:
A feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen
Did you catch that? Hope is a "feeling." Sadly, people who commit suicide lose the "feeling" that good things will happen in their future.That's why suicide and depression skip together while holding hands with the devil. 

I may not have the "typical answer" for this, but I am not your typical woman. My little blonde brain runs deep... 

So the ONLY thing I could never do without? HOPE
God comes and goes.. Sometimes I feel grounded to Him, other times not so much. Children grow up and move away. Our vehicles get totaled or our house may get foreclosed on... WE SURVIVE.... And WHY?  Because we hold on to that "feeling" things will get better. We hold on to HOPE. 

I guess that's why I still fill out profiles on date sites...
I haven't lost HOPE in my last first kiss....
And the word HOPE tatted on my ankle? It's above a little girl kneeling on a cloud with a lone tear rolling down her cheek. The little girl is praying... Because that is what praying does for me.. Praying brings me HOPE. 
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Will ROC EVER Behave!!! 1069 Views 07/22/15

Just wondering... 


Oh jeez.. We already know the answer!! 






Time to sit in time out again!!!!   ;-) 



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Stepped out of my box! 745 Views 09/06/15

Okay my peeps! I finally did it! I am trying to be more open minded with dating, and this man keeps popping up when I go view winks etc.. (He hasn't winked, but his profile is always at the bottom.) 


 I see his pictures are dated and he is 60? but looks far younger than an average 60 year old..... 

So I see this vision of "sexiness" I keep staring at, so I finally caved!! 


He is many states away.. But none the less, I bit the bullet and 




No, I still would not write a man initially... 

I do feel strongly that is a man's place.. 


BUT... I stepped outside da box at least! 


Oh and even more so...


He's Latin... Now I am really out of the box! (I'm usually only attracted to white men.) 


OH! And he has facial hair?? (I dont usually do that either... but this man is H-O-T!! LOL)

Umm..l Do we use that word when we are middle aged? 


WoW!! My mid life crises has gone full force! LoL.. 


So ladies, I ask you... 


How often do you wink at men? 


And what has been your experience? 



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KNOW YOUR WORTH - To AMBER 638 Views 07/02/15


ambergbay also now known as ASMILELIKEYOURS 


I am bewlidered by the two profiles. If you lost your password, MM will help you with this. 

And if you are trying to reinvent yourself, best wishes! 


AMBER, your pictures are extremely similar, (even from the same day it appears), but you mention in your new profile how you are living with someone who is cheating on you. Should you be seeking anonymity here, you won't find it, as the regulars already know who you are and your pictures are basically the same. 


Anyway, I read your new profile. 


Sorry to hear of your current "love" situation. I realize this is painful for you and you possiby want an outlet to voice your heartbreak.  With a young daughter, the pain is no doubt amplified due to her connection with your boyfriend these past 2 years.  


You seem to hold a serious need to "talk, blog, process" and you have a habit of ignoring others comments and now you have the comments section blocked on your blogs? Perhaps part of the issue is not knowing when one should put down the pen and listen?


Amber, I believe there are all types of reasons and excuses for straying..... People's psyche, not feeling loved, abuse from past, an addicition, a bad habit like smoking, neglected, etc... I'm not saying any excuse is a good one though, but, what I will state is.. 


Don't worry about why someone does something. Spend your time figuring out WHY you allow yourself to be treated this way. That answer will be far more beneficial in the end.


I truly believe that individuals who tolerate cheating as you stated you are, has just as deeply seeded issues as the cheater... 




You have a daughter to raise who needs to see she is worth more... that her mother is worth more... 





Women AND Men!!!


Someone would always write on my other social site page, "Be good to yourself." 


I didn't understand what he meant until it suddenly hit me one day. 



And in order to do this, you must KNOW YOUR WORTH... 


Let go of things and people that take advantage, as this will destroy you and sends your daughter the wrong message. 


Best of wishes your way... 





