I'm thinking of the blog titles I've seen concerning "What do you do when you find Love". I haven't read them all but have my own thoughts of what one should do...
I subscribed to this site with no real expectations except to gain a few friends. Within a short period of time, I've been fortunate enough to have met and accumulate many wonderful friends. My regrets are my email and wink queue is so long that I'll never be able to respond to everyone...all the potential possibilities...in the end there can only be one...
My lifestyle is too busy to nurture a loving relationship (so I thought :-D). It's amazing how your most adamant priorities change when you find love. When you meet someone and just the thought of them evokes thoughts of changing your career path; everything everyday brings thoughts of being with them or experiences shared; you feel their presence every waking moment; you're enveloped in their essence ~ such a euphoria that you keep a smile even as you lay down to sleep :-D.
How often do you meet someone where there's instant chemistry, fireworks so bright at the first touch that you're blinded; everything so natural as if we've known each other forever.
Well, I've found that love in September1998. She's charming; intelligent; enchanting; sensual and all those qualities I'd dream to find in a woman. I smile as I think, September was on the site about nine months before I joined; man, did you guys miss out (LOL).
One last point. Many have inquired what I do for a living that requires my travel to all corners of the world. I've received many incorrect assumptions. Since I'm terminating my membership and we shall never meet again unless in a crowded airport somewhere and even then, you'll probably recognize September before I... I work for the Department of State as a Foreign Service Information Officer. I travel under a diplomatic passport (as does my children). The past four years have been with the Secretary's Advance Travel Team. I started with Powell, then continued with Rice. I normally live and work overseas at the US Embassies/Consulates/Missions/US Interests or Offices (Ssshhhhh :-D).
With that, I bid my farewell. I'm no longer interested in the blogs. I've tried the chats but they are misinterpreted as flirting. The last thing I would want is to put either of us in a compromising situation leading to mistrust. So, I came, I saw, I got my woman...
Best regards and I wish the very best in your search for love and happiness.
I just read a blog by cateyes71 (90 days and counting.....) that was so very inspirational; thanks for sharing and I think your devotion and personal dedication is admirable. After reading her blog, a Luther Vandross song entered my thoughts: I'd Rather (I pulled the lyrics):
I thought sometime alone was what we really needed you said this time would hurt more than it helps but I couldn't see that I thought it was the end of a beautiful story and so I left the one I loved at home to be alone (alone) and I tried to find out if this one thing is true that I'm nothing without you I know better now and I've had a change of heart
CHORUS: I'd rather have bad times with you, than good times with someone else I'd rather be beside you in a storm, than safe and warm by myself I'd rather have hard times together, than to have it easy apart I'd rather have the one who holds my heart whoo-oo-oo-oo yeah
And then I met someone and thought she could replace you we got a long just fine we wasted time because she was not you we had a lot of fun though we knew we were faking love was not impressed with our connection they were all lies, all lies so I'm here cause I found this one thing is true that I'm nothing without you I know better now and I've had a change of heart
I can't blame you if you turn away from me, like I've done you, I can only prove the things I say with time, please be mine,
REPEAT CHORUS 2X
I'd rather have the one who holds my heart I'd rather have the one who holds my heart whoooo.....who holds my heart
So what happens when you decide to graze in greener pastures but later discover it was all a facade or not what you thought at all. Do you:
1. Turn back on bend and knee like Luther because you now realize that what you had was much better and hope for reconciliation 2. Go on cruise control to give yourself the opportunity to regroup 3. Immediately move to another pasture while you're hot (LOL)
I've found that initial career decisions are often based on emotions rather than being financially lucrative. I've spoken to more than a few college students that made their career choice based on a dramatic event ocurring earlier in life that prompted or motivated them to want to change the world (so to speak).
The same holds true for community service. I've always been an advocate of giving back to the community in whatever way you can. My motivation comes from having men mentors as I was growing up; each in his own way took ownership in giving me guidance along the way.
Today, I always find a way to give back; woman and child abuse being my primary crusade. Depending on my geographical location, it could be reading to elementary school kids; teaching advanced adult night school, assisting with feeding the homeless; door to door solicitation for voter registration, Cub Scout Master...on and on and on... Two years ago, I started carrying an additional suitcase (not for shopping -smile). I started collecting the hotel's toiletry items to bring back and give to homeless shelters.
Everyone has a personal crusade...
If you do a type of Community Service (other than making a financial contribution) how do you give of your time to give back to society? What makes this so important to you?
OK, so I've joined this site to possibly meet the woman of my dreams or least a good hang out partner. Admittedly, I'm accumulating a lot of friendships. But what about romance... I've been studious in looking at what might work for my male counterparts and reading intently woman's responses to what they're looking for. I'm ready to take my plunge...I send a wink and get a response.
Guys and girls (without giving up your trade secrets); what works for you? What has one said in an email that just stops you in your tracks; something that is so irresistable that you just have to respond immediately; something that touched you emotionally and moved you beyond words...
For the romance authors, what has been effective for you (you can send me an email if you don't want to reveal it in the blog and I'll repost it without your name or keep it mum).
I know there's a lot of succes stories out there, so give it up :-D.
A couple of years ago I attended the World Economic Forum in Davos, Switzerland.
President Clinton accompanied by his daughter was there to give a presentation. Both are very personable with that neighbor next door attitude.
This blog is about an eventful evening when he was returning to his suite. I witnessed as he and Chelsea made their way down a corridor greeting people along the way. Everyone was pleased and honored to meet him as he paused ocassionally to chat.
Mr. Clinton approached a young lady (US Government Employee) in greeting and extended his hand with a warm smile. The young lady refused to shake his hand and burst into a tirade of expletives. Of course she was removed from the floor and has not been seen since (LOL).
My point though and your thoughts...she has a right to voice her personal opinion no matter who the person might be; right or wrong. She probably would still be employed if she used a little more tact.
If you think she was correct in her audacious approach ~ please explain why.
If you think she was wrong ~ What could have been done better (smile).
I may be severely limiting my possibilities by posting this here but I'm sure there are a few guys out there with the same circumstance...and what better place to get advice.
I have plenty of good parenting skills (I think) and attempt to set a good example. I even taught a few years during my second career. My kids have mostly resided outside of the US attending International Schools. They are well mannered and exhibit expected behaviors for their age (10 & 12 - girl & boy). We have a good life - I think (smile).
I can always use and are willing to accept advice from all credible sources.
I don't want to make them the subject of my blog but instead solicit your your thoughts, experiences, and/or advice concerning being a single dad. Comments from men & woman are welcomed.