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Not sure that I belong here... Posted on Jul 12, 2012 at 04:37 PM

I'm new to this site. I joined this week... and made the commitment to be a full member ('cause I'm an in-for-a-penny, in-for-a-pound kinda girl). II've met some wonderful men through internet dating... but haven't met a keeper. My girlfriend just recently met a marvelous, quality gentleman through MM... so here I am, following in her footsteps.


So why don't I feel that I belong? Bear with me...


My upbringing was solid middle class. I grew up in beautiful Northern NJ to 2 working parents, 1 car and a split-level house on a 1/4 of an acre. Solid - nothing fancy - but my folks raised me to work HARD, save my money, only buy quality items and to believe in myself. I got a good degree (which my folks paid for - I'll be forever grateful for that) and began my working career. I was doing well - making 2x my age, zero debt and rocketing up when I met (and later married) my now ex-husband.


He was someone a lot like me - he scrimped and saved - came from a mill town in Rhode Island - got an excellent education and up the ladder he/we went. The money came and we saved it. And saved it. We lived below our means - never flashy - but for a nice house in a good school district...


I digress - you don't care to hear my live story: sorry!


So flash forward to today: I'm divorced now over 4 years. No drama with my ex. Own my own home, cars and stuff. I am a stay at home mom. I really am the girl next door... except that I don't need Prince Charming to come and "save" me.


Dating is difficult. Men either see me as a meal ticket: Ding! Next... Or they are very uncomfortable with me having more stuff/whatever than they do and the relationship dissolves quickly. Or they have as much money/stuff/whatever as I do (or more) but they have egos the size of Montana and entitlement issues to match. (My apologies to the denizens of lovely Montana...)


I'm here looking for my equal. A man whose motives I won't doubt. But all I seem to see here are men looking for a sugar momma... workaholic guys looking for arm candy ... or guys with the ego/keep-up-with-the-Joneses attitude. I've been there, done that (my ex was the last two) and I don't want that any more.


I realize that you don't have to be a millionare to be here... it is just a hook, really. But how do I find a good man... a man who leads a balanced life... who has his own money and doesn't covet mine...


Do I belong here? Should I stay?



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50 Shades of Grey ~ D/s Posted on Jul 12, 2012 at 01:47 PM

I'm about half way through the first book... and am completely fascinated with the unfolding relationship and mutual seduction evolving between Ana and Christian. Both sexy and troublesome...


Who else is reading this? Are you comfortable with the D/s material? Are you attracted to this as a  voyouer or to revisit your own past?