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For Some, Love is NOT a "Choice." 384 Views 01/21/15

I get asked constantly.... HOW can you STILL be single? It's easy for me.... For me, "love" isn't a choice, or a selection I make. It isn't something I can describe or make guesses at when it's going to happen. Loving, without choice, and without rhyme or reason, is the ONLY way I know how to love a man for a genuine partnership; and that kind of love, is rare. In fact, it is so uncommon, I may never experience it again. It's uncontrollable, happens suddenly, and leaves you twisted in knots. You become irrational, blinded, and in a blink of an eye, can lose all sense of direction. If you have never experienced this, it's difficult to explain. But once you've loved this way, it's difficult to accept love anyway else. It's like passion burst into flames.

I am NOT referring to "honeymoon love," where you blindly miss flaws, and he or she can do no wrong, and you get butterflies and weak in the knees. Most people experience "that" in love. But this is different. It is a love that abundantly sees the wrongs, yet the magnetic pull of chemistry drains every ounce of energy and exhaust you into complete submission to that individual. It is maddening, irresponsible, and totally inconvenient. And at the same time, it becomes irreplaceable. It is inconceivable to love any other way when you have reached this threshold of love.

As time dwindles, and age and wrinkles set in, might I give up on that unexplained, incredible, yet undeniable karmic pull that gravitates me to one lone unsuspecting man, just as shocked as I am, of my feelings? Who, hopefully is drawn to me with the same insatiable, emotional and physical draw romance and erotic industries make billions off of?


It's possible, I suppose. I don't know. I just, "know what I know." It's instant when two people connect and the bond tightens the more time spent together. It's a magnet to steel, a moth to a flame, a bee to pollen....


When dealing with such incredible forces, I can only say, even fireflies are only attracted to certain lights. It isn't just "any" love I yearn. Its a specific love, and its rare. The "pull" can be felt from across a crowded room, before ones even meet; and once the eyes gaze each other, and the first words are spoken, you are memorized, like a fly in a Venus fly trap, or an insect in a spider web. There is no escape, and it isn't by "choice."


As a Princess, children ask me if I know dragons really exist. (Well duh, of course children know I'm a Princess.. I tell them and induct them into my Kingdom.)

I share with them, "Of course dragons really exist. Not because I've actually seen them in front of me, but because I can feel the warmth of his fire, breathing down my neck."

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"HOPE" is ALIVE!!! ;) 177 Views 08/08/13

Hi ALL, 


Quick note to say HELLO!!!!! And let you know all is well... I haven't been able to read all blogs, but have seen several comments regarding people leaving, etc... and saw my name noted.. 


I HAVE NOT LEFT--- Just been very busy packing!!!


I am travelling TODAY, Thursday August 8, back to the BAYOU for "hopeful" employment. I will be working w/ a recruiter and filling out my paperwork for my OS (Ordinary Seaman) certification w/ the USCG. This sudden move was prompted as my housing situation changed this month and I determined seeking another offshore job might suit things best for me right now. The competition is fierce, esp for a woman, but one never knows until they TRY... ;)   


AND YES, THIS WAS A SPONTANEOUS, HARD JOLT THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION OF WHERE I THOUGHT I WAS HEADED! It is a hard life and difficult to work around some of the men.... But it does appear what will be best for me in the long run, so I am extremely hopeful and in POSITIVE spirits about it. 


I have not had much time to read and respond as I am rarely at my computer. I will be settled next week, however, so then I will be able to respond better. I did not wish to promote one or 2 blogs and look like I was favoring anyone, etc... (MY faves KNOW they are my FAVES! LOL)

And in order to respond to newbies, I take time to review their profiles, etc.... 


So it didn't seem right to commit half way! 


I wish I could say I am like BEWELL and I'm out "playing.." 


BUT, I suppose turning from a "real life Princess" to a seawitch... I mean um.... a MERMAID / WATER BABY "IS" kinda like a vacation!


Now where's my pink hard hat! 


Talk soon! 




Hope / Hoping AKA.. Your Princess! ;)





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I'M OFFENDED!!! ;) 504 Views 07/26/13

I just want to state FOR THE RECORD, <------- (always wanted to say that!)




I very much DISLIKE being censored, as it goes against the grain of my core nature as a former writer / advertiser, AND as an American standing for FREE SPEECH ... 


Any writer, blogger, author, who deems censorship "acceptable," goes AGAINST the very vein our society is backed on! 




There is a certain "decorum" successful authors and bloggers have with one another, and this behavior does NOT constitute going to a blogger and whining to them about what someone else posts on their blog they are not responsible for! I saw where this has occurred here and it is WRONG!



1) If someone holds issue with something LIVNLOV or anyone else has posted, contact the person who has offended you directly, not the author of the blog! TRUST ME-- LIV, and most of us can handle your criticism, and will do so with class!


2) To be sooooo offended by what someone states, so much you want to "whine" about it, is acting like a whiny baby! Pick your bottle up and MOVE ALONG, and start acting as an adult! If you can't handle being an adult--- stop playing in Olympic size areas and head back to the kiddie pool! 


3) If the people would QUIT CENSORING and BLOCKING others, stand up and act like an adult and RESPOND to questions when asked, none of these things would happen. Oddly, the person who no one should be contacting regarding other people's comments on their blog, is the one who "set the playing field" for CENSORSHIP.... Additionally, the blog refers to JUDGING OTHERS! LOL... 


Guess it goes to show.... 




**Disclaimer... I would have posted this on that blog, but, ummm.... 

I've been censored for some time now... 

*Scooby Snickers......


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NOT GUILTY---- 404 Views 07/13/13



Hope there are no riots...


And regardless anyone's views, I hope no one seeks retaliation on ZIMMERMAN.. Our Justice system remains very flawed; but, it is one we must abide by.


May Trayvon's parent's find PEACE, regardless of any truths that may or may not be reflected in this verdict...

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Where is BEWELL??? 137 Views 07/10/13

Anyone heard from BEWELL lately? 


She is "later than late" for her blog this month.... 

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ALL About..... NOTHING 1555 Views 01/22/13

I would like to formally WELCOME YOU, (the backbone of this community,)

to the Official MM Blog ….


YEP! You heard me right! A BLOG…… ALL about ……. NOTHING!


You see, in this BLOG, you will find absolutely everything there is …. about
NOTHING! No relevant information, no worthy articulations, no quotations,
explanations or even revelations… You will find NO facts, NOTHING of importance and
certainly if it is a hot topic of today…. YOU WON’T FIND IT HERE!!

In this room you will find exactly what was promised to be delivered…. NOTHING!

In fact, this blog is so fire proof, it can’t even be Hi-jacked!

Yes MM Regulars who go around Hi-Jacking blogs as if they were a criminal searching
for a car on a dark Detroit street… (OH you know who you are!!)

Now I am not one to mention names here CURIOUS, FISHY, Lady DI, DAKOTA….

Why I would never wish to tattle on my compadres.. ;)

But you see, IT DOESN’T MATTER!

You can’t Hi-Jack something previously established to hold no relevance!

I admit it. This blog means NOTHING!

People, you may not realize this, but this blog is the sheer work of a genius!!!! ;)

Additionally, even should you choose to post here…. Your words will mean…

That’s right!!! NOTHING!

There is NOTHING you can say here that will ever even matter!




Your words mean NOTHING!


BEAUTIFUL.... If I may say so myself!! **Takes a Princess bow...


In a world where we are filled with the musings of others who find their chatter so
“Blameless” and “Admirable,” I felt it was time to just talk… ALL ABOUT NOTHING!!!

Want to argue over POLITICS? That’s the other blog! Here? You get NOTHING! Want to
step on the pulpit for RELIGION? That’s a whole bunch of other blogs! Here, you get
NOTHING!! Want to talk about stuff that truly matters? That’s about 5 other blogs!!
Got a problem you want off your chest? See a shrink! Here, we Do NOTHING, Mean


However, on the lighter side…… if you are one of those who has grown tired of all
the feuding, being blocked by others, having your comments or blogs deleted or
you’re just plain sick of all the non-fun and judgmental chatter….



IN FACT…. WE DON’T WANT IT!! We didn’t ask for it and should you be so bold as to
give it to us....It won’t matter, because, quite frankly, your comments mean ……
What’s the word I’m seeking???? NOTHING!!

And not to worry everyone! The Princess has ample experience in doing NOTHING!

And I’d venture many of you may not even know the true beauty of doing NOTHING …

The more you do NOTHING… The easier it becomes!!

In fact, one can “master” NOTHING in a relatively short amount of time if they
really set their focus on, um…....NOTHING!

So let’s get started!!!! With NOTHING!

Now let me direct you to my secretary and town “Certified” (She’s CERTIFIABLE ALL
RIGHT!! LOL) Vegetarian Veterinarian / “Bat Woman,” whose words mean NOTHING to me
as well! I only keep her around because. honestly, she has some pretty good jokes,
she loves animals and I pay her absolutely NOTHING to do absolutely NOTHING and
receive absolutely NOTHING in return!! Some might consider that a waste of precious
time, I however, feel it’s kind of a Win-Win if you are thinking on the Positive
side of your brain!

WINDY! WINDY!! Where are you? Are you here yet, WINDY? Earth calling WINDY!!!
(She’s probably flying around on that old broom of hers!)


Jeez… I don’t think she made it! I swear… You just can’t get good help nowadays!!
Seems people are always wanting ….... SOMETHING for NOTHING!

I’LL BE BACK! Princess leaves singing the theme song, appropriately titled,

NOTHING FROM NOTHING by Mr. Billy Preston…

“Nothing from nothing leaves nothing.. .. Ya gotta have something to be with me.. “
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~~Columbia, in MOURNING....~~ 70 Views 05/25/13

At a time when most teenagers are joyous and anxiously awaiting their upcoming graduation in a week or so; Columbia, South Carolina is mourning many losses. Tonight, the community weeps over the loss of an aspiring youth, the loss of a family intact, and the loss of what could have, but, will never be.

A young man, whom I won’t mention by name, was driving in the wee hours of the morning with two passengers. The 18 year old driver hit a legally parked car, afterwards hitting several trees; the final tree stopping the vehicle he was responsible for driving. All three young men were properly wearing seat belts, yet only two will ever live to speak of the crash.

The 18 year old young man was driving while intoxicated and now sits in a cold lonely jail cell, facing felony DUI charges. I can only surmise, when this young man returns from the “cloud of shock” he must float in, he will be begging it had been “his life” that was taken instead of his mourning the life of his 16 year old younger brother he was taught to protect. The boys shared the same high school, the same parents, and the same family life--- but now, will not share the many years, or roads, they had ahead of them, together. It is said, in most cases, a sibling is the longest formed relationship we will ever keep.

This will NOT hold true for this young man.

Regardless of age, intelligence, experience, intentions, or how much LOVE one has in their heart for others; please be reminded, sadly, once again…..


There are many who will remain in mourning over the long and usually happy weekend. Many will remain heartbroken throughout graduation next week, all days throughout summer, and now, there is a family residing in Columbia that will never, ever, be the same.

There is also one young man who sits alone behind bars tonight, scared, hating himself and in tremendous anguish, over just how stupid he was. We may not all plague the same sins; but I guarantee, we’ve all “been stupid” at one time or another. This young man has just taken and will now pay the highest price. THE PRICE OF A LIFE HE CHERISHED…  for a LIFETIME of GUILT….


May this young man, who must grow up rapidly now, and his family, come to terms with the devastating reality, loss and devastation this young man must now face; and may they heal from the inside out. Responsibilities for his actions take presence now. I pray the young man’s parents find it in their hearts to stand by their son during this painful, senseless and PREVENTABLE tragedy; and may they all come out stronger and more tightly bound.  

Before people throw stones at this young man, whom I needn’t meet to understand his pain, may we remember ABOVE ALL ELSE; the anger, heartache, confusion or any undetermined flood of emotions anyone feels at such a senseless tragedy is NOTHING IN COMPARISON, to the pain he feels now and will feel for the remainder of his life.

May all affected, find healing within…..

Be safe out there everyone, and if you have teens, or perhaps a friend or you yourself, need a reminder? Take a moment and breathe in the heartache, allow it to resonate and perhaps redefine your thoughts, and then let it go.


And remember,,,,,,


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~Common Sense Profile Tips~ 70 Views 05/18/13

With the recent blogs regarding WHAT men and women are SEEKING with online dating, I thought I would share a little COMMON SENSE approach versus research. 


As a former advertising executive, I will stake this claim...


One doesn't need statistics, a degree, or a background in advertising to figure these things out. Stats are often skewed, as many people lie on the questionnaires as well as lie to themselves about what they seek.  Many people, as we have witnessed in our experience, don't appear to know WHAT or WHOM they seek, while there are those who are very self-aware of their desires due to their experiences. These self aware individuals might be considered "fault finders" by the insecure or negative daters because they reject someone due to a personality or physical attribute they do not seek. In reality, they know this aspect of the individual will NOT suit their needs, so they weed them out.  


Here's some EASY, COMMON SENSE TIPS from an ADVERTISING perspective.




MEN ARE VISUAL CREATURES... especially at first viewing. (Regardless of how much we want to "make them" admire our minds. LOL)  They do not turn their heads on the street and think, "WOW! I sure bet that woman is SMART! I want to meet her!"       


 POST SEVERAL DECENT PHOTOS OF YOURSELF MAKING CERTAIN THEY ARE AN ACCURATE DEPICTION OF WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE NOW and reveal your personality! I do NOT recommend tons of "Glamour" shots, as he may be disappointed when you meet. Most of us do not look like a Glamour shot every day! You also need a couple of photos to show your "figure" as well. This does not mean everyone needs to throw on a a bikini. It means make sure you have a couple of RECENT FULL LENGTH SHOTS to display your body size and type! It has been my personal experience with over 13 years of on/off online dating, WEIGHT has been the biggest issue for men. Use FACIAL SHOTS ONLY w/ NO SHADES, etc. for your INITIAL profile photo! This allows them to see your FACE, versus those who put far away pictures when they peruse profiles by the hundreds! If they can't see you well, they are NOT likely to click on you. There are too many other women. (or men) 


If I had a dollar for every man who has told me they have met numerous women who were 20/30 lbs heavier than their photos suggested, I'd have a bank full of money. Many men have told me numerous women have used old photos and they did not even recognize them when they met! 


This is FRAUDULENT advertising and you do all women a disservice when you do this! IT'S DECEITFUL AND IT'S A LIE! 


And speaking of LYING... I advise everyone STOP putting you are many years younger than you are for SEVERAL reasons.


1)  Guess what? Chances are, YOU LOOK YOUR AGE, (or close to it) regardless what you think.  


2) Your lack of honesty and justifying it by saying you think men will not pull up your profile, only confirms your own lack of maturity with dating as well as your own insecurities. This deceitful  behavior is a reflection on YOU, not men. 


3) Men who are SERIOUS daters, seeking a GENUINE CONNECTION, may look at women a bit younger, and even "look" at women MUCH younger... Because THAT'S WHAT MEN DO... THEY LOOK! But SERIOUS MEN SEEKING A RELATIONSHIP also LOOK AT WOMEN THEIR AGE!  


4) If men DON'T look at women THEIR own age, they are more likely than anyone else you date to scoop you liars up and use you, and then toss you to the curb when they are done. And WHY?  Because they WANT SOMEONE YOUNGER and never respected you for lying to them!


5) The most VITAL reason to be truthful? Men seeking a genuine connection "require" AND "deserve," .....................HONESTY! 


Lastly, DATE YOUR PHOTOS!! (Men AND Women!) 




If you do not wish to have a woman salivating over your "toys" versus you, and you complain of Gold Diggers? STOP POSTING YOURSELF ON YOUR YACHT while standing 100 feet from the camera in your shades where we can't see your face! And if you don't want a woman to ogle over your money, why is every picture posed with some exuberant $$$ toy! This is akin to a woman only posing in her bikini saying, "I just can't understand why he can't see I'm also smart!" 


UH..... DUH???????? 


Further, I have met men who have grossly lied about their age and placed very old photos on their profile without displaying the "REAL" them. They were heavier, had no hair, (or very little,) and looked far older than they portrayed.  So know this men....... 


While I understand your dilemma with women, I want you to know, there ARE women like me who DESPISE the liars on both sides of this "FRAUDULENT FENCE!" 


Every party involved in "FRAUDULENT CONDUCT"  with online dating is partially responsible for the "Lying Stigma" that goes along with it. So you women that complain because a man fudges his income? Suck it up sweetie if you are one of those who "think" you look soooo much younger than you really are and "fudge" by a few years on your profile. 


ALL THE LIARS ARE A DISGRACE! And one lie to one individual may mean little, but means a lot to someone else. IE: IF it is true men are less caring about a woman's income than women are of a man's. Well, what if the man uses the analogy of, "Well, I will just fudge the numbers here a little on my income. I LIVE like I make that much!" Well, that is THE SAME analogy as a woman fudging "a little" on her age justifying she looks younger than other women her age. 


If we start "justifying" our own lies to skew the numbers, we darn well can't judge a man when he skews HIS numbers. So everyone should JUST STOP LYING! 


In a sense, as ORLANDO states in another blog in the forum section, PEOPLE ATTRACT THEMSELVES. Well, they do on at least ONE LEVEL. Educated individuals seek a date or mate who appears educated. I've never dated a doctor, lawyer, or anyone with a higher education who desires a woman who fails to articulate herself well. Therefore, if you seek a man or woman with an education, your best hopes are to speak properly, write your profiles fluently, and portray the more refined elements of your personality.


"I ain't never met no cardiologist out there seeking Honey Boo Boo's family!" LOL...


And lastly, the attention you place in your profiles is indicative of the attention you will place on the individuals viewing them. If a man places little thought to his profile, I come to the conclusion this is about as little thought as he will place on me when dating. Your profile is an "advertisement" to find a mate; so take pride in it, and make it count! 

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Our friend WINDY is having an issue when she logs on to MM. 


She LOGS IN---- 


Then her CHAT page pulls up, (She never uses chat, BTW) But, if she doesn't click out of it before it downloads, everything freezes up and she has to shut off her computer. 


I recommended she DL a new browser. She contacted MM and they advised the same thing. 


She DL Chrome and it deactivated Norton and it changed other settings. 




H-E-L-P you computer geeks!!



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Do we GAMBLE w/ each other's hearts? 185 Views 07/30/11

I’ve had several short term relationships in life which has left me to wonder. Are we all just gambling with each other’s hearts and when we lose, we simply move to a different playing table? I often think if we could just shake the dice a little differently, or use different chips; then perhaps we might all WIN at love?




After reviewing many "dating profiles" and engaging myself in conversation with others, I notice it isn’t only the women who seem to be disgruntled with dating. It also appears men are growing just as tired of the revolving door “love” seems to swing in everyone’s direction.




My question is…. If we gamble with other people’s hearts all the time, does this mean we are gambling with our own? At the end of the day do we even have much “heart” left in us, or have we been so used like the chips swept away at the table after a big loss, there is nothing left? Is the risk worth the price we pay?




Gambling, like many other hobbies becomes an addiction to many. Some people lose houses and families in the mist of their “fetish for thrill” never to return to their previous lives. I wonder, does this happen to some of us on a major quest for love? Are we capable of “losing all bets”....  forever, resolving our hearts never to receive the love we once desired so strongly? Perhaps our energy has been so consumed and absorbed during the process; there will one day be nothing left to give? Is this humanly possible? Is this what makes some people appear so damn unlovable and bitter? Were they at one point on such a fervor for love they have finally “lost” so many times, they remain in the mire like an addict who can’t make his way off the streets?




I just wonder.. If we are all so busy “gambling with other people's hearts”, at the end of the day, where does that leave our own?

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~~ BEST WISHES TO ALL in 2013 ~~ 285 Views 12/31/12

Just want to wish everyone a WONDERFUL NEW YEAR!!  ;)


I am a firm believer if we set our focus on the the bad things in our life, we will find nothing but the negative.. 


And if we seek out the good qualities, we will find ourselves surrounded by the positive... 


I feel the same way about people.


We all have our flaws and weaknesses; but if we seek out the "goodness" in others, we can surely find something positive they may have to offer. Make the decision to find the POSITIVE in EVERYTHING! 


There is nothing stronger than the human mind, and we are what we feed it.





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Sad day for our Country 726 Views 12/14/12

♥♥♥ It is a sad moment in time when little innocent lives are so viciously taken. There simply is not, nor will there ever be, an explanation for something so heinous to occur. I am just reading of this horrific tragedy and just hours ago I was in a Catholic Cathedral praying for my own children's lives, though I am admittedly not Catholic. (I feel God hears regardless of religious preference. ) Tomorrow I will head back to the same spot and pray more fervently for those who have lost what they held most precious in their lives. GOD BLESS ALL THOSE SHAKEN BY THIS TRAGEDY AND MAY HE COMFORT THOSE IN THEIR SORROW.. ♥♥♥

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Nine Lives??? 497 Views 12/24/12

Dear MM Bloggers,


If you have "Survived" yet ANOTHER "End Of The World"...... Please contact your Princess here and inform me of your status!! I'm "HOPING" Everyone is okay!! ;)


When I was a little girl, my mother was convinced by her JW "cult," the end of the world was coming on a certain day in 1975. Incredibly, I SURVIVED this "END" @ the ripe young age of 8!! (Can you imagine the FEAR I felt living as a child thinking I was going to die? And "Armageddon" in their eyes was to be a horrific death!! And if I recall, there were some issues with Russia at the time and I just knew I was going to be blown up by nuclear bombs because my mother always had the news on!!) Now maybe you know why I dislike following politics and history... I was convinced my house would be raided just like Hitler did with the Jews.. and I was taught I was not allowed to "fight back," as killing was "wrong." Jeez.. Thinking about it, it's a wonder I am half sane people!! LOL... 


Additionally, I will have you know, I Survived when the calendar changed for 2000 and the World was to shut down. In fact, I was on my computer at exactly midnight to "unplug it" in case it started acting wierd! BWahahahahaha!! (Oh, and I didnt have money in the bank.. Not because I was worried over the Millenium changing my wealth status..... but I preferred my $7.56 be on my person!) 


And now I awoke to see I have "Survived" once again... 




So if any of you have "Survived," please hit me up! I feel like I am in that Will Smith movie seeking Survivors. Hope I don't start speaking to manicans! People already look at me oddly when I talk to myself at Wal-Mart... 


Well, I survived and I wanted to let you guys know! Your Princess is safe and sound.. in Columbia.. That's South Carolina folks, not the country! HeeHee~~




Now where did I hide my crown? (I didn't want anyone to take it in case I was invaded, so I hid it!) Bwahahahahaha! 



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~~Dear Agnostic / Atheist Bloggers~~ 41 Views 12/31/12

HI My Agnostic and Atheist friends!!!!




SO MUCH dissension has been created lately directly reflecting on the opposing views of Christians VS. Atheist... Rather than fight, I prefer "Understanding" and "Acceptance" of others views. Therefore I wish to pose a question for my own personal enlightenment....




For the individuals who do NOT believe Jesus is our Savior, do you celebrate Christmas? As I was growing up, I was not "allowed" to celebrate ANY holidays, or my birthday; so when I left home, I started celebrating EVERYTHING I could! It was a huge deal when I purchased my first Christmas tree and although I only recently "accepted" Jesus, I STILL celebrated Christmas, (NOT even knowing what the meaning behind it was) So I bought my children presents, listened to the music etc. I did this although I was agnostic until I was in my 40's, because I wanted my children to "be normal" and "fit in"; the things I never felt when I was young and as a bonus, it was "fun!" WHO DOESN'T LIKE GETTING PRESENTS! ;)




So, do you, as a non-believer celebrate Christmas and put up a tree and buy gifts etc? Or do you tell your children you don't believe in Jesus as being God's son, so you omit the holiday? I mean, Christmas IS about Jesus.... But I celebrated for years despite no real understanding of the celebration.




AND, does being Agnostic or Atheist affect any other holidays like Easter? I know many Christians who are against Halloween. (I am not one of them... I use it to play "dress up!") 




I know the Jewish community believes Jesus existed, and was a great man; just not the son of God. Does the Jewish faith believe Jesus was resurrected? If so, do they celebrate Easter as the resurrection of Jesus? One thing I have noted that I admire of the Jewish faith is "acceptance of others!" (Except for marriage! LOL) 


Anyway, I was not "allowed" the freedom to explore such things as a child. I wasn't even allowed friends in the outside world. I've never explored these issues and I am not one who will go all crazy if someone doesn't feel the way I do, so I thought I might ask what others believe. I do not feel we are all to believe in Jesus. I mean, it SAYS SO in that thing we call THE BIBLE, so why would I ever argue with someone about it? 




So if anyone wishes to enlighten me here, please do. NOTE: This is NOT a debate on God! I think we've all had enough of that! I merely am asking how holidays such as Christmas affects non-believers. 




I respect the right for everyone to hold and share their own views. In fact, I expect it! As a Christian, the Bible tells me not everyone will believe the same as I do. I didn't even believe as I do until I was 41! Therefore I feel  it is "innapropriate" trying to convince anyone to believe as I believe by typing words on a keyboard. I am more an action girl. Fighting over beliefs is stupid in my eyes. I also find that type behavior to be disrepectful to others, regardless their belief. If anyone becomes nasty, or is disrespectful, I will exercise my right to delete and possiby block members. 




































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Release the BILE.... 270 Views 12/17/12

There was a little boy who loved the New York Giants, and another little boy who might have been the worlds best mechanic one day. No doubt some of the little girls were "tomboys", while others only wore frilly dresses and draped themselves in their mothers scarves and shoes. An NYPD Lieutenant lost his nephew in the shooting. One mother lost her "Emilie".... (I am blessed to still have mine....)




I read the Principal lost her life in trying to defend the children and herself. One teacher was said to have locked her entire classroom in an adjoining bathroom where she could not fit. She had the children crammed in so tightly some were standing in the toilet. She left them locked safely, only to lose her own life. One janitor went around to the classrooms to make sure the doors were locked from the inside to keep the children safe. He was gunned down heniously in the hall. I guess he should have hidden. (Not really.) 




Ironically, we think of our "HEROES" in the military, but we have true American Heroes all around us. Remember the Pennsylvania field? 




In light of this tragic event, I personally am requesting we all try a little harder to be accepting and loving toward one another and empower ourselves with a little more resolve to make a difference in each other's lives, not hinder one another's growth. There is enough "filth" in the air not to add to the mixture. 




Perhaps some of us have dealt with our own nastiness in our personal lives. I think it is time to "let that go." 




Take a moment and reflect inside yourselves. What is important to you? Is it really to have the last word in that argument, or to not be the one at fault? If those things are what matter to you, you may need a huge reality check. If there is one thing I am good at teaching, it is realism. I've laid on my death bed with my own little Emily screaming while holding onto her daddy's leg, "What's wrong with my mommy!!" The fright in her voice was so loud, I think the emergency walls shook! She was the age of many of the slain children, the innocent age of six. Turned out her mommy had massive peritinitis and almost died from all the bile being absorbed in my body. POISON KILLS.... It appears your colon really serves a major purpose and needs to be free of holes!! ;) Two weeks later, I was released from the hospital wearing a "crap bag" and held a new "bag of anger" for God, if there was one, (I was agnostic at the time) and I faced a whole new set of anger in life. It took 6 months for the bag to be reversed and a hell of a lot longer for the scars to start healing. I am speaking "emotional," as the visible scars will always remain. It is events, as this tragedy teachers now refer to "their 9-11", that carry me back and serve as a reminder as to what is truly important in life. 




It isn't having the last word, or winning an argument or everyone taking your side. The truth of the matter is, "releasing the venom," the bile that seeps inside us... THAT is what matters most. We are of no good to others while carrying around a bag of "hatred." The survivors of this tragedy have a difficult road ahead. The bumpy road to "FORGIVENESS..." I think this is what most people miss who are Christians. I don't see God "forgives us" for "us".... He "FORGIVES" us for Himself! Otherwise, He'd have to carry a mighty heavy load for all the sins we "willingly" commit. Let those of us who believe, pray for Strength to HEAL... 




"Father I pray all the individuals involved and extended in this massacre get the help they need to move forward without holding on to the venom that must flood their veins right now. Help these babies and the community to heal in a healthy manner. Hatred is a strong emotion and I can only imagine the anger they must feel toward this young man, his family, life, and possibly You. As you know, hatred is truly a nasty noose we place around our own neck. Allow no one to steal their JOY for the rest of their fleshly lives. Bitterness is a nasty seed to sow. Help these survivors to recognize this and to embrace "forgiveness" in order to thrive peacefully in life. Anyone with half common sense should recognize forgiveness isn't about the other party... it is about extending ourselves in order to heal properly. It is "Agape Love." But I guess I know this better than most, don't I Father? I already feel I know where the slain are Father, so I speak not for them. I request You blanket those who still feel the pain, including the shooters remaining family and loved ones. In Jesus name I pray. Amen."

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